Those heartbreaking moments </3

[The Real Gamer]

Love can either be the best thing you've ever had the pleasure of experiencing or the absolute worst depending on your past experiences. But it seems as if most people go through the rough parts of love before they finally reach the peak. What specific moments have you gone through when you felt as if your heart was torn out and stepped on? Post your favorite love stories!

MY STORY (if interested)

I just had one of those moments last night, so I'll start us out. I've established a very special relationship with this one beautiful girl named Luan since I first had the guts to talk to her about a year and a half ago. At first I just wanted to get to know her because I thought she was really cute. To make a long story short, I ended up getting turned down about 2 months into getting to know her. But I ended up liking her so much that I decided I wanted to remain friends with her despite the fact that she didn't share my feelings.

Our relationship as friends grew a lot from that point. I now consider her my best friend. We talk to each other about just about everything, we have very similar personalities, we are always hanging out with each other, we even went to both last year's prom and this year's homecoming dance together... Heck people often ask me if we're a couple but I always have to swallow my true feelings and say no we're just friends every time. But I now care about her more than I ever have... Despite the fact that she has a boyfriend.

HERES THE GOOD PART

So last night we were texting each other trying to figure out something to do since we were both bored. Her boyfriend is in college and he was down here for the weekend to visit her. He asked her to go to the movies with him but she turned him down because she wasn't really in the mood to be around him at the moment (they've been having some relationship issues recently). So I asked her if she wanted to go to the movies with me instead. Surprisingly, she said yes! I was thinking "hah she'd rather go to the movies with me than her own boyfriend... nice." We were having a really good time enjoying each others company by the time we arrived at the theater. So we're about to walk into the movie and GUESS who's there? Yup you guessed it right... HER BOYFRIEND. He walks up to her, gives her a pretty lengthy kiss, and proceeds to give Luan a look that spelled out "Why are you with HIM???" He knew who I was because I'm always talking to Luan on her facebook page. He knows me and her are close. Luan gave me a really big "I'm sorry look" and my heart immediately sank. I just silently walked into the movie and sat in an isolated row away from everyone else. I just wanted to be by myself and cry. About 5 minutes later, 2 people came and sat next to me. Luan and her boyfriend. I knew Luan was feeling really sorry for me and I know she cares about me, so of course she would sit by me, but I could tell her boyfriend was mad at her. Then came the most awkward 2 hours at a movie that I will most likely ever have in my life. There Luan was in between two guys: Her best friend that loves her more than any other guy she knows and her boyfriend, who was probably wishing I was dead. None of us said anything the entire movie. After the movie was over we walked out into the parking lot and her boyfriend offered to give Luan a ride home and she gave me a look but I said it was ok. I said bye to her without giving a hug or anything and silently walked back to my car. Before I entered my car I looked back and I saw those two hugging. I sighed and drove back home... Feeling more alone than ever. She texted me this morning saying "I'm so sorry" but I haven't responded yet.

So that's my story! Thanks for reading! Post your own I'm definitely interested in hearing them.

Here are my favorite pics of me and Luan. I still love her to death and plan on texting her later today to tell her my true feelings.

 

[Jim Morrison]

this one beautiful girl

Welp, don't even need to read thread, I know exactly how it'll go from here.

 

[Lythium]

What do you know, Guus?

You're only 12.

 

[The Real Gamer]

^^ Lol I just got a good laugh outta that.

 

[jugfingers]

He walks up to her, gives her a pretty lengthy kiss, and proceeds to give Luan a look that spelled out "Why are you with HIM???"

and my heart immediately sank. I just silently walked into the movie and sat in an isolated row away from everyone else.

aha that was awesome...thanks dude.


I met this one beautiful girl a long time ago, back then I thought she was a real person, but now it seems much more likely that she is a demon sent to earth to personally torture me and increase my appetite for music that vibrates in the hollow cavity in my chest where my heart used to be...

 

[Pikaville]

Thats pretty rough TRG.

You should definitely text her though, getting your feelings out will feel great.

You should be careful not to get your hopes up though.

You guys look really cute together :3

 

[The Real Gamer]

aha that was awesome...thanks dude.


