The Unhappy Thread

[Scarlet Knight]

Well, the good news is that you're at the tail end of an awkward era. Your 20's is where you will meet and decide who your REAL friends are.

The measure of a good friend isn't how they treat you when you're up but how they treat you when you're down...

sounds about right, within a year I've gone down from 5 friends - 2

If you find the right lady

Well I hope so

 

[Vexor1011]

Why doesn't it work? Do you just not try carrying on conversations? The easiest way to really get to know someone is finding common interests and going form there. If they say something that you know little about, ask them about it. Plan a way for you two to go into it together if possible. But there's got to be some reason it fails.

 

[SomewhatMystia]

I'm still so god damn furious about that job thing. Quick recap: Got a job, got the offer, got everything but the start date, they then leave me hanging for two weeks until telling me 'oh sorry we don't need you after all'.

Job hunting's getting draining again. If just one single god damn person gave me a shot, I could prove that I can get the job done. But no, everyone requires experience in an office environment. Well then tell me how one gets experience in an office environment when they can't get a job or internship in an office environment? I'm sorry, does my remote internship suddenly not count for **** despite me busting my ass for seven months, just because I wasn't physically there? Does that somehow ****ing invalidate everything I've done since graduation?!
Christ. I normally don't rant, but this **** is getting ridiculous and I'm tired of it and I just want something to give.

 

[Yonder]

The day I get a date with a pretty dang good looking women online for once in my life for the weekend...

And I get a call from my professor saying I have things that need to be discussed tomorrow in his office in person regarding my last practice in my school program that came up.

Now I'm too freaking stressed and nervous I screwed something up that could endanger my program and I don't even know what it is. I won't be able to sleep tonight from pure anxiety.

Oh God.

 

[Sari]

For the past three weeks our school has had not one, not two, but THREE bomb scares and it's been driving me crazy. Every day it happened we had to go out to the burning hot soccer field and wait for two hours with nothing to do. One of them was yesterday and I missed my last class because of it, so tomorrow I have to finish an English PowerPoint during lunch instead of goofing off on my phone.

On top of all this I have another big Math project to work on and I have to do a giant Math placement Test for college. Just kill me.

 

[Dylan_Tnga]

I'm still so god damn furious about that job thing. Quick recap: Got a job, got the offer, got everything but the start date, they then leave me hanging for two weeks until telling me 'oh sorry we don't need you after all'.

Job hunting's getting draining again. If just one single god damn person gave me a shot, I could prove that I can get the job done. But no, everyone requires experience in an office environment. Well then tell me how one gets experience in an office environment when they can't get a job or internship in an office environment? I'm sorry, does my remote internship suddenly not count for **** despite me busting my *** for seven months, just because I wasn't physically there? Does that somehow ****ing invalidate everything I've done since graduation?!
Christ. I normally don't rant, but this **** is getting ridiculous and I'm tired of it and I just want something to give.

That ****ing sucks dude. I would get you hired at my company in a heartbeat if you were in my city.

 

[Yonder]

So regarding my discussion with my teacher....yeah went just as bad as I thought, worse even. On a learning contract now and can't attend next practice as I have to have skills evaluated. Basically I'm a bloody idiot underachiever compared to everyone else as I just found out. Have to make up hours. I was just getting into positive thinking and had good things happen to me.,,now I just want to curl up and never leave.

 

[Dylan_Tnga]

So regarding my discussion with my teacher....yeah went just as bad as I thought, worse even. On a learning contract now and can't attend next practice as I have to have skills evaluated. Basically I'm a bloody idiot underachiever compared to everyone else as I just found out. Have to make up hours. I was just getting into positive thinking and had good things happen to me.,,now I just want to curl up and never leave.

Never compare yourself to others, whether you are better or worse, all that matters is what YOU do. You'll go nuts if you compare yourself to others.

Don't stop the positive thinking dude, don't ruin all the hard work you did on changing your mentality... this is the real test for you.

What you're doing sounds really hard!! What field are you studying? Sounds high level if they take it so seriously.

 

[Yonder]

Never compare yourself to others, whether you are better or worse, all that matters is what YOU do. You'll go nuts if you compare yourself to others.

Don't stop the positive thinking dude, don't ruin all the hard work you did on changing your mentality... this is the real test for you.

What you're doing sounds really hard!! What field are you studying? Sounds high level if they take it so seriously.

Psych nursing. Basically I have to miss hours now to be evaluated on my skills. I didn't conduct a good enough MSE and need communication skills help apparently. I am overwhelmed with sadness now. Can't wait to tell my fellow nursing friends why I'm not going to be attending practice with them tomorrow because I'm not good enough to. Can't wait to tell my parents who told me how proud and smart I was last night that I'm not good enough. Can't wait to try and muster up happiness to my date on Friday that's been the best looking/active girl that's ever agreed to meet in in about 8+ years.

