Why do guys bring their girlfriends to tournaments?

[4% APR]

We all know that girls are a rarity in any gaming community.

In the Smash community some girls like to come because they love the game. Some girls come because they know that they will get attention just from being there.

But what I cant wrap my head around is why a guy would bring his girlfriend with him to a tournament. If I was a girl I would imagine that the last thing I would want to do is come watch a bunch of sweaty, smelly random guys play an old video game in a cramped and crowded room with a lack of chairs for hours at a time.

I get that our girls want to bond with us, and might want to do what we want to do from time to time. They might even tag along just because they want to spend time with us, even if they may not have our full attention. But overall, a tournament is one of the last places I would wanna take my girl if I had a choice. Its just not a good place for a date.

Anyone else agree/disagree?

I know someone just like this....

 

[Nicole]

They bring thier girlfriends just because they can. Is there really a probelm with that? I mean I definintely would want someone there that (Hopefully) loves me and would like to support me in what my interests are. It's like inviting your family/friends/girlfriend to a basketball game you're going to be in. You want them there for moral support.

People really have to start looking at the professional gamming commnity as they would a sport.

It's not like a sport.

Sports are more interesting and exciting to people that don't know anything about them than a video game is. Sports also last about 2 or 4 hours. Video game tournaments last about 12 hours at MINIMUM.

How bored would your girlfriend be "giving her support" for a whole freakin' day? Sitting around watching nerds play a game that the girl doesn't even know anything about and probably can't make heads or tails of.

That being said, I'm a girl with a boyfriend and I go to tournaments. Unfortunately for the point of this topic, my boyfriend doesn't BRING me to tournaments. I just like to go.

 

[Bowzurrr]

Girls become sexually excited when exposed to supreme smash skillz. FACT

 

[Inui]

I think DSF has won tournaments with his girlfriend like PC Chris did in Melee, lol...

 

[GSUB]

Nah...

My girl comes because she wants to.
She gets sad when she can't make it to one.
It's something new and exciting. And most everyone loves to play SSB, it's just a naturally fun game.

I never force her, she wants to get good too. She's a bit of a gamer, but not hardcore AT ALL.
She doesn't want attention or anything. And if she wants to leave at any point, she will. She has friends that she can go to. we're not dependent on one another. It's just cool being together.

And a lot of the people within the community are very funny and personable, and she's not anti-social or anything, she can find new friends and people to talk to if I'm busy, or she'll support me, even if I lose, which I tend to do.

 

[The Irish Mafia]

Kevin I just realized me and questor were inches away from top ten at MM16

he isn't so bad after all
neither am I

 

[Dominic]

Personaly i think generaly bringing a girlfriend to a tournement would be one of the stupidest thing a guy could ever do could ever do.

You need some time to relax away from the girl. obviously this might not be important if you see her like twice a week
But my biggest argument is the folowing. If you have multiple hobby like smash and she does not want to listen about it, since its so geeky, its very good when you want to go have fun with other girls, you can always say i have a tournement. Just don't forget to bring your controller

Now when you come back, she will likely not ask very many question on how was your day

 

[Rappster]

those of you who have gf(or bf)s as doubles partners, y'all started as a couple and then moved to smash, right?

 

[soap]

Personaly i think generaly bringing a girlfriend to a tournement would be one of the stupidest thing a guy could ever do could ever do.

You need some time to relax away from the girl. obviously this might not be important if you see her like twice a week
But my biggest argument is the folowing. If you have multiple hobby like smash and she does not want to listen about it, since its so geeky, its very good when you want to go have fun with other girls, you can always say i have a tournement. Just don't forget to bring your controller

Now when you come back, she will likely not ask very many question on how was your day

loooool

i pretend to go smash all the time for doing all kinds of things

as for the topic, i would never bring a girl to a tourney

she would have to check the boards and find it herself

i dont want to entertain people, i want to play smash straight for 8 hours

if she played smash too and could have fun the same way as me without me then whatever

ive seen Jesi play friendlies for hours, she is a legit smasher

 

[AprilShaw]

I bring my girlfriend because she has fun and I have fun :D

Idk how Brawl smashers are but Melee smashers are cool. Plus I play team friendlies with her and we've actually beaten some pretty good teams... we work together pretty well :D

 

[Rockin]

It's not like a sport.

Sports are more interesting and exciting to people that don't know anything about them than a video game is. Sports also last about 2 or 4 hours. Video game tournaments last about 12 hours at MINIMUM.

