The Unhappy Thread

[Rubyiris]

No it isn't.

Also compulsive criticizing/correcting people is a weird OCD/cognitive dissonance problem I have, and nobody's managed to figure out how to treat. :|

 

[Claire Diviner]

I don't know if OCD of any kind is truly treatable. I find it as more of an extreme habit that's nigh impossible to break, but don't take my word for it; I'm by no means a doctor or psychologist.

 

[Chronodiver Lokii]

Well, thats when you have to learn self control, honestly :o it's tough, but you got this :o

 

[Rubyiris]

when it comes to OCD, self control is basically impossible. For me, when I do go against my compulsions, it's actually physically painful. worse than any migraine you could ever imagine. It's like your brain is melting.

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

Yikes, if you have even just 1 shot regularly, it can increase the chance of colon cancer and other cancers by 15%!

 

[Teran]

when it comes to OCD, self control is basically impossible. For me, when I do go against my compulsions, it's actually physically painful. worse than any migraine you could ever imagine. It's like your brain is melting.

Well now it's evident what brand of clothing you don't wear.

 

[Dooms]

mfw smooth criminal didn't read the part that said he applied to 100+ places in his county.

Seriously SC stop being a ****. I understand what he's doing may not seem right, but if he's applied for that many places and didn't make it to the interview phase for ANY of them, then he has every right to complain. You also didn't read many of his posts, did you? lol. Get all of the information you can before you incriminate someone imo xP.

But seriously Rubyiris, how do you feel if someone gets fired from a job? Are they allowed to complain? o:

 

[Teran]

mfw smooth criminal didn't read the part that said he applied to 100+ places in his county.

Seriously SC stop being a ****. I understand what he's doing may not seem right, but if he's applied for that many places and didn't make it to the interview phase for ANY of them, then he has every right to complain. You also didn't read many of his posts, did you? lol. Get all of the information you can before you incriminate someone imo xP.

But seriously Rubyiris, how do you feel if someone gets fired from a job? Are they allowed to complain? o:

Ruby, stop it. People who have a job can still complain; there are ****ty jobs, ****ty bosses, and ****ty conditions that are worthy of complaining about. Sure, I sympathize with you about not having a job, but you have no right to determine what people are allowed to complain about. Drop it.

As for everyone else, do the same and drop it.

Edit: Also did none of you listen to Werekill? He already asked you not to push the issue with Rubyiris anymore, this really doesn't need to continue. I mean everyone's parroting the same message now really, I think it's quite enough.

Does Teran have to choke a *****?

The "don't push the issue" also extends to NOT pushing the issue further with SC. Next person who responds will be infracted, and I don't infract softly.

 

[Dooms]

I mean, it's not like the conversation continued past that point or anything.

also didn't notice new page lololol.

Whatever though...

Psycho, just don't have shots! Problem solved by 15%! : D.

 

[Froggy]

@Rubyris: My job is imperfect, and I'll complain all I like. Today for example I had to work on some boring projects. Not difficult, but boring none the less. :/

Also I had to pay almost 400$ to get my computer fixed. That ****ing blows.

 

[Shorts]

Don't do shots Pyscho. More for me.

 

[Lore]

Froggy, edit that out unless you want an infraction from Teran. I'll be nice and give you a chance.

Unhappy mood because bleh.

 

[Froggy]

Edit what exactly Werekill? I don't see which part of my post was inappropriate. Is it the expletive that got censored?

 

[Rubyiris]

Well now it's evident what brand of clothing you don't wear.

I actually have a bunch of Addidas sportswear from my teen years that still fit me XD

 

[Luigitoilet]

Edit what exactly Werekill? I don't see which part of my post was inappropriate. Is it the expletive that got censored?

It's appparently infraction worthy to call Ruby out on attacking people in this thread whose woes aren't woeful enough for him.

unhappy:

I almost fell in love with this stupid crazy girl over the past couple weeks. then she told me she had a boyfriend and is pregnant. Her life is a trainwreck but a part of me still wants her against all logic and reason.