If I mess up anymore I'll be out thousands of dollars, no car, no money left, a failure, no path left to go in...may as well join the trades or the army at that point.

I'm so lost and drowning right now.

 

[Dylan_Tnga]

Psych nursing. Basically I have to miss hours now to be evaluated on my skills. I didn't conduct a good enough MSE and need communication skills help apparently. I am overwhelmed with sadness now. Can't wait to tell my fellow nursing friends why I'm not going to be attending practice with them tomorrow because I'm not good enough to. Can't wait to tell my parents who told me how proud and smart I was last night that I'm not good enough. Can't wait to try and muster up happiness to my date on Friday that's been the best looking/active girl that's ever agreed to meet in in about 8+ years.

If I mess up anymore I'll be out thousands of dollars, no car, no money left, a failure, no path left to go in...may as well join the trades or the army at that point.

I'm so lost and drowning right now.

I'm in the same boat at my job.. (no money left, no path... etc) unless I really pick it up this month (see my post 2-3 pages ago if you want) so I feel you man I really do. The pressure is on.

You are NOT a failure. The fact that you are hard on yourself is a double edged sword, you're going to need to buckle down and find a way to make this work.. but you also can't be so hard on yourself man.

I know the thoughts you're having now... I was drowning in them last week "Im a failure, I cant do anything right, my kids have a pathetic father, I should just kill myself..." etc. But you have to fight back.

Focus on the POSITIVES... now more than ever my friend. You are an incredible person pursuing your passions in a very difficult field.... and I'm sure it's not as black and white do or die as you see it to be right now.

Maybe have another meeting with your professor or even colleagues that are not having the same problems, find a strategy to improve... you obviously care enough to want to.

And dude, congrats on the date! I'm super lonely and wish I had a cute girl to go out with so that's something to be thrilled about. Maybe she can help lift your spirits and turn you back into the warrior you actually are when you're not down on yourself. We Smashers are all warriors at heart.


** Feel free to PM me if you want to talk anytime.

 

[Yonder]

I'm in the same boat at my job.. (no money left, no path... etc) unless I really pick it up this month (see my post 2-3 pages ago if you want) so I feel you man I really do. The pressure is on.

You are NOT a failure. The fact that you are hard on yourself is a double edged sword, you're going to need to buckle down and find a way to make this work.. but you also can't be so hard on yourself man.

I know the thoughts you're having now... I was drowning in them last week "Im a failure, I cant do anything right, my kids have a pathetic father, I should just kill myself..." etc. But you have to fight back.

Focus on the POSITIVES... now more than ever my friend. You are an incredible person pursuing your passions in a very difficult field.... and I'm sure it's not as black and white do or die as you see it to be right now.

Maybe have another meeting with your professor or even colleagues that are not having the same problems, find a strategy to improve... you obviously care enough to want to.

And dude, congrats on the date! I'm super lonely and wish I had a cute girl to go out with so that's something to be thrilled about. Maybe she can help lift your spirits and turn you back into the warrior you actually are when you're not down on yourself. We Smashers are all warriors at heart.


** Feel free to PM me if you want to talk anytime.

Thanks, I sent you a very long winded PM.

 

[Cyn]

I'm starting to feel gloomy again. Lately I can't shake the feeling. I'm always good about covering up the feeling and giving advice here always seemed to help distract me from some of my own issues. Anyways....I hope everyone is having a wonderful day.

 

[Vexor1011]

Have you ever tried yoga? I hear it's good for that.

 

[Cyn]

Have you ever tried yoga? I hear it's good for that.

Is this meant for me? If so, I can't turn my mind off.

 

[Vexor1011]

It's an odd process that's hard to explain.
I mean, you don't need to turn your mind off. Just wait for things to fall into place. It's somewhat hard to worry about things you don't understand.

 

[Cyn]

It's an odd process that's hard to explain.
I mean, you don't need to turn your mind off. Just wait for things to fall into place. It's somewhat hard to worry about things you don't understand.

I understand completely the reasons that bring me to my lowest points. What I don't understand is how yoga would help.

 

[Vexor1011]

I'm not sure I understand it either. I assume it's why it and meditation go hand in hand. Understanding the limit and power of the self. Enlightenment.

 

[Scarlet Knight]

I'm not sure I understand it either. I assume it's why it and meditation go hand in hand. Understanding the limit and power of the self. Enlightenment.

Sorry... Couldn't help myself

I'm starting to feel gloomy again. Lately I can't shake the feeling. I'm always good about covering up the feeling and giving advice here always seemed to help distract me from some of my own issues. Anyways....I hope everyone is having a wonderful day.

Whats got you down?

 

[Cyn]

Whats got you down?

My continued laughable existence. Don't worry about it.

 

[Scarlet Knight]

My continued laughable existence. Don't worry about it.

