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If we're talking just common sense things like don't beat your kids or something, then that might be only a little easier. Nurture vs nature is an eternal question, but I think there might be something about environments and how they can affect parent behaviors. Rather than trying to directly affect parent behaviors, perhaps it would be better to improve societal conditions instead. Removing more stressors in a parent's life and reducing the need for more time at work can lead to less instances of them taking their anger out on their kids and more time to actually parent their kids overall. Hopefully by creating a better environment for everyone we can break more cycles of abuse and neglect and give more families time to do stuff together and all that jazz.
There's also cultural factors too, like the American obsession with independence that can play into this. I've always found the practice where we try to wean infants from their parents' bedrooms by letting them scream and cry night after night bizarre and rather cruel. The basis for this is a vague idea where if we don't wean them early they will grow up too dependent or something. This runs completely counter to any science that I know of and isn't really based in observable reality either. The idea that a one-year-old is even cognizant of these things is illogical, but thinking that your teenager or young adult is going to be unable to sleep in their own bed is even more bizarre. As if a teenage or college-aged boy is going to bring a girl in bed with them or something.
Any real observation shows that children are naturally more dependent in the early stages of life, but progressively become more independent. And the logical conclusion would be to hold them close in their dependence period and then naturally let them go when they want to. And yet we push them away against their will in their dependence stage and then become clingy and smothering against their will when they become teenagers and want more independence on the basis that you don't want them to grow up too fast.
This bizarre and illogical practice has many reasons, often selfish and arrogant ones, but they do permeate American parenting culture. And weaning children too soon actually creates dependency and insecurity issues and it's probably not a coincidence that Americans are commonly perceived as brash, insecure, and overly aggressive. But that insecurity leads to overcompensation including developing a false ego, which then leads to the type of stubbornness towards change and admitting that you were wrong that Americans are famous for.
You can show an American the science on child development, how other countries have practices that lead to children sleeping with their parents far beyond what Americans would be comfortable with and how they aren't overly dependent as adults, and logic in general, but as we've seen with healthcare, facts and logic doesn't permeate American stubbornness very well.
Add on the cultural distrust that Americans have towards government and I don't see how the government could influence cultural change in a substantive way. Perhaps in other countries it might be easier, but I'm not sure how you would do that here. And unfortunately this culture begets the exact type of thinking that leads into this culture in the first place.
So I'm not sure there are easy answers to this.