 

[Rubyiris]

You could have a splinter and john about it, and I wouldn't care, but the second anyone complains about their job, I get superangermad. :|

LT, you seriously need to learn how to read.

 

[Teran]

It is because he's been called out on it and since the topic is just going to dominate and spiral this thread into a **** filled abyss, we thought it best to curb it.

Edit: Oh ****ing jumping jackrabbits this is exactly why.

 

[Luigitoilet]

I also like how Werekill warned a user about getting an infraction from...someone else who isn't the mod of this room.

 

[Teran]

Alright I just went rapid fire on this thread.

If this continues, I'll lock the thread for 6 hours.

 

[Morin0]

Alright I just went rapid fire on this thread.

"Through Fire, Justice is Served!"

 

[Master Xanthan]

It's appparently infraction worthy to call Ruby out on attacking people in this thread whose woes aren't woeful enough for him.

unhappy:

I almost fell in love with this stupid crazy girl over the past couple weeks. then she told me she had a boyfriend and is pregnant. Her life is a trainwreck but a part of me still wants her against all logic and reason.

Do yourself a favor and forget about her. Even if she were to break up with her boyfriend, she is still going to have a kid.

 

[Teran]

Do yourself a favor and forget about her. Even if she were to break up with her boyfriend, she is still going to have a kid.

If only it were so easy.

Not everyone was smart like me and able to drown the pains of love in a sea of meaningless physical encounters and alcoholic shenanigans.

Sucks to be clean again!

 

[Froggy]

I think it's dumb that Rubyris is being privillaged, the same way a spoiled child would when older kids say something the brat doesn't like and the Adult censoders everyone. Infract Rubyris instead of infracting everyone else why not? But w/e.

I am really annoyed that my ride home from work is usually the last one to leave the office. I'll never understand why people feel compelled to stay after the work day is over(maybe he gets payed for it and needs the extra cash idk), even when he leaves so late, I'll still reach home as early if not slightly earlier than walking home myself so it's not something I can really be upset about. But it's just really ****ing annoying sitting down doing nothing for 30 minutes on this censored as **** computer.

 

[Teran]

Infract Rubyris instead of infracting everyone else why not? But w/e.

I did infract him.

Oh and well done, I won't be awake in 6 hours someone else unlock it for me.

 

[Lore]

I'll be nice and unlock this an hour early. First person to bring up the issue again gets a 2 point infraction.

 

[Reizilla]

My job sucks I play trumpet with various school groups and they always take forever to pay me and the gigs are super sparse. It's been two months already and they're still doing paperwork >_< I need that money for rent (due on the 5th) and for summer classes (due on the 9th)

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

Got into an insignificantly small argument with someone who said referencing slavery is racist, even if done in historical context.

...Seriously?

Some may call it insensitive, but racist?

 

[Claire Diviner]

Got into an insignificantly small argument with someone who said referencing slavery is racist, even if done in historical context.

...Seriously?

Some may call it insensitive, but racist?

People who believe it's racist are ignorant. It's one thing to say that actually hating black people (or anyone of any race for that matter) is racist, since it is, but to act as if mentioning the history of their struggle (as if to say its history should simply be forgotten like "water under the bridge") is a bad thing is being completely apathetic, even if they don't mean to be. If referencing slavery is racist, then why the hell does Black History Month exist and supported by the black community?

 

[Master Xanthan]

Got into an insignificantly small argument with someone who said referencing slavery is racist, even if done in historical context.

...Seriously?

Some may call it insensitive, but racist?

Sounds like people will find an excuse to call anything racist these days.

 

[SnackAttack]

People who believe it's racist are ignorant. It's one thing to say that actually hating black people (or anyone of any race for that matter) is racist, since it is, but to act as if mentioning the history of their struggle (as if to say its history should simply be forgotten like "water under the bridge") is a bad thing is being completely apathetic, even if they don't mean to be. If referencing slavery is racist, then why the hell does Black History Month exist and supported by the black community?