I met this one beautiful girl a long time ago, back then I thought she was a real person, but now it seems much more likely that she is a demon sent to earth to personally torture me and increase my appetite for music that vibrates in the hollow cavity in my chest where my heart used to be...

Glad you enjoyed the story!

And I'm sorry about your issues with that girl... Love can just really suck sometimes.

Thats pretty rough TRG.

You should definitely text her though, getting your feelings out will feel great.

You should be careful not to get your hopes up though.

You guys look really cute together :3

I'm definitely not going to get my hopes up anymore. After getting turned down TWICE, I've definitely learned my lesson. She just needs to know that my feelings for her are still there but I want to maintain our friendship. We talked today but only about the casual stuff because I was at a dance and I didn't want to stress myself out. I'll get around to it soon. I'd never let something this small ruin our friendship.

I appreciate the comment... EVERYONE thinks that we look cute together or that we should be together. It's really frustrating because everyone else makes it seem like we would make the perfect couple.

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

Well, I've actually only really had one girlfriend, and we've been together for over four years now. (>_>... long time)

We met on Final Fantasy XI when I was in the 9th grade, and stayed together until the 10th grade. She left me for reality, which hurt..though I could partially understand. Ironically though, in the 11th grade we got back together, and in my senior year she came to live with me. We've been living together for a year now, and lifes been great.

The heart breaking moment is between the breakup she got with someone else, who would go on social networks and what not to rub it in my face. It does suck, really, really, bad.

Also the heartbreak was quitting XI, but now looking back, god that game sucked.


Also, TRG, my friend irl is going through the exact same scenario. Except he has been doing it for 8 years. I feel for you, but honestly, the only way for it to ever have a chance is to state you won't be her friend. It sounds stupid, but if you offer to be her friend, she'll keep you like that for the sake of always having you. If you state it's bf/gf or nothing, then she'll most likely do the first, unless she really doesn't care about you that much.


Where this stems from is, my friend is doing that right now *the one mentioned above*, because of the last 8 years being a friend has got him nowhere.

 

[The Real Gamer]

Wow 4 years I'm very, very jealous. It's good you've been able to keep the relationship going for that long, despite the fact that you guys took a break from each other for a while.

The above scenario is a little too extreme for me to attempt. I care about her waaaaay too much to just stop being friends with her at all if she didn't start liking me. Yes I do love her, but at the same time, she's one of the best friends I've ever had (best "friend that's a girl" for sure), and if I stopped talking to her, I'd really hurt her and myself even more.

And who knows... We're only seniors in highschool right now. If we stayed close friends for the next 3-4 years, who knows what could happen.

 

[Fuelbi]

Well, I've actually only really had one girlfriend, and we've been together for over four years now. (>_>... long time)

We met on Final Fantasy XI when I was in the 9th grade, and stayed together until the 10th grade. She left me for reality, which hurt..though I could partially understand. Ironically though, in the 11th grade we got back together, and in my senior year she came to live with me. We've been living together for a year now, and lifes been great.

The heart breaking moment is between the breakup she got with someone else, who would go on social networks and what not to rub it in my face. It does suck, really, really, bad.

Also the heartbreak was quitting XI, but now looking back, god that game sucked.


Also, TRG, my friend irl is going through the exact same scenario. Except he has been doing it for 8 years. I feel for you, but honestly, the only way for it to ever have a chance is to state you won't be her friend. It sounds stupid, but if you offer to be her friend, she'll keep you like that for the sake of always having you. If you state it's bf/gf or nothing, then she'll most likely do the first, unless she really doesn't care about you that much.


Where this stems from is, my friend is doing that right now *the one mentioned above*, because of the last 8 years being a friend has got him nowhere.

God what a beast you met your girlfriend on a video game

 

[t3h Icy]

ITT: "Nice guys".

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

It is extreme, but it kinda worked for my friend. That and the fact I constantly told her he was the best. Go me >_>.

