eighteenspikes, I did actually do no wrong. I never overstepped my bounds. If a girl doesn't say "yes" to me, that is her choice. None of it is really my fault. She deems that we are incompatible, and let's just leave it at that. My only gripe was never getting a straight answer when I tell the person, literally: "Look, right now, you're telling me you're not ready to decide yet, but it's been months. If nothing is going to happen between us, tell me so I can move on. I won't get mad, I won't abandon you, I just want to know.". I think that is reasonable. I've had this experience many times, and I know why this is happening. the girls are afraid to hurt you, so they make up excuses or delay the answer because they don't know how to tell you. It's not necessarily an "evil" for a lack a better word, act. But, if soemone has the courage to share his feelings with another, that person must in kind give an honest answer, or they ar emerely prolonging that person's suffering. Tha tmight not even run through their minds, but this is a reality, nonetheless. I'm not really the kind of guy to go "She doesn't like me? OMG, bad girl". But I value honesty and I don't like to be taken for a fool either, if that makes sense to you. I'm actually smart, I can tell that I'm being lied to most of the time.
And likely, the reason you could have misinterpreted my post is because I offered no context.
And I'm late 24, I tend to try and date girls around 25-28 years old on average. There are immature people of all ages, so I think the age argument is moot anyways.
Finally, I made nothing up, although it was paraphrased. And again, I am not talking about a particular individual but a general tendency. The one that seems to come back more often is "I'm not sure, I'll get back to you". They just don't get back to me. Now, I just move on without them. Back then, I was a very innocent "I'll wait forever" kinda guy. I grew out of that phase.
There have been, I believe, two girls who told me "I'm sorry, I don't see you that way". And I respect them a lot, and we still hang out. I was actually happy to get a decent answer. So it's not really being annoyed at a no, but annoyed at a disrespectful treatment.
As for the "steps", I'm just describing the usual stuff that happens in my life. Don't read too much into it. If I was talking about a girl in particular, I wouldn't be so mechanistical.
Bah, let's just leave it like this. Maybe the way I expressed myself was not very clear.