Those heartbreaking moments </3

[Major Bood]

I am LOVING this thread

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

It depends. My friend just got with the girl whom he waited for 8 years, and they are so happy. It depends who you are, really. I don't think I could've ever lived the single life, as I have no one close (really) but her. (My family is pretty much dead and gone)

So yeah, I'd say the single thing can really differ.

 

[Rici]

Small chance the relationship will last when you wait a long time for someone. Same thing happened to a friend of mine, she had this guy following her around for 6 years, finally they became a couple, went on for about 2 years because they were so 'happy' but in the end the girl realised why she didn't date him before, it's because she never was in love with the guy.

Yes, if you do end up happily ever after, that's great, but you'll have way better chance looking for a new girl where the love grows from both sides.

This is my view anyways.

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

True, I can see this happening to my friend as well. I feel bad for him, because I really see it happening, but I can't convince him that it's a possibility.


Best wishes to you TRG

 

[The Real Gamer]

Gahhhhh for the last time I'm not waiting on her until she finally says yes. I'm currently a senior in high school and once I graduate, I'm more than positive I will be able to move on easily. In the meantime I'll just continue to be there for her and love her for who she is, because there is literally NOBODY at this school that I'm not interested in other than her of course. And I will most DEFINITELY be there for her when her and her boyfriend inevitably break up.

I'm actually waiting for her to call me any minute now about something really important...

 

[jugfingers]

Can someone repost the pics and video? ^^

lol, sorry everyone already made me feel like a bizarro stalker for posting them, your too late.

I thought we were all being super creepy together, It turned out I was just being super creepy by myself.


but maybe some girls think its cute for guys to have pathological obsessions with them....

 

[Fuelbi]

Reminds me when I actually liked a girl. Then I found out that she'd rather date her ex than me who treated her better and then I got over it.

In other words, teenage love sucks no offense

 

[The Real Gamer]

Nahhh Roach teenage love does indeed suck... I want something real.

Oh but in other news... It looks like me and Luan are going to Six Flags this Saturday! Yes I am beyond excited. This will most definitely make up for our little movie drama that happened last weekend.

 

[jugfingers]

Nahhh Roach teenage love does indeed suck... I want something real.

Oh but in other news... It looks like me and Luan are going to Six Flags this Saturday! Yes I am beyond excited. This will most definitely make up for our little movie drama that happened last weekend.

oh ****, ferris wheels and stuffed animals all day

 

[E123Omega]

Reminds me when I actually liked a girl. Then I found out that she'd rather date her ex than me who treated her better and then I got over it.

In other words, teenage love sucks no offense

I still can't fathom how often this happens.

Except in my case, my ex just didn't bother trying to stay together with me.

 

[choknater]

here is something interesting

i've just recently been through a bit of a heartbreak too. still in recovery stages

"physiology of love"
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80308/
very concise

just putting it out there cuz a lot of people dont recognize this approach to coping with heartbreak

 

[jaswa]

This thread made me think of this:

A girl has a close guy friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him "strictly" as a friend. (When a girl decides that a guy is strictly her friend, he is no longer a dating option, he becomes a complete nonsexual entity in her eyes, like her brother...or a lamp.) This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy going to a job interview and the company saying, you have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

 

[JPOBS]

It depends. My friend just got with the girl whom he waited for 8 years, and they are so happy. It depends who you are, really. I don't think I could've ever lived the single life, as I have no one close (really) but her. (My family is pretty much dead and gone)

So yeah, I'd say the single thing can really differ.

i'd say the reason you have one close besides her is BECAUSE of her.

I can personally say that when i was in the situation you're currently in, i also had very little close friends. After my heart was broken for the 3rd time, i realized that I need to change my lifestyle cuz i cant live like this.

Since then, I've made many close friends, and got closer to people who i was previously aquainted with, and I have to say that overall I've been very happy since then.

Another problem is, you are probably subconsciously passing up on pursueing other possible romantic interestes which may be just as great, but you'll never know because you're so hung up on one girl who isnt interested in you romantically.

edit: "you" in this post refers to anyone in this situation.

 

[Fuelbi]

I still can't fathom how often this happens.

Except in my case, my ex just didn't bother trying to stay together with me.

The sad thing is is that she had to pick a shallow reason like me actually being shorter than her.

