Hello everyone. I know some people want to move past it already but I'd like to say that everyone banding together the last 10 or so pages really moved me.
I used to have an account about 4 years ago, and for privacy's sake I won't say what it is, just that I abandoned it around 2014. The reason being that GooberGrape happened and this site suddenly became infested with Vivian James and Pepe the Frog avatars. What this meant was that a horrifying amount of people either weren't taking GooberGrape seriously (I'm not using the incident's real name but you know what I'm talking about) or knew what it was and sided with the worst people on the internet. It's when I decided to leave permanently and just go into a private Discord server with the friends I'd made on the site in the first place.
However, those friends, mostly male and with almost no women, didn't take the incident seriously either, which should have been a warning sign, but at the time they were my only friends and I wasn't ready to face reality at the time. Eventually, after a couple of years in the server, one of them on Twitter made a transphobic joke using the slur "tr*p".
By this point, I had made a brand new group of friends on the side, separate from this one, and many of them were transgender and opened my eyes to their plight, which I shamefully never even considered before. Also, several of the new friends I'd made in this new group were women, further expanding my empathy. Finally, I decided that it was only fair to confront this other friend about the slur they used.
Though I thought of them as a good friend, capable of being better, my attempt to get them to reconsider their usage of a very harmful word ended disastrously because they got very angry that I was trying to "change their behavior" based on my "momentary offense" since they were only "being dank." They manipulated me into feeling bad about my getting them to reflect on themselves and how what they said could harm others, intentionally or unintentionally. They got the final word on and told me that they absolutely weren't gonna read my last plea to get them to reconsider because they (a cishet white dude) had lived a hard life and dealt with whatever crap life threw at them so why should anyone feel like an "exception"?
Which was utter bullcrap. This former friend had indeed lived a hard life, but it was never gonna be as hard as people with a different gender, sexuality, or race than him. These people get to feel like an """exception""" because they f***ing ARE, which no one is allowed to deny because their very humanity is pushed down by others simply for BEING. I had enough and decided, on the spot, to ghost him and the rest of my old group of friends, who I had begun to suspect were enabling him and who I knew were still posting Pepe the Frog memes despite knowing the dark new context he had been thrust into. I left the server, my old account, and quietly unfriended all of them on the 3DS and Wii U friends lists.
So you're probably wondering why I'm bringing all of this up, and it's pretty simple. It's because, since that old group of friends had turned out to be people I no longer wanted part of, it meant that the last part of Smashboards I liked had become bad, too. This old group was the one nice thing to come out of my previous time here and all this solidified that I never, ever wanted to come back to this site.
A year later, however, I'd been feeling wistful for Smash talk ever since Ultimate got announced back in March. Here's the problem though--my new group of friends, as wonderful and kind and amazing and educational as they are to me, who I will infinitely treasure more than the old group--well they're not as big on the series, and some of them outright hate Smash lol. I don't think any lesser of them for it. As a result though, the fevered discussion on Smash I used to have with my old group wasn't something I could participate in with my new group. All I knew was that I was never going back to the old group ever again, so that left me with few options for getting all my Smash hype out.
So I decided to lurk in these forums for a while. Just to...see what people were saying on a place that wasn't Twitter.
And what luck, I managed to catch, in my lurking, the beautiful display of humanity and empathy toward transgender people AND users being very anti GooberGrape, showing as appropriately little forgiveness toward those who would demean others for being who they are as I had.
It was all I wanted. Smashboards had been redeemed by a great amount, if not totally (it looks like Pepe the Frog avatars are still around, but thankfully they're less plentiful). This website no longer felt like it was occupied by a bunch of covert 4chan sh*theads.
All of this is to say that, while this is my first post on a new account, I've actually been around for a while. And, at least until Smash Ultimate comes out or any post-release DLC ends, I'm happy to rejoin in the Smash hype I love so much.
It's great to be back.