I imagine it is unfortunately true that people who are guarded or reserved, tactful, if you will, have a lesser chance at having one night stands/getting laid.
I find it peculiar that you are patient without being persistent. You realize, I take it, that you are being extremely passive? You're effectively waiting for something good to happen and then feeling upset that you haven't been beset by good fortune. And I understand, that. Truly, I do. Really, what this situation calls for is either a change of behavior or an acceptance of the consequences of your actions.
Also, in case this isn't clear, I do NOT condemn your actions in the slightest. I don't believe it's problematic in the slightest to tactful and patient, but it does come with a burden, and you have to decide whether or not that's fine by you.
Hmmm, I didn't intend to give advice today, but it would seem that the recent tarot reading I performed has rubbed off on me. Well, I'm sorry if I've overstepped my bounds and if I haven't, then I hope I was helpful.