How bored would your girlfriend be "giving her support" for a whole freakin' day? Sitting around watching nerds play a game that the girl doesn't even know anything about and probably can't make heads or tails of.

That being said, I'm a girl with a boyfriend and I go to tournaments. Unfortunately for the point of this topic, my boyfriend doesn't BRING me to tournaments. I just like to go.

Just want to say that's not really true in terms of sports. I for one don't really find much excitement watching them. Not because I'm a guy, but I just don't like watching it (however, it would be fun getting involved in it).

And again, she isn't obligated to come to said tournies, but once she does, she could do more then just 'give support.' She could possibly try to get along with the other players there. You never know, they may share a thing or two in common. That's how friendship usually starts.

Personaly i think generaly bringing a girlfriend to a tournement would be one of the stupidest thing a guy could ever do could ever do.

You need some time to relax away from the girl. obviously this might not be important if you see her like twice a week
But my biggest argument is the folowing. If you have multiple hobby like smash and she does not want to listen about it, since its so geeky, its very good when you want to go have fun with other girls, you can always say i have a tournement. Just don't forget to bring your controller

Now when you come back, she will likely not ask very many question on how was your day

Smash tournaments arn't those bars guys go to after either a hard days of work or escaping your nagging wife. It's a place open for all. Granted, you can do some guy stuff before or after a tournament, but the community is meant for all. Not like the tournament spots have 'wet T-shirt contests' or something LOL

 

[Alessandra]

I don't see what's so weird about it.
I went to one just today and had a blast. :S

But if I'd have to guess I'd say most guys take their girlfriends to sort of "show off"

 

[Zeonix]

Matt.zeb got his girlfriend interested in smash, get at him

If anyone's seen darkrain's girlfriend, i think he uses her as a weapon
I played him in friendly, she was in my ear mad shrill like "CMON DAVID



LETS GO DARKRAIN"

Yeah, The first tourney I went to a couple weeks ago, Matt.Zeb brought his girlfriend and I don't think anyone cared.

 

[★Malik★™]

probably to prove this point.

"i am not a game geek, i have a life, here's the proof! "

 

[ADHD]

You mean, "Why do guys bring their FEMALE COUSINS to smash tournaments?"

Well, I dunno.

 

[OFY]

The girl usually wants to come out to tournaments with their boyfriends.

They insist on coming.

 

[Punishment Divine]

You mean, "Why do guys bring their FEMALE COUSINS to smash tournaments?"

Well, I dunno.

lollllll Wyatt

My GF always tells me "You never BRING ME to these things" but I've explained to her many times that if I didn't like the game/people, I wouldn't be caught dead in half the venues I end up in lol I might bring her to one just so she never wants to go again @_@

 

[_KuyaSombreo_]

probably to prove this point.

"i am not a game geek, i have a life, here's the proof! "

I concur,

 

[BluePeachy100]

I hope anyone who is so superficial, and insecure enough to have to bring their gf's to a tourney in the hopes of impressing them get dead last.

 

[KevinM]

Man all these people that say most smashers bring their girlfriends for other reasons besides just wanting to be able to do both are obviously mad.

U guys mad?

 

[InfiniteGXT]

How would one of you guys feel if your girlfriend took you to a hair and makeup convention that you had to stay at for like 8 hours straight, most of the time without anywhere to sit down.

Is it important to her? Yes. But even if it is important to her, and you love her, that doesnt immediately mean you are interested in it. At first you would be paying attention to it all, but after a while you would be just begging for her to be done with it so you can leave. Of course you dont tell her that because you care about her and want to share in this experience.

Thats how I think alot of the girls are with tournaments. They come thinking it wont be a big deal and dont know what to expect really, and end up being stuck for half a day doing something they arent interested in and probably find boring and silly, but dont want to tell us or complain because they care too much to make us look like d-bags for asking them to STAND through it all.

 

[M15t3R E]

Haha, Vist just brought his gf to a tournament today in MD.
Well, my gf is more of a PC gamer and I've never asked her to come to one of my brawl tournaments. If she was interested in playing, why couldn't I enter doubles with her? Hmm? It's not like I'd try to shove the smash competitive atmosphere down her throat.

 

[GALE 14]

if the girlfriend re not interested so i agree with infint gxt
but if she want to go to a tournamant then i would say: ,, go to a friend and relax there^^
cuz they think it will be intersting but it isn't for a girl it's boring
and i would NEVER ask a girl to ... a brawl tournament

 

[Punishment Divine]

I've gone to long parties, trips to the movies, and over various family members houses for my girlfriend in the past ~2 1/2 years, when I haven't exactly wanted to. It's not like I haven't done something similar lol although I think that it WOULD be worse to be at a smash tournament than all those things.

