White-Peach
Smash Ace
Same happened to me before I got a job. So, in addition to the yelling, I got extra things to do around the house that nobody else had to do because I couldnt find a job. So, when I got a job, I still had to do the extra things that nobody else had to do, with the new explanation that "you will have to do it eventually!" Yeah, but nobody else has to do it
Little things like that. Going to school for a long time, getting more than $20,000 in scholarships to ease the burden, getting accepted into nursing school and paying for it by myself (loans in my name, etc.), all of it meant nothing because I didn't have a job. All the hours of sacrifice spent studying (and never, every going out) so I could better myself meant nothing. I never spent any of the money I had saved up either, I always held onto it so I could pay for school stuff.It got to a point when they started making accusations about who I was, "Maybe they won't hire you because of your hair. Nobody wants to hire someone... You have to understand, it's the real world, it's someone's business and they don't want to risk their business because of you." Kind of ****. I got to defending myself, telling them "Well how much of myself do I have to change? I can cut my hair off, but what about the rest of me? I still don't look like a man. Do I have to strap down my chest and grow out my beard and start 'acting' now?" **** was ridiculous. But eventually I got a job working for an accountant (of all people) because she was open-minded and liked my personality and thought I'd be good for her business. Yeah :| ****'s ridiculous.
Idk, people tell me it's "middle-child syndrome", but I've always had problems with my parents. I've told my mom that I felt like a stepchild, and I've told my father that I wasn't crying because I was losing a shouting match with him, I was crying because I was losing respect for him. They're your parents, you have to respect them, but sometimes they just arent aware of how they make you feel and why, and you have to say what you feel. Even if it means talking to them without reservations (it goes both ways though, so be prepared.)
That isn't to say that all of my experiences have been bad. There are good parts and bad parts, and I think we get along better when we don't see eachother as much. I just feel like they don't (well didn't, now) have the right to tell me what to do all the time because I've always been the one to take care of all of my affairs without issue or reminder, short of anything that required money. Its the same as Meta's issue, If I'm doing everything you ask, why are you still shouting?
