Will You Visit Your Parents' Graves After They Die?

[Overload]

Just a question that popped into my head today. I was wondering if I would visit the graves of my parents after they've passed. Since I don't believe they'll be able to hear me or anything, and I don't really see the point of going to their grave and talking to them unless you believe they can hear you, I don't see myself doing so.

Let's not have this turn into a religious debate or anything.

 

[Pierre the Scarecrow]

Of course I will! We've had our ups and downs, but who hasn't had parent problems? Ultimately, they raised me, kept me clothed, and full of food for the first decade and a half of my life. That warrants a visit to the grave every once in a while, right?

But who knows. They'll probably be around for 20 more years, and seeing that I'm only 22, it's like a whole other lifetime. Who knows how my relationship with them will be like by then.

 

[Overload]

Don't get me wrong it's not that I don't love my parents. To me, it's just a matter of is there a point.
Plus I think even if one hated their parents they would leave all that behind after their deaths.

 

[Mini Mic]

My parents plan to be cremated

 

[127crazie]

probably once, but only once.

 

[Pierre the Scarecrow]

Don't get me wrong it's not that I don't love my parents. To me, it's just a matter of is there a point.
Plus I think even if one hated their parents they would leave all that behind after their deaths.

A lot of people feel disrespectful if they don't visit, so they do so purely out of guilt. Others do it because it comforts them to be near (what's left) of their loved ones, even though it's nothing more than a slab of concrete in the ground.

I had a friend who's wife recently passed, and he actually had such a hard time with her death, that he didn't attend the burial. I haven't asked if he's made it to see her grave yet-- it's just not something I wanna talk to him about.

 

[kirbywizard]

It depends for now, I am only 16 and anything could happen in a few years. But I plan to visit their graves once they day. Maybe once a year seeing that they want to be buried in Mexico in their home towns cemetery.

 

[StinkomanFan]

My mom's most likely, but occasionally my dads

 

[Smith]

My Mom's will be visited plenty, no matter what the place.


My dad, as of right now, not at all.

 

[rhan]

I would annually. Why? Because they brought me into this world. No matter what hardships we may have had they will always be my parents and I love them to death. Even when they have past on I will be here to keep thier spirts alive. I would probably shead a tear or two while at thier graves but I will remember all the great things they have did for me and my siblings.

 

[rpgfighter]

Yes, I will look at them. It might creep me out at first, but I would go see it whenever I would be in the area. I am mostly talking about my mom, my dad will not be as much as my mom.

 

[Pikaville]

Id say I will.Not really often or anything.

When I was at my grandads grave for his anniversay I got real upset,my parents would be even worse.

 

[Teran]

For sure.
If there's anybody in this world I'll honour properly and stick by even after death, it's my parents.

Well, my close friends also, but my parents command my maximum respect.

 

[.Marik]

Ooh, this is a deep question.

As for my mom, I certainly would. I love my mom, she's the only family member I have, and the only person in the entire world who gives a sh*t about me.

I would do it for her, not for me. She's my mother, and a good person. It would be rude and disrespectful for me not to visit her grave.

In the worst of storms, I'd still go out in a cemetary and visit my mother's grave.

I used to have a father, but the drugs changed him. I haven't heard from him in 10 years. He won't be getting any visits from me. He was never there for me? I won't be there for him.

Simple as that.

 

[JUDGE]

of course i would!!!
even if they can't hear me........it isn't nice if i wouldn't go their

 

[MXblaze]

I'd be a **** not to.

 

[Zero Beat]

I'm not sure if I would, which shouldn't even reflect on whether I love them or not. Just not a big fan of traditions and doing things 'just because.'

But, that's my state of mind at the moment and it may change with time.

 

[BlublacMH]

Hmmm...I would like to think I would, at least annually. A graveyard is not somewhere I see myself going very often, but I love my parents more than just about anyone else on the planet, so for them Ill probably go.

 

[Lily]

This is an interesting question.

I live across the street from a cemetery. I always see relatives of the dead visiting their graves and bringing flowers in memory of them. I'm not so sure I would do the same. I believe that when my parents are gone, they really aren't gone.. they'll always be in my heart wherever I am. I guess if I'm really having a terrible time in my life, and need "support" from them I would visit their grave site but other than that I don't plan on it.