But I would rather pick one. GF or smash. Spend the day on one thing.

 

[Prawn]

Someday I'll get a BJ while 6 stocking Isai in Smash Bros 64.

GET AT ME

 

[Rockin]

How would one of you guys feel if your girlfriend took you to a hair and makeup convention that you had to stay at for like 8 hours straight, most of the time without anywhere to sit down.

Is it important to her? Yes. But even if it is important to her, and you love her, that doesnt immediately mean you are interested in it. At first you would be paying attention to it all, but after a while you would be just begging for her to be done with it so you can leave. Of course you dont tell her that because you care about her and want to share in this experience.

Thats how I think alot of the girls are with tournaments. They come thinking it wont be a big deal and dont know what to expect really, and end up being stuck for half a day doing something they arent interested in and probably find boring and silly, but dont want to tell us or complain because they care too much to make us look like d-bags for asking them to STAND through it all.

Again, that's a pretty bad arguement. What if the guy or girl likes to be in a hair or makeup convention? Again, it's in the girl's/guy's interest to be involved in this or not. None of us are going to play the pity game with the other. Granted, we know that this hair and makeup convention is important, but we also know not to force them to go with us. And again, the said girlfriend/boyfriend may end up like doing these things. New experiences bring up new interest, when it's done right.

Infinite, you're making the whole thing look like a punishment for women/men to saying 'yes, I want to go with you to said place' when it really isn't. It's mainly a choice. There would be things that men and women would love and would like to share it with that other lover. Does this always work? Sometimes. Should it be discourage? Absolutly not. There's nothing wrong with someone asking 'Hey, would you like to come with me to (place)?' The woman/man would just say yes or no. This is the same scenario of taking a good/best friend, or maybe a person you know from work. The only main difference is their importance to you.

Also, the reason why I said this was a bad arguement because the 'hair and makeup' place (which I'm calling it cosplaying for now on) and smash tournaments/smashfests have some similarities, but are still different as a whole. Cosplaying is an event that happens once every few months/to a year, and there's plenty of time to do other stuff for that said event. Other people go for said similar interest. However, it's not a community. Just a really big event. Cosplaying is something that is specifically meant for special events that last for a day or two every few months, and when you do miss it, there won't be another one till months later. The smash tournies/smashfest are events that that happens usually every few weeks and months (depending on the tourny and the place).This is run by a community. A forum of people, while they share the one thing in mind, also share similar things in terms of real life and whatnot. It's where people actually meet other people. I guess you can say it's like a big 'club house' or something or one of those things a family does at least a few times a month. It's something that always happen at a consistant level. When you miss it, the only thing you mainly miss out on is the chance at the prize money. Meeting up with friends and hanging out with them just to play smash is always a day you can go at almost anytime. And, hell, just like any other event, you can share other stuff to do before or after a tourny/smashfest.

Bringing your girlfriend/boyfriend to places should never be a bad thing, especially if you're just asking. Whether they like to go is their choice. If the other really loves them, then they won't hold it against her.

 

[InfiniteGXT]

Infinite, you're making the whole thing look like a punishment for women/men to saying 'yes, I want to go with you to said place' when it really isn't. It's mainly a choice. There would be things that men and women would love and would like to share it with that other lover. Does this always work? Sometimes. Should it be discourage? Absolutly not. There's nothing wrong with someone asking 'Hey, would you like to come with me to (place)?' The woman/man would just say yes or no. This is the same scenario of taking a good/best friend, or maybe a person you know from work. The only main difference is their importance to you.

My point was that the hair/makeup convention be something equivalent to a smash tournament, but for girls. Im talking in general here, not peoples individual preferences. Are there guys who like hair and makeup? Yes. Of course. Are there girls who like smash? Yes. Of course. But the majority of the male population doesnt have alot of interest in hair and makeup conventions, and the majority of the female population probably doesnt have an interest in smash.

That being said, for people who have had relationship experience at all, often times peoples experiences vary tremendously. One girl might love to come, and another might feel really awkward coming. A relationship with your girlfriend is very different from your relationship with just a friend. You cant just treat them like the same thing for the sake of argument.

Also, the reason why I said this was a bad arguement because the 'hair and makeup' place (which I'm calling it cosplaying for now on) and smash tournaments/smashfests have some similarities, but are still different as a whole. Cosplaying is an event that happens once every few months/to a year, and there's plenty of time to do other stuff for that said event.

