Why am I such a bad loser?

[momochuu]

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I've noticed this for a while now. Every time I lose a match in Smash, I turn into a completely different person. It's not even everything I lose at, it's just Smash. For some reason I just cannot take a loss in this game at all. When I win, I feel like the most amazing person on the planet. When I lose, I feel like someone kicked me in the chest and put my face in dirt lol.

I think I'm just self-conscious. I don't know.<!--break-->

 

[Hylian]

It's called being competitive.

No one likes losing, some just learn to deal with it better then others.

 

[highfive]

I believe that you just love the high of winning far too much.

 

[Mario Zelda Fan]

I have the same problem. I can't take a loss either, even though it's only a friendly. I feel your pain. If someone starts pwning me non-stop, regardless of if it's a friendly or not, I may just end the match, leave a nasty swear like this one that I left yesterday: "I F******* SUCK AHH" and then I left.

 

[Martel Hammer]

I used to hate losing when I was small. Yeah, I know most kids exhibit "sore losing" to an extent, but I think I felt the effects more than usual.
Now, though, I still don't like losing, but I can kinda control it better now.

I would say, don't worry about taking losing so seriously, if it's part of your personality, accept that you like to win. Like Hylian said, some people are geared toward that winning edge; although not always true, I think most people who excel in their field possess this trait.

 

[¯\_S.(ツ).L.I.D._/¯]

I'm not really a bad loser, except when I feel I should've won. It's almost always my fault that I lose, but I always get really angry if I'm not playing well AT ALL or I make a bunch of stupid mistakes.

Last tourney I almost spiked my controller I was so pissed.

 

[momochuu]

I mean, I know I'm competitive. :x That's why I try to get better all the time to avoid losing. I don't mind losing if I lose to someone amazing, like if I played Ally or something. If I lose to someone just doing stupid ****, then I get pissed.

 

[Frown]

Do you think stuff like "His controller was better than mine" when you lose?

 

[momochuu]

Lol, no. I don't john about it, I usually just think I need to get better.

 

[Cherry64]

Lol all girls are Self concious!
no but really, they are :\ about some part of their body at least.
might be that you are self conscious when it comes to games, who knows, I bet though that you figure why should you lose to someone you know you can beat? maybe tehy played super gay like and won because of it, that always pisses me off.

 

[Indigo Jeans]

I'm not really a bad loser, except when I feel I should've won. It's almost always my fault that I lose, but I always get really angry if I'm not playing well AT ALL or I make a bunch of stupid mistakes.

Last tourney I almost spiked my controller I was so pissed.

.....Brother.....?

I have that same exact problem. I don't exactly get pissed that I lose, I get pissed when I lose, and I know I should've won.

 

[|RK|]

I mean, I know I'm competitive. :x That's why I try to get better all the time to avoid losing. I don't mind losing if I lose to someone amazing, like if I played Ally or something. If I lose to someone just doing stupid ****, then I get pissed.

I just smile and begin planning my revenge.

 

[Teran]

It's because you are a Winrar Karina.
When you are a Winrar you cannot take being a loser.

It's because you're not just playing Smash for ****s and giggles, you put time and effort into it as a competitive game, and so you feel like crap when all of that seems to have been fruitless.

 

[Turbo Ether]

I'm pretty much the opposite. I feel zero emotion towards the game, win or lose. I do okay in tournament, but a bit of emotional motivation could probably help me improve. For Kawaii, just try channel the anger into motivation/focus and remain respectful of your opponent.

 

[Noobicidal]

Be a low-tier main for a month. Your entire view of winning and losing will be shattered.

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Be a low-tier main for a month. Your entire view of winning and losing will be shattered.

I've got the same problem (ever since a month ago, wtf?).
And I've got to say, I've tried Maining Link. And it just pissed me off even more =T.

 

[Nixernator]

You have pride from the sounds of it. You take pride in one of the things you obviously are quite skilled at. Everytime you lose its like being told that you aren't as good as you think you are, its ok 90% of competitive smashers are like this. Just don't put pressure on yourself to win so much (which is why you make dumb mistakes probably) and keep relaxed and you should find you don't have much to be down about.

 

[Heartz♥]

Because you feel that all your efforts have gone to waste, even when they haven't. People are supposed to lose a few or some times, because it only strengthens your prowess as far as learning what you need to work on.

I love to win, but when I lose, I laugh my ****ing *** off.

 

[PhoenixoKaZe]

feel great when u win, feel good when u lose cause then u can look at the stupid things u did and then just laugh at it xD

 

[momochuu]

That's the problem though. I can't just laugh at a loss.

 

[Zero Beat]

I'm a bit different in games:

When I lose, I feel like didn't do things correctly or promptly when I had the chance, I feel ashamed. When I win, things feel normal, order is restored/maintained!

 

[§leepy God]

♪ Way too into Smash I see. Maybe you forgot the term fun in Smash Bros, tends to happen when you main Ice Climbers. †

 

[Moblin]

Be a low-tier main for a month. Your entire view of winning and losing will be shattered.

This.






ten million of em.

 

[PhoenixoKaZe]

That's the problem though. I can't just laugh at a loss.

ah ic, I used to hve that problem competitively, remember to play not only to win but also for ur own amusement, that applies usually to friendlies of any kind of game haha, but to me if u still feel down, I`ll just give u a big hug ^^^^ haha

 

[momochuu]

♪ Way too into Smash I see. Maybe you forgot the term fun in Smash Bros, tends to happen when you main Ice Climbers. †

Wow, your logic is just...amazing man. Wow.

 

[Morrigan]

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I've noticed this for a while now. Every time I lose a match in Smash, I turn into a completely different person. It's not even everything I lose at, it's just Smash. For some reason I just cannot take a loss in this game at all. When I win, I feel like the most amazing person on the planet. When I lose, I feel like someone kicked me in the chest and put my face in dirt lol.

I think I'm just self-conscious. I don't know.<!--break-->

Lol, you know, it's funny when you and Chaco play while we're on the chatroom because you guys totally hate each other while you play

 

[NintendoMan07]

I suffer from this problem, except it's gotten so bad to the point where I'm just growing complacent with losing, as if it's what's supposed to happen.

Heck, I've never known what WINNING feels like.

A friend of mine gets bothered that I'm SDing most of the match every match. I don't get it. If his objective is to win, and he's winning, why care? That's all playing to win is about, right?

 

[OutlawStar]

I'm not really a bad loser, except when I feel I should've won. It's almost always my fault that I lose, but I always get really angry if I'm not playing well AT ALL or I make a bunch of stupid mistakes.

Last tourney I almost spiked my controller I was so pissed.

Yeah, It is more like I am mad at myself for not winning. Perfectionism.

@NintendoMan-Maybe he is trying to have fun, you should try sometime. He is only playing to win if enjoys beating you and doesn't help you to get better. You think to hard buddy.

 

[Xivii]

I know the Real reason why but I'm afraid you would hate me if I told you.


-KOTH

 

[Heartz♥]

This is one of the reasons why I never played Bunny that much when I had a Wii. Because she gets so sad if I win and it depresses ME, and I'M supposed to be the nonchalant bimbo.

 

[Kinzer]

That's the problem though. I can't just laugh at a loss.

How many times have you lost a game because of tripping.

If the answer is 0, I await your response when it happens.

This.

This.

One hundred million of them.

 

[dualseeker]

I feel the same way (sometimes, not all the time). It's really dissapointing to us because I think we expect so much of ourselves once we learn a new AT or a really good move. And if we lose with that move, we feel really disapointed and feel as we shouldn't have lost that match. That's how I feel anyway.