Pri dumb imo

 

[The Real Gamer]

oh ****, ferris wheels and stuffed animals all day

Dude I don't know what you've been smoking but Six Flags = roller coasters and thrill rides. You're thinking of a local fair.

here is something interesting

i've just recently been through a bit of a heartbreak too. still in recovery stages

"physiology of love"
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80308/
very concise

just putting it out there cuz a lot of people dont recognize this approach to coping with heartbreak

That was a very interesting read... Maybe I should change the title to "those BRAIN-breaking moments."

Thanks a ton for the link.

@jaswa That post is depressingly true... But best friend to more than friends relationships do happen. It's not a myth I've been quite a few couples that started as bffs.

But I still agree with that post.

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

Reminds me when I actually liked a girl. Then I found out that she'd rather date her ex than me who treated her better and then I got over it.

In other words, teenage love sucks no offense

You're like 12 (Waits to be yelled at), you don't know what love is.

@ TRG

Do this:

Get Soda, Peanut Butter, three sharpies (any color), and some double AA batteries.

Giver her the batteries, write "Juicy" on your pants, and take off your short and lather yourself down with Peanut Butter. Go up too her and hope it works out by offering her Soda

Real Advice:

I hope it all goes well :D

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

i'd say the reason you have one close besides her is BECAUSE of her.

I can personally say that when i was in the situation you're currently in, i also had very little close friends. After my heart was broken for the 3rd time, i realized that I need to change my lifestyle cuz i cant live like this.

Since then, I've made many close friends, and got closer to people who i was previously aquainted with, and I have to say that overall I've been very happy since then.

Another problem is, you are probably subconsciously passing up on pursueing other possible romantic interestes which may be just as great, but you'll never know because you're so hung up on one girl who isnt interested in you romantically.

edit: "you" in this post refers to anyone in this situation.

I was refering to my friend, but I feel the same. Though, me and my girlfriend rarely seriously fight. We get along, and are happy. I think I just got lucky


Edit: Sorry for double post...tried to do both of these in one...and I don't know what happened. Can delete the one above >_>

 

[E123Omega]

The sad thing is is that she had to pick a shallow reason like me actually being shorter than her.

Pri dumb imo

That's kinda the best thing ever though. You're being disliked for something you can't control/change

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

You're like 12 (Waits to be yelled at), you don't know what love is.

Wow, this is one of the worst things I read on this forum since I joined. I think you're completely oblivious to the fact that love isn't just confined to a "boy-loves-girl"-mentality.
Love comes in way more shapes than something that shallow. You know, I can imagine Fuelbi having parents, maybe a pet, that he loves, regardless of his age. That love is seriously not that different than loving someone of the opposite sex as a partner. If they deny your love, it's just completely shattering, and if they respond to your call for love, it's very easily one of the best feelings.

What you said, is ridiculous.

 

[The Real Gamer]

I'm really surprised this thread is getting so much discussion. I love it!

Keep it up guys.

@Shimazu LOL I will try that out this weekend! Wish me luck.

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

Wow, this is one of the worst things I read on this forum since I joined. I think you're completely oblivious to the fact that love isn't just confined to a "boy-loves-girl"-mentality.
Love comes in way more shapes than something that shallow. You know, I can imagine Fuelbi having parents, maybe a pet, that he loves, regardless of his age. That love is seriously not that different than loving someone of the opposite sex as a partner. If they deny your love, it's just completely shattering, and if they respond to your call for love, it's very easily one of the best feelings.

What you said, is ridiculous.

Okay.... way to be technical. I mean he doesn't know what girl-boy love is yet. At that age you think you do, (he isn't 12, it was a joke) but you really don't. There's probably a lot I don't even know.

90% of that joke by the way, but whatever. I'm pretty sure he knows I'm kidding.


Edit: If you take my first advice TRG... that'd be cool XD

Edit2: By the way, just saying this. Someone who looses a girlfriend at an older age gets hurt on deeper levels usually(it can depend), than someone in the 9th grade. They also can get over it better, at least I did back then. And my friends. I just think when your younger, boy-girl love isn't as harsh, jeez.

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

My expierence is that teenagers stay upset over lost girlfriends for so much longer than adults. Adults know how to handle the broken heart, but the teenager just gets all beaten up over it.

 

[Fuelbi]

That's kinda the best thing ever though. You're being disliked for something you can't control/change

Yeah...

You're like 12 (Waits to be yelled at), you don't know what love is.

Actually 14 going into 15 in a month thank you very much sir

EDIT:

And yes I know he's kidding. We're like bros man

 

[The Real Gamer]

So I just found out a few minutes ago from Luan herself that she ACTUALLY liked me... For 2 whole months... I can't believe it.