At most smash tournaments there is very little to do outside of playing, watching people play, and talking to people in between matches. It would be delusional to say that someone with no general interest in the game would have no problem standing around and watching it for long periods of time. Also sometimes if you ask a girl if she wants to come, she may feel inclined to come. Just like we might be inclined to come with her to something that we dont want to go to just to make her happy.

I guess my overall point is that in my experience relationships tend to be a more delicate thing, and smash tournaments are not. Relationships take focus on the other person and smash would displace that attention they have every right to expect from you onto a video game. In an ideal world everyones girlfriend would be eager to come and play just as well as the guys and cheer and be cheered for and make friends and not feel awkward or out of place at all. But that is a fantasy. You can wish for it all you want, but at the end of the day, most girls are just not interested, and are coming just to present the illusion of interest to make you happy. But I guess that too, is just another part of relationships since it happens one way or another, why not with smash?

I just owned myself. lol

 

[ChaosKnight]

one simple thing to say the your girl obviously either likes games or not if she wants to come because she plays the game also then let her come

if your girl does wanna come and dosent like the video game just ask her do you really wanna come i dont wanna waste your day since im be there for a while .. if you have something better to do then you should do it.... but if she still persists that she wants to come then just let her come and let her be around you ...

you guys make it seem like its a big deal ... when its really not yall are thinking too much about the situation

 

[KORNNNNN~]

one simple thing to say the your girl obviously either likes games or not if she wants to come because she plays the game also then let her come

if your girl does wanna come and dosent like the video game just ask her do you really wanna come i dont wanna waste your day since im be there for a while .. if you have something better to do then you should do it.... but if she still persists that she wants to come then just let her come and let her be around you ...

you guys make it seem like its a big deal ... when its really not yall are thinking too much about the situation

THIS

what's wrong with bring gf to smash tournament... lol
InfiniteGXT, you take it way too serious....... D:

 

[crismas]

Soo I think every time I've seen a guy who's brought their gf's to tourny have been there for moral support. And in one way or another they find a way to entertain themselves. It's not an ideal "date" situation but sometimes it's all about acknowledging or relating to your bf, and maybe they know how much they enjoy going to tournies and playing and regardless of which they just wanna spend time with their bf so they go anyway.

I mean, I don't see everyone bringing their gf. There's obviously those relationships in which there's the understanding "I'll see you another day, but go have fun at the tourny". It all depends on your relationship. If guys are just bringing them and the gf is complaining and what not then I think it's time to rethink what you're doing as far as bringing her along LOL.

I have a diff. situation in which I love Melee/like Brawl and my bf loves Brawl/likes Melee so we have conflicts over which tourny to go to but there's always compromise. Or we're running the event together

 

[Vyse]

The only question you should have to ask is why any guy would take their girlfriend (And any girl their boyfriend) to anything and you should have a good list of answers.

 

[RelaxImAProfessional]

because they can if they want too.

 

[_KuyaSombreo_]

i got a question:

why would a guy a bring their MOM to tourney, i've seen it happen

 

[Vyse]

i got a question:

why would a guy a bring their MOM to tourney, i've seen it happen

Because she wants to sell food at the event.

/my reason.

 

[Blatt Blvd]

i brought my gf to mlg orlando(05), mlg atlanta(05) and another mlg orlando(not sure if it was 06 0r 07).

brought her to smashaid in GA(07), and a plethora of local and 3 to 7 hour drive tourneys(here in FL, 7 hour drives are still not OOS).

this was from 05-early 08.

i cant even get her to pick up a gamecube controller anymore, let alone get her out of the house for a tourney.

 

[Alex Strife]

I bring my gf cause she played this game b4 me and ***** most ppl in melee XD crismas is amazing.

 

[Lobos]

I took my GF(at the time) to pound 2 *pound*.....InfiniteGXT nice avatar

 

[JFox]

yea i think its lame that people bring the gf's if the girl doesnt play smash, but then ive thought about doing it myself. ive been playin this game for MADDD long, and its a pretty big part of my life right now. so i do want her to know about it a bit

the problem is most tourneys are really far away, and they're long as hell. so to make her sit around while i have fun is just not somethin either of us want to do. shes bored, then i have to entertain her which holds me back from playin friendlies with my dudes...

so yea, idk i would if something were close and maybe she could watch finals and hang out and meet my friends or w/e

 

[Rockin]

i got a question:

why would a guy a bring their MOM to tourney, i've seen it happen

Probably to show their mom/relative what their community is like with others and who they hang with.

 

[The Irish Mafia]

why don't we just ask crismas