I love them dearly and get along with them both very well. I just think that visiting a grave stone that says their name and when they died on it is insignificant. I would feel better by visiting the house I grew up in, in memory of them. Or traveling to places I've experienced with them, not a communal resting place where they are just another grave.

 

[Lord Viper]

☆ I owe my life to my parents for everything they done for me. Best people ever to my life, I'll visit them in special days if they pass away. ☆

 

[Elucifur]

I'd like to see my mommy's grave every year, but seeing as how she passed away in New York and I live with my father in Las Vegas, it's kind of difficult. I visit when I can, though. My mom's side of the family takes me.

 

[zrky]

I would do it whenever I get the chance, maybe even make like a line of flowers around the graves and keep it clean. I really do respect my parents for all they have done. Whenever I visit my grandpa's grave I go with my grandma, and she gave me the idea of plants and such for the grave, it looks really nice and well it helps keep a happy feeling.
So yes, i would visit, not like every week or every month, but on what would be their birthdays and such I would try to go.

 

[choknater]

I have a lot of respect for my parents. I used to really resent them, but now I am very grateful. I'm Catholic, I would probably go to the cemetery where they're buried and just pray about/reflect on a lot of things.

 

[xLeafybug =D]

Most likely.

 

[Morrigan]

wtf at this topic, seriously.

Most likely, time will tell. not a fan of graveyards.

 

[Chill]

wtf at this topic, seriously.

Most likely, time will tell. not a fan of graveyards.

Yeah, it's kinda' random.

Honestly, I'm suprised at the responses so far. I expected lots of sarcams and crude jokes. I guess when it comes to their mommies even people on the internet are ready to show their respect.

 

[Teran]

I guess when it comes to their mommies even people on the internet are ready to show their respect.

This is solid gold truth for most people. Even I showed respect. You must honour mother dearest.

 

[Pr0phetic]

My parents made me who I am, and my dad visits his mom (my lovely Grandma Yvonne), while my mother doesn't visit hers. I go with my dad, so I will most definitely visit theirs and pay my respects.

 

[Patinator]

I don't want to discuss this, but I will.

The answer, in short, is no. For me, there is absolutely no point. Upon death, one is made useless. I don't care if their or anyone's bodies were to be shredded by a beef grinder, incinerated in an economy-sized blowtorch, or exploded with an atomic bomb. I have no attachment to a dead body.

 

[slave1]

not sure. if they are burried in my state. but i dont think i will travel 20 hours to do so. i will remember them. so... probably

 

[ZMan]

my parents are gonna be buried on opposite sides of the country (my mom outside of detroit, my dad somewhere in the southwest) and i might be not be in he us by the time they die, probably not.

but hey, the flow of time is unpredictable.

 

[Morrigan]

but hey, the flow of time is unpredictable.

You know, it just came into my mind...how do we really know we will be the ones visiting their graves and not the other way round? Sad, but possible.

 

[HawaiianJigglyPuff]

My parents plan to be cremated

My parents are to be cremated too. I suppose I won't visit where ever their ashes are scattered.

I also plan on being cremated.

 

[Deleted member]

I already do.

 

[-ACE-]

I've actually never thought of this.. tbh I probably won't visit the grave very often at all... and I've always loved my parents.

 

[Ryan Ludovic]

Judging by my wise decision making skills, they'll be visiting MY grave.

 

[pacmansays]

I expect not, they're gone: I can't see any point for me visiting my grave. I can't speak with them or send them my love, its gone....show people how much they matter while they're alive.

 

[Mota]

For sure I would.

I want to stop by Bruce Lee's grave and pay my respects also, that guy has inspired me to be a better martial artists and person, even though I was born in 1993.

 

[Nixernator]

I would, I'd also baww my eyes out as well. Its something I don't want to think about.

 

[Epic Kovumon]

My dad died a year and a half ago, he was cremated and his ashes were put in various necklaces for the family to keep. I have it hanging above my bed.

So, I guess I visit his grave everyday.