Sorry to derail the thread, but I think Black History Month is completely asinine, and I know I'm not the only one. Why should Black History be relegated to one month? It should all be celebrated and remembered all the time.

 

[Claire Diviner]

Sorry to derail the thread, but I think Black History Month is completely asinine, and I know I'm not the only one. Why should Black History be relegated to one month? It should all be celebrated and remembered all the time.

That goes without saying. Personally, I too feel the same way, and what better way to show this than the following:

 

[Zook]

Girlfriend is away for the week.

 

[Claire Diviner]

I'm suddenly being haunted by a painful memory of my past, and reflecting on how it has affected me at this point in my life. Who would have thought that even online debates can dig up memories from deep within; a memory that one would rather not remember.

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

Morgan Freeman had/ has an awesome series on the science channel

But I stopped watching tv because of one of the other series with that whimsically talking guy.

 

[Shorts]

I have a dilemma, and I am looking for some advice. So before I jump into the problem at hand I need to give you guys the back story, and sidenote, this is about relation****.

So I was dating this guy late 2011, he was my first REAL boyfriend, and I really fell for him. (Blame the british accent, tall, dark hair, and intellect) Around February he ended up moving to California, and we broke up. It was hard on me, but I eventually moved on. Come April he moved back, and, well, I gave up everything at the chance of getting back with him. Eventually, he pretty much was like "I like you, but I dont have the time"..... aka I'm a royal buttface. After that, I ACTUALLY started moving on from him. My feelings for him weren't so... extreme. I pretty much accepted that I would never be with him again, moved on to a new guy, and yeah.

That's where we are. I've been seeing this guy since late April, and we're at the point where we want to talk about... making it exlusive... But my ex texted me last night. The one I once would give ANYTHING for, is essentially, making his move. Part of me wants nothing to do with him, and part of me wants nothing but him.

As for the guy I'm dating now(Tyler), I really like him. First person I've LEGITIMATELY liked.. er, well, since my ex (Russell). I don't want to give up on this relationship, but the way Russell is talking... he sounds like he wants to get back together.

What do you think? Advice? Please.

 

[Dooms]

This is a really tough situation.

You have to make a choice here regardless of what happens. Which one do you want more? How long do you think you'll miss Russell or Tyler once you make the choice?

Consider how strong your feelings are for both side before choosing one or the other. No matter which one you choose, you're going to regret the choice for a bit if you're close to both. Plain and simple.

Did you and Russell break up due to the moving or were there other things? If it was just moving, and it's been two months and you're not over him still, then I'd suggest going with Russell. If there were other reasons, then there is a chance that those reasons could come back up after dating him again, which could leave you in a way worse position than you are in now. If that's the case, I would suggest Tyler.

In the end, just choose the one that would make you the happiest. Think about how happy you were with Russell, and think about how happy Tyler makes you. After all, the goal is to make you as happy as possible.

Good luck, Shortiecanbrawl!

 

[Teran]

I have a dilemma, and I am looking for some advice. So before I jump into the problem at hand I need to give you guys the back story, and sidenote, this is about relation****.

So I was dating this guy late 2011, he was my first REAL boyfriend, and I really fell for him. (Blame the british accent, tall, dark hair, and intellect) Around February he ended up moving to California, and we broke up. It was hard on me, but I eventually moved on. Come April he moved back, and, well, I gave up everything at the chance of getting back with him. Eventually, he pretty much was like "I like you, but I dont have the time"..... aka I'm a royal buttface. After that, I ACTUALLY started moving on from him. My feelings for him weren't so... extreme. I pretty much accepted that I would never be with him again, moved on to a new guy, and yeah.