And yeah, it is nice, but it's a lot of work living together. Fighting over marital stuff ftl D:. (Like who gets to play Monster Hunter Tri)


@Roach (I don't care about your new names): Hi. ;p

 

[X1-12]

lets be honest girls who play video games are hot

 

[Luigitoilet]

Not necessarily

 

[X1-12]

quikfix:


the fact that a girl plays video games adds to their hotness level

 

[JOE!]

My fiance plays videogames, and is rather hot....

 

[xLeafybug =D]

lets be honest girls who play video games are hot

From my experience, that's usually false. It's usually the complete opposite. Just saying.

 

[eighteenspikes]

when my girlfriend told me blast corps was her favorite n64 game i knew she was a keeper

suggestion to OP you should try to get over any romantic feelings you have for the girl. ppl dont just put romantic interests on the backburner... she is not going to break up with the bf for you. right now she wants you to be her friend and NOTHING more.

this story is only heartbreaking because you let it be. imagine this situation if you were not interested in her at all. youd prob be like "hey sup luans boyfriend ", enjoy the movie together, and be happy for her that she has a boyfriend who cares enough about her not to give up during a rough patch in the relationship.

that said, youre a fairly handsome young dude, you sound like you have some confidence or esteem issues that might be keeping you from finding another wonderful girl, who happens to be single and also interested in you. have you had any luck dating anybody else in the past year and a half or are you "holding out" for luan?

 

[MacNCheese.]

Pray for me.

Me and my best friend are doing brawl DOUBLES, she's really good though
But i don't like how it feels gaming with a girl when everyone thinks your crazy 'cuz she games andif is hot
and everyone else loves her. if we lose, we'll be the laughing sack of da block

 

[X1-12]

From my experience, that's usually false. It's usually the complete opposite. Just saying.

quikfix:


the fact that a girl plays video games adds to their hotness level

I fixd it because some are fugly, but the idea of it is hot

 

[Jim Morrison]

Pray for me.

Me and my best friend are doing brawl DOUBLES, she's really good though
But i don't like how it feels gaming with a girl when everyone thinks your crazy 'cuz she games andif is hot
and everyone else loves her. if we lose, we'll be the laughing sack of da block

Which tournament are you going to?

 

[The Real Gamer]

From my experience, that's usually false. It's usually the complete opposite. Just saying.

agreed.

suggestion to OP you should try to get over any romantic feelings you have for the girl. ppl dont just put romantic interests on the backburner... she is not going to break up with the bf for you. right now she wants you to be her friend and NOTHING more.

this story is only heartbreaking because you let it be. imagine this situation if you were not interested in her at all. youd prob be like "hey sup luans boyfriend ", enjoy the movie together, and be happy for her that she has a boyfriend who cares enough about her not to give up during a rough patch in the relationship.

that said, youre a fairly handsome young dude, you sound like you have some confidence or esteem issues that might be keeping you from finding another wonderful girl, who happens to be single and also interested in you. have you had any luck dating anybody else in the past year and a half or are you "holding out" for luan?

You have to remember that she's also my best friend and I'm constantly around her or talking to her. I've tried for a long while to get over her and just ignore my feelings ever since I got turned down about a year ago, but I was never completely able to get over her ya know? And after we got closer and closer as friends and as I got to know her more, I just fell for her more and more. As much as it sometimes hurts, I'm never really THAT upset about it because I've been so used to the "best friend"status for so long now. But after what happened at the movies, it was a bit of a slap in the face that I wasn't prepared for.

Also like I said earlier we're almost like a couple but without all the kissing, flirting, etc. We go out and do stuff together all the time, we've been to most of our school dances together, we tell each other about all of our feelings, yada yada yada. Whether she falls in love with me or not I LOVE the relationship we have. I'd rather be close friends with her for the rest of my life than date her for a year and lose her for good. I value our friendship more than our potential love relationship. Basically all I'm saying is that I'm always happy whenever I'm around her. I'm not nearly as depressed around her as I might seem.

Haha thanks for the opinion. Honestly I have "made out"and stuff with a good number of girls here and there, but in terms of relationships... I just haven't met anyone yet that has really sparked my interest like Luan has. I'm sure that will quickly change once I go off to college though, but throughout my high school career, I've been single. I mostly blame the area that I'm at. I live in the "racist south" where interracial dating rarely happens, so my options for relationships have been very small.