You sure?

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

My continued laughable existence. Don't worry about it.

No, don't look down on yourself. You are a great person!

 

[Cyn]

You sure?

Positive.

No, don't look down on yourself. You are a great person!

That is debatable. Laughably so.

 

[Hylian]

It's not debatable. You are amazing.

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

What makes me unhappy? People who frown upon themselves. Stop being the negative and embrace the positive!

 

[Dylan_Tnga]

Positive.


That is debatable. Laughably so.

Can't say for sure because I don't know you, but reaching out and giving kind words to a stranger like myself when I was crying at my desk the other day does put some good karma in your court. You are a kind person, thats rare and a beautiful quality in this age.

 

[Cyn]

Look, I know you guys are trying to be positive and supportive, but please stop. I know what I am and I know what I am not.

@ Dylan_Tnga , I am glad my words helped you feel somewhat better in your time of need.

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

Look, I know you guys are trying to be positive and supportive, but please stop. I know what I am and I know what I am not.

@ Dylan_Tnga , I am glad my words helped you feel somewhat better in your time of need.

What you are: Whatever you want to be.

What you're not: Whatever you want to be.

Point is that you can decide what is good and bad about you. Look at me, I consider all of my bad things good! Cocky, ignorance, funny, ADHD, ADD, dsylexic and bad at spelling that last thing!

 

[Cyn]

What you are: Whatever you want to be.

What you're not: Whatever you want to be.

Point is that you can decide what is good and bad about you. Look at me, I consider all of my bad things good! Cocky, ignorance, funny, ADHD, ADD, dsylexic and bad at spelling that last thing!

I know what you are trying to say, but it is easier said than done, Rocket.

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

I know what you are trying to say, but it is easier said than done, Rocket.

Everything is.

 

[Dylan_Tnga]

What you are: Whatever you want to be.

What you're not: Whatever you want to be.

Point is that you can decide what is good and bad about you. Look at me, I consider all of my bad things good! Cocky, ignorance, funny, ADHD, ADD, dsylexic and bad at spelling that last thing!

I like this post a lot. Basically you find the positives in your flaws. That's interesting. You acknowledge your flaws but you accept them as they make up your humanity.

 

[Cyn]

I like this post a lot. Basically you find the positives in your flaws. That's interesting. You acknowledge your flaws but you accept them as they make up your humanity.

Even raccoons have flashes of insight from time to time .

 

[Dylan_Tnga]

Even raccoons have flashes of insight from time to time .

Especially rocket racoons. I think he has a higher I.Q than a human no?

I'm more of a Groot personally. I am groot!

 

[Genocyde]

I guess I'm doing better now than how I was doing a couple months ago, due to no longer being unemployed. But I still have that black hole feeling in my chest. Tonight it just came out of nowhere, and it's scary how quickly my mind can become fixated on painful memories.

The way I see it, there are at least four things causing me pain, but I feel virtually powerless in altering them.

 

[Cyn]

I guess I'm doing better now than how I was doing a couple months ago, due to no longer being unemployed. But I still have that black hole feeling in my chest. Tonight it just came out of nowhere, and it's scary how quickly my mind can become fixated on painful memories.

The way I see it, there are at least four things causing me pain, but I feel virtually powerless in altering them.

I can relate to that. Distractions are good, but they aren't a cure. Not knowing what afflicts you, all I can say is I hope you can find and make peace with yourself.

 

[Vexor1011]

I guess I'm doing better now than how I was doing a couple months ago, due to no longer being unemployed. But I still have that black hole feeling in my chest. Tonight it just came out of nowhere, and it's scary how quickly my mind can become fixated on painful memories.

The way I see it, there are at least four things causing me pain, but I feel virtually powerless in altering them.

Strength comes from the self, but power is not your own. You are the only one with the answers right now.

 

[BlueX]

I am little bit nervous about a Smash 4 tournament happing tomorrow. I think that i am much better at Smash 4 the Melee but i am really bad at comboing and punishing.

 

[Cyn]

I am little bit nervous about a Smash 4 tournament happing tomorrow. I think that i am much better at Smash 4 the Melee but i am really bad at comboing and punishing.

Don't worry about that. Just go and have fun. It'll be good practice.

 

[Sari]

A three-day-off weekend and instead of goofing off playing games I'm just sitting here with a fever and a soar throat. I can't do anything without coughing all over the place every 10 seconds.

 

[Cyn]

A three-day-off weekend and instead of goofing off playing games I'm just sitting here with a fever and a soar throat. I can't do anything without coughing all over the place every 10 seconds.

Too sick to hold a controller and play games? That's too bad. I hope you get to feeling better.

 

[Zatchiel]

My birthday is tomorrow. I celebrated a bit today, but I'm dreading tonight.

I'll probably be alone with my thoughts again after all the merriment. The idea is making me nauseous.