I'm in disbelief... I actually had a good shot at the girl of my dreams. Where did I go wrong???

I MUST GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS

 

[Ryu Shimazu]

^ Meh, honestly, my friend is with a girl he's waited forever, and I see it falling apart. The stress on the relationship, plus the fact he puts her on a pedestal will destroy it (most likely) If I were you, I'd just not try, but perhaps you'd feel better if you tried an it didn't work, because then you can say "At least we tried?" ?

@ Fuelbi: Does that mean your in high school ?XD

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

So I just found out a few minutes ago from Luan herself that she ACTUALLY liked me... For 2 whole months... I can't believe it.

I'm in disbelief... I actually had a good shot at the girl of my dreams. Where did I go wrong???

I MUST GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS

That totally depends on wether you knew her before she had a boyfriend. Also, seeing as you got turned down two months into getting to know her, I find it hard to believe she actually liked you for 2 months. This must have happened after that time.

If you could be a bit more specific when she first got with her boyfriend it would be a good help.

 

[Affinity]

She says she liked you? Then its make or break time, whether you want to believe it or not.


You need to tell her straight up that you have feelings for her and you hope she has the same feelings for you.

If she does, she's yours. If she doesn't, you have to walk away.

Even if you guys continue just being friends, are you really going to want to see her get with other guys right in front of you?

Of course not. You need to show her that you have too much self-respect to be her back-up (you are her back-up. Trust me, I know from personal experience).


You have to be a man and be straight with her.


Word of Advice: Every girl wants a guy that's nice, caring and sensitive. But that's never the kind of guy she's attracted to, and attraction is what matters.


If you want to keep talking about this with me, feel free to PM me on here or hit me up on AIM (Affinity2412). I really enjoy having conversations about this kind of thing.

 

[The Real Gamer]

^ Meh, honestly, my friend is with a girl he's waited forever, and I see it falling apart. The stress on the relationship, plus the fact he puts her on a pedestal will destroy it (most likely) If I were you, I'd just not try, but perhaps you'd feel better if you tried an it didn't work, because then you can say "At least we tried?" ?

No offense but you seem like somewhat of a debbie-downer when it comes to relationships... IDK if it's because of personal experiences or whatever but you seem to have this "love always ends anyways so whats the point" attitude.

That totally depends on wether you knew her before she had a boyfriend. Also, seeing as you got turned down two months into getting to know her, I find it hard to believe she actually liked you for 2 months. This must have happened after that time.

If you could be a bit more specific when she first got with her boyfriend it would be a good help.

It's a really long story. This thread wasn't meant to just focus on me. I could tell you the full story and it would make complete sense to you but I would just be hogging the thread.

All I will say is that it looks like there's light at the end of the tunnel after all.

She says she liked you? Then its make or break time, whether you want to believe it or not.


You need to tell her straight up that you have feelings for her and you hope she has the same feelings for you.

If she does, she's yours. If she doesn't, you have to walk away.

Even if you guys continue just being friends, are you really going to want to see her get with other guys right in front of you?

Of course not. You need to show her that you have too much self-respect to be her back-up (you are her back-up. Trust me, I know from personal experience).


You have to be a man and be straight with her.


Word of Advice: Every girl wants a guy that's nice, caring and sensitive. But that's never the kind of guy she's attracted to, and attraction is what matters.


If you want to keep talking about this with me, feel free to PM me on here or hit me up on AIM (Affinity2412). I really enjoy having conversations about this kind of thing.

I do too! I wish I wasn't the only one with a good love story! I want to hear other good ones too!

I will definitely PM you later. The convo we had last night was definitely the most intimate and honest one Luan and I have ever had over the past year. I'll let you know about it later. Too much homework at the moment. D:

 

[KingJiggyWiggy]

@The Real Gamer: That's what happens when you get close to the opposite sex. The opposite sex wasn't meant to be friends, they were meant to be married.
And LOL you wish you weren't the only one with a good love story?

Well I don't have a love story but I have a STORY. You see every woman I meet is never single. I have been concious about my looks and behaviors for a while. Women are always checking me out and I will ask if they are looking. The answer is always a smile, followed by a no. Thats my story. I have never once gotten close to anyone. I have never been asked out. No one has ever told me they were interested. It left me feeling "blank." (i.e. I don't care about anything) I am attractive and I know it, and can make anyone laugh. However it can end up getting you used by the opposite sex many times.

