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Am I selfish for doing this?

BlueTerrorist

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Ever been told that you were sefish because you wanted to stay single? Yeah I'm at that point where I don't want to deal with women anymore. I'm sick of seeing Valentine's Day, it's so stupid (But that's not what this is about). When people I know ask me about my relationship status, I usually tell them I don't want a girlfriend and prefer to be alone. Some leave me be, sometimes I'm called selfish for my decision to not go into a relationship. I mostly get this from couples XD. I just don't see myself with anyone, girls are just going to slow me down, not like any of them were attracted to me anyway.

This is my reason why I took myself out of the dating scene and good thing too. Am I selfish for ignoring women as far as dating and relationships is concerned?
 
Chris Lionheart

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Umm... I wouldn't call you selfish... I'ld call you intelligent. Who needs most of these people when you're still a teenager.


As for me, I judge people on a person to person basis. Most people I ignore.
 
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Why would you be selfish for staying single?

In most cases that's the complete opposite since you're not running after girls to satisfy your sexual urges. That's pretty much the main reason teenagers hook up, no need for bull**** about the love.
 
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yes you are selfish and you will burn in ****ation for what you are doing to yourself and everyone around you
 
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How would you be selfish because you don't want to date other people? Just think about the opposite of that -- being selfless is doing as many random hookups and crap as you possibly can.

That's not doing anyone any favors.

There are some things you can legitimately argue it's selfish to do, and even some of those are kind of...well, selfish or not, who gives a crap, do what you want. I've never thought of it being selfish to say "I don't want to date", but if it is in some way, shape, or form selfish to not want to get into a relationship then this is one of those many cases where society can just go to hell.

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not if their opinions are right (like mine)
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You might be selfish if your parents want you to, but other people that have no ties with you makes no difference.
 
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Selfish:

–adjective 1. devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.

wanting to be alone is not necessarily selflish, but your reasons for wanting to be alone, could be construed as such.
 
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If you're selfish, then I'm a narcissist.

I don't know why people would call you selfish for wanting to stay single. The only thing I can think of is maybe they view it as a sign of being self-centered. Not as in: "Being single is selfish behavior." More like: "Only selfish people don't want to be in relationships. They obviously can't handle looking out for another person other than themselves."

But, really, I wouldn't call it selfish behavior. It's just that a lot of people can't fathom someone actively wanting to be alone, or that being alone could be a choice.
 
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I wouldn't consider that selfish at all. If anything it shows maturity in that you have your priorities in check and/or don't want to deal with something without a whole heart.
 
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LashD094 said:
Well if ur a teenager, STAY OUT OF IT. teen relationships last about a week at the most from what i've seen.
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I've been with my first girlfriend for more than three years now.


Anywho, calling such a thing selfish is by itself ********, because people who are in a relationship, are also doing it it out of (atleast if it's a healthy relationship) selfishness.

They feel good with a certain person, so they stick to it. Because they want to feel good.

You feel good being by yourself. So you stick to it.
 
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No, you're not selfish. I've never had a girlfriend, but I'm hoping Valentine's Day is the one day I can impress a girl I fancy. ¬_¬
Most relationships aren't that great. Everyone knows relationships are built on mistrust, dishonesty and poor communication. You might get one when you're older though, relationships at school are weird.
 
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I believe you're more sensible than selfish because even chasing girls to satisfy your sexual desires if vulgarly selfish for you are attempting to satisfy yourself with the hedonistic pursuit of women.

You believe that women slow you down, which I respect, but if you have fallen in love with a woman (at a later age) and you share similar characteristics, it wouldn't be insensible to stay in a relationship with said person.

If you're a teenager then being around girls if perhaps more selfish because one is enduring puberty with opportunistic hedonism.

If you feel homosexual feelings then I respect your feelings to the extent that you don't then become as selfish as your pairs of friends and start satisfying your sexual desires with men- but I'm not assuming that you're homosexual; I'm just stating this point.

tl; dr version (?): You're not as selfish as your sex-crazed pair of friends; what you're doing is sensible.



Lythium said:
VodkaHaze said:
Everyone knows bad relationships are built on mistrust, dishonesty and poor communication.
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Fixed it for ya.
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Good work ;)
 
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rhan said:
Being singles is nice.

Getting my **** pulled is better.
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Unless you're unfortunate enough to not have hands, you can do that yourself.

Anyway, I've never had a girlfriend either, for three main reasons:

a) Being gay (very much hate this, but oh well...)

b) None of them are interested in me

c) They're already in relationships
 
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I guess masturbation talk can't be avoided in a single people thread.

=/
 
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What I don't get is why you'd get a girl to use her hands on you when

a) they're no good at it

b) they have far better things they can do

c) they're no good at it, you can do it better yourself.
 
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