I kind of feel like that as well. I am kinda shy when it comes to girls that I like. Not really shy when it comes to girls in general though. I mean, I have tons of female friends and I don't have a problem talking or hanging out with them. It's the ones I like that make me kinda nervous around them.
As for not asking girls out, I don't know. I am kinda scared of the rejection so I guess that's why I wait until I know they might like me as well. I am also scared of doing something stupid or not being a good boyfriend.
I mean, all my female friends have told me that I'm such a nice guy, and a lot of them think that I'd make a good boyfriend to whomever I end up with. But I guess the thing is, I've never been in a relationship before, so I can't know how to handle certain things. I'm not like one of those guys who will pressure the girl into doing anything she doesn't want to. I'm not like that at all. In fact I'd rather hug and cuddle all the time and not much else physical. But I just guess I'm scared that I'll fail at other things, like being there for her when she needs it, knowing how to take care of her, or whatever.
If only I were as pro at relationships as I was at gaming...
I see a lot of people like this. If it helps, I'm a pro at starting relationships. I know just what to say and do and how to say and do it to make a girl move from thinking about whether she likes you to a clear definite. Can't say this is going to get you who you're destined to be with or whatever, but I know romance backward and forward.
My only problem is finding my match. It's not that I can't get a girl to like me, I just haven't found a girl I like for so long x_x;; But I haven't lost a bit of my knowledge. So, if you want specific help, PM me.
I mean that seriously. I'm not proud of this--but I've had A LOT of girlfriends. And we weren't physical together either (most of them, anyway). I just knew how they worked emotionally and could quickly win their hearts over.
But I won't offer help if someone's just trying to get in a girl's pants. You need to really like this girl and the door needs to be open for her liking you for this to work. I'm no miracle worker, but I know how to make the best of opportunity when it happens. Opening a door that's not already open is a completely different matter in itself and depends completely on the girl. That's something I -can- offer advice about, but choose not to. It's just too complicated on that level.
I've changed a lot since I've become a Christian. I no longer use my knowledge of girls to start relationships. I'm looking for the right girl for me at the moment. I've dated so many girls and don't want to just go through relationships. I want the next girlfriend I have to become my wife, so I'm making sure I really like the next girl I like. So, basically, I no longer put my skills to use (I will after I start dating the girl, but before then I want the girl to like me for me).
But I still have those skills. So if someone wants to ask me specifically for help, PM me. I know a lot about how girls work and know how to get a girl's heart to leap.
Anyway, sorry if I'm starting to look like an online matchmaker right about now. Not trying to do that. I just know a whole lot of great guys that girls look past and I'm sick of it. They always go for the guys who won't really love them and take care of them. So I'm willing to help the guys who get looked over, because I know that they're the ones that will really care for the girl.
Edit: I actually recently met a girl who thinks it's really cool that I play Melee competitively XD I was just saying to my roommate the other day that I'd marry the first girl that found that cool. Not sure if it'll work out with that girl. Don't know if I like her. She's really cool, but I just don't know yet. Just thought it was a funny circumstance. Didn't think I'd EVER find a girl that would think that's cool. Because most of the people I know are Christians, no girl is going to think I'm a nerd for playing Melee, but I didn't think anyone would actually think it's cool XD Anyway, I'm a good writer, so it sort of covers over my more nerdy habits. Girls love a guy who's good with his words.
) was my longest, and I didn't do nothing in the relationship since I felt embarassed just holding hands. I'm scared of not being a good 'boyfriend' as well. And well, I like being single because I can kinda play video games all I want, hang out with my friends as long as I want, and more time to myself kinda thing. But I do admit after a while, you wonder what it's like being in a relationship.
