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[Axel]

Ex: Girl A knows Guy B likes her. However, Guy B hasn't spoken outright or tried to push the relationship forward in any way. Thus, Girl A feels it's ok to keep Guy B around "as a friend," even though she's aware that Guy B has feelings for her. It's a stupid thing to do no matter how you look at it, honestly. Those girls aren't worth keeping around.

Although, I have to agree that telling someone that they're "an attractive person" isn't the same as saying "I think you're attractive" or "I'm attracted to you." They're similar statements except one is a compliment while the other is a blatant display of interest in order to push the acquaintanceship/friendship further almost 90% of the time (the other 10% being guys who say it, but don't have the gall to stick to their guns and push all the way because they don't want to risk losing their connection to the other person.)

Saying someone is attractive and saying that they have an interest in them are two different things. You can say that you're fine with being just friends but you still find her attractive.

As long as he didn't imply that he still had feelings for her, it shouldn't have mattered at all.

Yeah see this is what I think the problem is is our definitions. I've told her many times she's hot/beautiful/kawaii/cute and she always been fine with that. I think 'attracted' to her matches with overswarms and Bardull's definitions in a way that it means I'm tryna get at her. But yeah that's not the case, not that I wouldn't if that was ever acceptable. Like those dudes in the video said, of course I would if she did as well and was single. But at as it is now not at all.

You're all idiots.

The wording " But I told her I accepted we'd only just be friends a long while ago. So the former."

I'd ACCEPTED WE'D ONLY BE FRIENDS is a tactit admission he wanted a relationship. Telling your friends they look hot is fine. How do you think I landed living with 7 girls.

This is true. But yeah I thought that was just obvious.

This is pretty much the convo:

Spoiler

@Ran: alright, that's probably cause I haven't been on.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

Goddamn you half Japanese girls. Do it to me every time.

 

[Asdioh]

that isn't awkward though


weird.

 

[Asdioh]

holy **** i'm in the DotA 2 beta?

 

[ranmaru]

yeah we are still bros. I am not threatened. But I'm not sharing her. ;o

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

Korean girls tend to be conservative btw.

 

[Asdioh]

define "conservative"

 

[BarDulL]

Traditional.

inb4 define traditional.

Although my last girl friend wasn't very conservative. She was pretty open minded and liberal for the most part.

Edit: Yes, she was Korean. XD

Edit2: Like, SUPER Korean. Like, living in Koreatown Korean.

 

[Asdioh]

define "traditional"

 

[ranmaru]

In that case, I want some Sichuan style food.

And i recently got a book by Fuchsia Dunlop about how to cook it and all. MMMMM. Me and July are very interested in it.

But yeah dem asians.

 

[th3kuzinator]

tbh that conversation was different than what i thought you alluded it to be

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

1. Holding to traditional attitudes and values and cautious about change or innovation, typically in politics or religion.
2. (Of dress or taste) Sober and conventional

Then again, everyone is different.

 

[Axel]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZ1Mi77nogQ

I listened to this five times. That beat is so hilarious. It's impossible to dance to it without laughing.

 

[#HBC | Gorf]

And then you realize how crap the Skrillex song is compared to this one.

 

[BarDulL]

Like, they're in tune with traditional Korean culture.

Ex: they act a certain way because that's what's deemed appropriate in Korean culture.

Ex2: Conservative Koreans probably acknowledge marriages to be set up for them by their families (that means getting shacked up with a girl or guy of your family's choosing, not necessarily by your own choosing.)

 

[th3kuzinator]

And then you realize how crap the Skrillex song is compared to this one.

Hell no.

 

[#HBC | Gorf]

Yeeeeeeea. Def not one of Skrillex's more defining moments yo.

 

[Axel]

tbh that conversation was different than what i thought you alluded it to be

 

[Asdioh]

traditional as in no sex until marriage?

i was friends with some south korean exchange students a few years ago... i'm pretty sure one of them liked me, and i kinda liked her too but i didn't do anything about it partly because i knew they were all moving back to korea after the year. we still talk on facebook sometimes... and man she's cute.

 

[#HBC | Gorf]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=bULBnef6w6k

I can imagine Zen being this now that I know he's black.

 

[Vinylic.]

Wow, hate on that beat guys. Just hate on it.

I must be the only person in the world to love that remix.

 

[Axel]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=bULBnef6w6k

I can imagine Zen being this now that I know he's black.

Haha man. I'm the only one in my family that can't rap. Even my younger sister can rap better than me.

Never really listened to Hopsin, but I liked that. 3:10 turned me on.

 

[#HBC | Nabe]

Interesting. BTW I totally would July.

BTW I totally would Swiss

 

[ranmaru]

BTW I totally would Swiss

BTW I totally would Nabe

 

[Axel]

BTW I totally would Zen.

 

[Dooms]

BTW I totally would Zen.

BTW I totally would too.

 

[Vinylic.]

Wait, I thought zen left.

...

Wait a minute.

 

[ranmaru]

He did. He's in our hearts.

 

[John2k4]

Haha man. I'm the only one in my family that can't rap. Even my younger sister can rap better than me.

Had to rap with a group of two others for a school project.
It was so awful...

 

[ranmaru]

Why? : [ You had to rap?

 

[vanderzant]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=bULBnef6w6k

I can imagine Zen being this now that I know he's black.

lmao yes!

 

[Asdioh]

haha did somebody just imply that Zen is black? xD

 

[Toastin Dat Walrus]

Remember when this was a thing?

 

[ranmaru]

Ha. Korf. I laughed.

 

[#HBC | Dancer]

Bardull your thoughts are interesting but it's contradictory to the whole "friend zone" Phenomenon. If a girl is keeping you "as a friend" then they're probably not interested in you sexually, cus to my understanding a guy who's simply "friendly" isn't appealing.

 

[#HBC | Dancer]

that isn't awkward though


weird.

Actually reading Zen's conversation I could totally see how that could be awkward. I'm pretty much picturing the scene of awkward silences and unexpected tones of voice in my head right now.

Trust me, I would know.

 

[ranmaru]

read that as *unexpected tones of violence...

 

[July]

If a friend told me they were attracted to me, especially an old friend, I would simply take it as compliment and take it with the best of intentions; they are just being honest with me and if the attraction no longer exists and they aren't trying to break up my relationship or anything, then it may be a little awkward for a while but I don't see it being a long-term or friendship-breaking issue.

That's just me though, and since the vast majority of my male friends are gay or in a relationship, its not really an issue I've thought about until right now.

My thoughts exactly.

Don't sweat it bro, some/most girls can and will twist anything to make it your fault, not kidding.

...Truth. In relationships it's a matter of emotional domination and manipulation; guys can do it too but girls are better at, not gonna lie.

Interesting. BTW I totally would July.

Thank you, I will take that as a compliment :D And I'll take this as an even greater compliment:

yeah we are still bros. I am not threatened. But I'm not sharing her. ;o

My bf is awesome <3

 

[Axel]

Well things are ok now I guess, but wtf

She's always told me that she doesn't look at other guys.

Yesterday she goes "I would be attracted to you but I love my bf too much".

Then tonight she comes back completely in awe over this dude she just met... There's more to it, but I'll respect her privacy. But she is like into him and **** and asking me for advice about it

ok



But yeah whatever **** it. I'm doped out on medication and can't feel anything anyway. Thank you for the discussion dgames.

 

[ranmaru]

Hmmm. Weird. Although, I think telling you that she WOULD be attracted to you but can't, kind of aligns with her "Oh you can't talk about that it ruins our friendship! <3". Her talking about some other guy she finds attractive wouldn't influence the relationship.