Problem with ending up that way is that you will eventually wh0r3 yourself the way I do. The holes in your heart are never going to be filled. You will eventually stop caring about any future possibility of a marriage. Only sex will matter to you. And, if you're "lucky," you will paid for your "services." Get it?

Ok now that I posted my story its someone elses turn!

 

[JPOBS]

No offense but you seem like somewhat of a debbie-downer when it comes to relationships... IDK if it's because of personal experiences or whatever but you seem to have this "love always ends anyways so whats the point" attitude.

and you sound like someone who has the attitude that "true love prevails over all".

this is real life, it doesnt always work out that the geek/nerd/lifetime best friend gets the girl.
also, most people in this thread who've gave you advice to "just move on" have probably been in a situation incredibly similar and had it fall through.

 

[Luigitoilet]

It's important to not fall into either extreme, really. It's sad to be so jaded that you're afraid to initiate new relationships, but it's also sad to be so naive because you're just going to get heartbroken eventually.

 

[The Real Gamer]

and you sound like someone who has the attitude that "true love prevails over all".

this is real life, it doesnt always work out that the geek/nerd/lifetime best friend gets the girl.
also, most people in this thread who've gave you advice to "just move on" have probably been in a situation incredibly similar and had it fall through.

Uhhh no just no... I don't have that attitude at all IDK where you're getting that from. No offense but I cannot take information from random people like you on the internet WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. You don't really know me. You don't really know Luan. Seriously, if you really want to give me good "advice" for my situation, you need to actually listen to the full story. The only person that has offered to do that so far is Affinity. If you would like to give good advice then just let me know and we will talk. Don't judge me and think you're some Dr. Phil-wannabe after reading a short 5 minute summary about a single night of my life. Thank you.

I will say it once again... I AM NOT THE FOCUS OF THIS THREAD. This is NOT the "Should TRG separate himself from his bff or no?" thread. I would like to focus more on other people.

 

[KingJiggyWiggy]

Uhhh no just no... I don't have that attitude at all IDK where you're getting that from. No offense but I cannot take information from random people like you on the internet WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. You don't really know me. You don't really know Luan. Seriously, if you really want to give me good "advice" for my situation, you need to actually listen to the full story. The only person that has offered to do that so far is Affinity. If you would like to give good advice then just let me know and we will talk. Don't judge me and think you're some Dr. Phil-wannabe after reading a short 5 minute summary about a single night of my life. Thank you.

I will say it once again... I AM NOT THE FOCUS OF THIS THREAD. This is NOT the "Should TRG separate himself from his bff or no?" thread. I would like to focus more on other people.

Does this mean you are not going to sell yourself to other women?

Good luck, you don't know what you're missing out on.

 

[The Real Gamer]

^When did I ever said I wouldn't? And what did that have to do with anything at all...?

 

[Luigitoilet]

^When did I ever said I wouldn't? And what did that have to do with anything at all...?

Come off of it.

 

[GoldShadow]

Gahhhhh for the last time I'm not waiting on her until she finally says yes. I'm currently a senior in high school and once I graduate, I'm more than positive I will be able to move on easily. In the meantime I'll just continue to be there for her and love her for who she is, because there is literally NOBODY at this school that I'm not interested in other than her of course. And I will most DEFINITELY be there for her when her and her boyfriend inevitably break up.

I'm actually waiting for her to call me any minute now about something really important...

I've been lurking/skimming this thread, and one thing that really strikes me is that you seem like you're obsessed. Obsession is not the same as love. Take this with a grain of salt, because I don't know you personally, but your attachment to this girl is unhealthy. You need to move on.

 

[Mini Mic]

Grab her breasts.

 

[KingJiggyWiggy]

^^ That.

Just hope you don't get slapped.

 

[JPOBS]

Uhhh no just no... I don't have that attitude at all IDK where you're getting that from. No offense but I cannot take information from random people like you on the internet WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. You don't really know me. You don't really know Luan. Seriously, if you really want to give me good "advice" for my situation, you need to actually listen to the full story. The only person that has offered to do that so far is Affinity. If you would like to give good advice then just let me know and we will talk. Don't judge me and think you're some Dr. Phil-wannabe after reading a short 5 minute summary about a single night of my life. Thank you.

I will say it once again... I AM NOT THE FOCUS OF THIS THREAD. This is NOT the "Should TRG separate himself from his bff or no?" thread. I would like to focus more on other people.

It just the impression I got from reading the posts and what you've revealed of your story on here.