 

[RATED]

forget about her. You are losing time, get a bit far from her, tell her why you are going to do so and prolly she will understand.

You can be in contact in her but not THAT much.

so you can be still a friend of her but have a "separated" life from it.

 

[The Real Gamer]

Why would I want to just separate myself from my best friend?

She makes me happy. Relationship or no relationship.

 

[MacNCheese.]

Which tournament are you going to?

Just a local thing

 

[jugfingers]

mango won pound 3

 

[Luigitoilet]

that's a little creepy dude

"here's a picture of her...and another....and here's a video of her....and another..."

 

[xLeafybug =D]

Why would I want to just separate myself from my best friend?

She makes me happy. Relationship or no relationship.

If she's not interested, you really should move on. If you wanna stay friends with her, by all means.

You're the same age as I am. And although it's only one opinion, you really should get out there. High School relationships generally don't last very long anyways. I'm not a fan of really going into my personal life too much with others, but I can say from experience that it'll be good for you.

that's a little creepy dude

"here's a picture of her...and another....and here's a video of her....and another..."

omg I was thinking the same thing.

 

[Livvers]

Speaking from the other side of the spectrum where I had a friend crushing on me for YEARS when I made it perfectly clear multiple times that I didn't like him like that: It's annoying. Maybe this isn't true for other girls, but for me it is. It's is annoying to have some guy puppy-dogging you for years, unable to get over you or the fact that you will never like him. Even worse is when he drops hints about liking you, or compliments you on your looks, etc. It is creepy and annoying. If he couldn't act like we were in a normal friendship and it was too hard, then he should've stopped hanging out with me.

But then some girls like the attention and like having a whipping boy to fall back on, so there you go.

Ok and that image-dump post is creeping me out too, and I think video is going too far. I'm editing the vid out. At least OP was only like, two small, normal pictures.

 

[The Real Gamer]

@jugfingers That story was great! I loved it! But WOW you guys have known each other for sooooo long! This might be really hard for ya but you really need to get over her and start pursuing other girls if you've liked her for THAT long. I can understand liking someone for a couple of years but over 5 years is just overkill. If you are having a really rough time throwing away your feelings for her, then I'd just keep her in the back of my mind, but start dating other girls to help you get over her easier.

And never forget dude... Feelings can change overtime. Get over her, but at the same time, stay close to her. There's no telling what could happen in the future. But don't wait for anything to happen! Become active with other people! You'll eventually find someone that you probably like even more!

If she's not interested, you really should move on. If you wanna stay friends with her, by all means.

Trust me I will indeed move on when I find a new love interest, but throughout my high school life, I can honestly say that Luan was the ONLY girl I could really see myself dating. I did have a little thing going with this other girl, but she ended up being a complete b****. I'm not going to try to pursue her, but I really just want to tell her my feelings to get it off my chest. It would be for the best if I told her.

You're the same age as I am. And although it's only one opinion, you really should get out there. High School relationships generally don't last very long anyways. I'm not a fan of really going into my personal life too much with others, but I can say from experience that it'll be good for you.

I'm most definitely not a "short term relationship" type of guy. If I'm in a relationship with someone, I want it to last. I'm different than most guys in the sense that I would rather have one long, solid, meaningful relationship as opposed to many different, short, and shallow relationships that focus more on the physical aspects. And yes I mean sex.

But I "get out" plenty. My feelings for her didn't stop me from "letting loose" over the summer while I was away for 2 months.

Speaking from the other side of the spectrum where I had a friend crushing on me for YEARS when I made it perfectly clear multiple times that I didn't like him like that: It's annoying. Maybe this isn't true for other girls, but for me it is. It's is annoying to have some guy puppy-dogging you for years, unable to get over you or the fact that you will never like him. Even worse is when he drops hints about liking you, or compliments you on your looks, etc. It is creepy and annoying. If he couldn't act like we were in a normal friendship and it was too hard, then he should've stopped hanging out with me.