That's where we are. I've been seeing this guy since late April, and we're at the point where we want to talk about... making it exlusive... But my ex texted me last night. The one I once would give ANYTHING for, is essentially, making his move. Part of me wants nothing to do with him, and part of me wants nothing but him.

As for the guy I'm dating now(Tyler), I really like him. First person I've LEGITIMATELY liked.. er, well, since my ex (Russell). I don't want to give up on this relationship, but the way Russell is talking... he sounds like he wants to get back together.

What do you think? Advice? Please.

First up you need to realise one thing, romantic love is an addiction. In fact, the sensations of romantic love come from the activation of the brain system stimulated by the rush of cocaine. It's driving, obsessive, and motivating. It undermines critical thinking in the cortical sections of your brain.

SO basically first thing you need to be wary of is that you could very easily make a rash, risky, and stupid decision and you should NOT beat yourself up if you do because these things are very very hard to control. I mean ****, if we could control them, there would be no fun to it right?

One thing you want to consider is which one did you connect better with? The key to a lasting relationship is someone you feel you mesh well with, click with. You're all young so you're going to be travelling a rocky road, one problem is a lot of people expect the stability of a well structured marriage that has lasted a long time. That doesn't happen, your early experiences will be plagued with uncertainty and anxiety, and only after a very long time will you build a stable and calm relationship.

I'm still not being useful. Right.

You should be introspective. The first conversation you should have is not with people on SWF, your friends, or even the two boys you're talking about, the first conversation you need to have is a brutally honest conversation with yourself, the most difficult task of all. You need to be honest about what you want, what you like about each guy, how they fit into what you want. When you've weighed it all together, you should then make the decision that you feel is best.

It may not be the right one, but the simple fact is you can never follow someone else's advice if deep down it conflicts with what you want. You will try to do so consciously and end up ****ing it up with what you really want, and it will just create a double whammy of disaster. When you do what you truly want to do it is merely satisfying your needs, and that's what's important right? If it turns out to be a mistake, you learn, and you probably won't repeat. It's hard to learn from others' advice and mistakes, but it's easy to learn from your own. If it turns out well, then you've just hit the jackpot. The point is, nobody here has the answer for you, you're the one with the answers to all your questions, you just have to learn how to ask yourself.



That's my quota of peeling away the surface layer satisfied. Yup.

 

[Shorts]

Yeah, I know its going to honestly come down to what I really want, which I'm still not sure what that is. Russell is like a high stakes jackpot. There is a good chance **** couldn't work out, but if it did... it would be amazing. With Tyler, me and him are frankly, on lock. We have been dating for about two months, and we are about to discuss where to go from here. And, I really like him. I KNOW I could be happy with him... but as happy as I would be with Russell? *shrugsandgivesup*

The worst part of it is that a month ago even, I would have begged for this choice to happen, I would have done anything to get back with him, but now, I was hoping I would never see him, so I could finally move on. The one time I don't want him to want me, he does..


I know whatever choice I make, I'm going to think it was partly the wrong one.

 

[Teran]

You can be in love with one person, attached to another, and sexually attracted to countless.

We're not very well designed lol.

Making all the pieces fit together and being happy is one of life's true challenges. All I can say is good luck.

 

[Holder of the Heel]

Well, if you choose Russell, Tyler is going to be pissed because you guys are already together. I feel common sense logic would tell you to stick with the one you have, because you know, it'd make Tyler feel like sloppy seconds that you held onto until what you really wanted decided to show up. I know it may sound bad that you are choosing over how Tyler would feel about it, but you said you were happy with him, and honestly, if you did care about him, you wouldn't drop him like that. You aren't really losing anything here, just stick with what you have Russell can go back to doing whatever it is he does that is so important. If you and Tyler don't last, and whenever you are wanting a relationship, however long that takes for you, go check on him then.



The last part of what Morgan said was cut off. "I'm going to ask you to stop calling me a black man, and I'm going to stop calling you a white man."