Im sure theres a much deeper story and it gets very convoluted, beautiful, exotic, lonely, and enthralling. But the point is, from the little you've revealed, you seem to be in a position many other have found themselves in the past, and it is INCREDIBLY difficult to be objective/see reason about the situation when your in the situation yourself. And I (and others) know this because something seemingly identical happened to us.

But you're right, I really dont know squat about your specific situation, so everything may just be kitties and rainbows.
and the reason we keep focusing on you, is because you're one of the only ones who has revealed a story worth talking about. go figure.

 

[The Real Gamer]

I've been lurking/skimming this thread, and one thing that really strikes me is that you seem like you're obsessed. Obsession is not the same as love. Take this with a grain of salt, because I don't know you personally, but your attachment to this girl is unhealthy. You need to move on.

I seem like I am in this thread but I'm really not. I will say it again I value our friendship more than a potential relationship that we might share. I'm never trying to push a relationship onto her. And believe it or not, I was completely fine when I found out about her new boyfriend... Lets just say I was having some fun with some other girls at the time.

But that still doesn't change my feelings for her. When another girl comes along that catches my attention, I'll easily be able to move on, but for now, I still care about her the most. I think we have a very healthy relationship. Remember this is just one night. I'm not always down about her having a boyfriend. It was just something about seeing them together that really bothered me. I'm over it now. Me and Luan had a great heart-to-heart recently.

It just the impression I got from reading the posts and what you've revealed of your story on here.

Im sure theres a much deeper story and it gets very convoluted, beautiful, exotic, lonely, and enthralling. But the point is, from the little you've revealed, you seem to be in a position many other have found themselves in the past, and it is INCREDIBLY difficult to be objective/see reason about the situation when your in the situation yourself. And I (and others) know this because something seemingly identical happened to us.

But you're right, I really dont know squat about your specific situation, so everything may just be kitties and rainbows.
and the reason we keep focusing on you, is because you're one of the only ones who has revealed a story worth talking about. go figure.

I apologize I came off as rude there. I guess I'm just sick of the "you need to separate yourself from her" comments. Everyone seems to be forgetting about the friendship aspect of our relationship. It isn't a typical friendship. I guess since people actually think my story is somewhat interesting I'll just go ahead and give a good idea of how close me and Luan are.

The very first time I had a real heart to heart with Luan (about a week after I got to know her), she admitted she was upset and didn't want to talk to any guys because she was tired of them breaking up with her and feeling "used." She was close to tears because she her long time boyfriend (2 years I think) broke up with recently and was talking smack about her behind her back. She was close to tears. I realized at that moment that what she really needed and wanted at the time was a friend. I made a promise to her at that moment that no matter if we became bf/gf or not, I would never use her... And after getting to know her well enough, I told her I would never leave her. Thus began the start of the best friendship I've had so far in life.

Luan has done things for me that no other friend has even come CLOSE to doing. Here are some things that really stand out to me:

- She recently planned me a surprise 18th birthday party (my second picture in the OP) about a month ago. That meant SO much to me, especially since it came from her. I didn't even plan on having a party. Just seeing how much effort she put into that night just for me made me realize that she really does care about me. No other friend would have done that for me at all. Most memorable birthday I've had yet.

- She's always willing to listen to whatever problems I have going on in my life and unlike most people, she actually cares and wants the best for me. Plus she's always willing to cheer me up whenever I'm down. And unlike a lot of people, she understands me and I understand her. We depend on each other. It's a great feeling to know that there is someone (other than family) that you can talk to about literally anything. We've only had one fight... It was a pretty harsh one too.

- The night before I left for a 2 month trip over the summer, she was adamant on seeing me before I left. It was late at night and we just talked for seemingly hours in her driveway. When I told her it was time to go she started crying... A moment I'll never forget. That exact moment summed up how close we had gotten over the course of a school year. I hugged her and let her cry into my shoulder for at least 5 minutes. After she was done I gently kissed her on the cheek it was the most romantic moment we've had. I would compare it to one of those perfect romance moments in a movie. Looking back on that moment I want to stab myself because I SHOULD HAVE KISSED HER!!! I just recently found out that she liked me at that time. We texted each other just about every day while I was gone...

Now can you guys somewhat understand why I can never just separate myself from her? She's not just a love interest... She's the best friend I've ever had and I never want to lose it. And I don't plan on losing it just because she doesn't share my feelings (at the moment). That would be completely selfish and I would hurt her more than any other guy (person?) in her life has.