But then some girls like the attention and like having a whipping boy to fall back on, so there you go.

I am far from Luan's puppy dog. I'm not some guy that's just constantly trying to win her heart over... I'm her best friend FIRST. Whenever she's going through anything rough or she just needs to talk, she talks to me. And whenever I have problems, I talk to her first. I don't think I made it clear enough in the OP on how close we are. Even when she's having troubles with her boyfriend, I give her advice... Which is hard on me sometimes, but I always get over it.

And deep down I'm positive she still knows I like her... And the fact that she's stayed close with me for about a year (and the fact that we went to prom and homecoming together), makes it clear that she isn't annoyed by it. But maybe she feels uncomfortable by it sometimes? I'm not entirely sure. This is why I really want to talk to her about it. I just want to know how she feels.

 

[jugfingers]

that's a little creepy dude

"here's a picture of her...and another....and here's a video of her....and another..."

a little creepy is an understatement, but it was an important part of the story

but thanks for making me feel terrible about posting my innermost thoughts and feelings to a bunch of strangers on a public forum.



I just thought you guys would appreciate a tale of love and beautiful sadness,

 

[Livvers]

Derp censor dodging.

No one insulted your "inner most thoughts". They just pointed out that it's creepy to post a bunch of pictures and then a VIDEO detailing the exact moments you can see her in said video to a bunch of strangers on a forum.

@The Real Gamer: Sorry, I didn't mean to insinuate you were "puppy-dogging" after that girl. That was kind of a blanket statement and also a bit of my experience with one of my friends.

And it's good you guys are still friends, but seriously, be careful before you ruin it or make things more awkward than they might be for her. My own said friend and I were very close for awhile. We talked a lot, shared problems, etc too. And I was all well and good with that...aside from the occasional hint that he still liked me and things like that. It made me feel awkward, I felt like I had to change my actions around him a lot, and other similar things.

You've already confronted her in the past, twice, about your feelings for her. If you do it again, I implore you to make it your -last- time.

 

[jugfingers]

Derp censor dodging.

No one insulted your "inner most thoughts". They just pointed out that it's creepy to post a bunch of pictures and then a VIDEO detailing the exact moments you can see her in said video to a bunch of strangers on a forum. .

Im not really sure why everyone was shook that I posted youtube footage of her,

I think it was a good use of technology


its not like youd be shook if I told a story about kesha and then posted a video of her to give you a better understanding of who she is.

I dunno, I just thought people would be more interested to see who the main character of my story was.

 

[Jim Morrison]

It's just a bit rude to post all kinds of stuff about people aren't actually internet famous all over this forum. Videos are a bit worse than pics I suppose.

It's basically the same reason why it's nice to blur out names here, when posting facebook pictures.

 

[jugfingers]

It's just a bit rude to post all kinds of stuff about people aren't actually internet famous all over this forum.

lol what?

why? the videos were on youtube, for anyone to see.


aka not private information or video footage


when you post a video on youtube your literally saying, "hey come look at this "

 

[Luigitoilet]

It's not technically a violation of privacy or anything. It just means you're a creeper, that's all.

But let's stop the derail.

 

[jugfingers]

It's not technically a violation of privacy or anything. It just means you're a creeper, that's all.

But let's stop the derail.

your such a good friend luigi.

 

[Luigitoilet]

I'm sorry. I'm a jerk...

 

[JPOBS]

I had a couple of heartbreaks with one girl. The usual highschool junk.
"omg why cant she see im the best guy for her why does she date these other guys but we're best friends and that makes me happy so i deal"

Looking back on it, that was the biggest ****ing waste of time. 3 years, turned down other girls trying to be with this girl, so stupid.

Havenn't felt "love" for anyone since high school (3 years ago), i find its really hard to give a **** about someone to "love" them now. Its probably a combination of me being salty about "love" and being in university where being single is really fun.

to the OP: you wont believe me now, but moving on and distancing yourself from this girl will be the best thing you can do. I know, I know, "but she's my best friend". this thing REALLY does take perspective to understand, but your life will get better when you get over her

 

[Laserbeak]

Can someone repost the pics and video? ^^