The Unhappy Thread

[TigerWoods]

Don't be so quick to judge, lest you be judged yourself.

Everyone is more fortunate than someone, and everyone is more unfortunate than another. It's a shame, but pointing out that "my misery is more miserable than yours" is not something that I would consider proper.

I sympathize with both of you though. I myself am struggling with finding a job. I still have a bit of money saved up but if I can't find one soon I'll start going into the red with mounting bills > . >"

 

[GoldShadow]

I've mentioned several times throughout the thread that I've applied to the absolute bottom-level jobs and they didn't hire me.

What exactly are your qualifications? Could it be that you're overqualified for the jobs you're applying to?

 

[Rubyiris]

What exactly are your qualifications? Could it be that you're overqualified for the jobs you're applying to?

I have no qualifications. I worked for 6 months when I was 16, and got fired because I was sick a lot. I'm now 21.

I make it as far as the interview more often than not. The two responses I usually get are either "Sorry, we filled the position already." or "Sorry, we're looking for someone with more experience," at the end of the interview, but I'm usually asked to leave my contact information and check in periodically in case a position opens, but nothing ever comes from it.

There were a few positions that I would check several times a week but nothing ever came of it.

 

[Mr.Freeman]

Don't be so quick to judge, lest you be judged yourself.

Everyone is more fortunate than someone, and everyone is more unfortunate than another. It's a shame, but pointing out that "my misery is more miserable than yours" is not something that I would consider proper.

I sympathize with both of you though. I myself am struggling with finding a job. I still have a bit of money saved up but if I can't find one soon I'll start going into the red with mounting bills > . >"

Exactly. We're all carrying around emotional baggage. Some want to let it out just cause, others don't. Just because we don't say it doesn't mean we don't feel that way.

 

[Rubyiris]

Exactly. We're all carrying around emotional baggage. Some want to let it out just cause, others don't. Just because we don't say it doesn't mean we don't feel that way.

Normally I wouldn't judge but the way Merkuri kept going on about his problems as if it were the end of the world really pissed me off.

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

I am unhappy that I suck at planning and can't bring myself to do my schoolwork .

 

[TigerWoods]

@ Dourin... As difficult as it may be... just start on it! If you need help, maybe get a friend to teach you. You will feel so much better if you dont procrastinate!

 

[Merkuri]

Merkuri whined and *****ed about how his life is "so bad" when he's extremely fortunate, so I called his sorry *** out. I wouldn't call that "attacking."

With my laptop I can apply to jobs online, do research on jobs and schooling, find shelters, speak with people whom I can't call/text, and relax with when I'm sick or it's a weekend and there's nothing better to do than to wait for Monday to arrive.

Also just because I'm homeless doesn't change the fact that there are innumerable wireless hot spots and my laptop has a wireless card.

My life is pretty bad, but here is the thing. You don't know me! You don't know how fortunate or unfortunate I am. And therefore you have no right to tell me that I shouldn't be complaining.

I could make the same argument about you. You were really fortunate but you were too danm lazy or incompetent to get yourself a job. If you search for a minimum wage job for half a year you should get one, at some point you have to take responsibilities for your failures instead of blaming life. You say you don't have qualifications but isn't that your fault as well? You dropped out of high school and didn't think of getting a GED? I don't mean to be rude but I find it hard to be sympathetic towards people who complain all the time while not trying harder to fix their situation, even worse when they attack other people who are trying to fix their situations

 

[TigerWoods]

Merk I see where you're coming from but I beg you to delete that second paragraph for the sake of the thread...

 

[Rubyiris]

My life is pretty bad, but here is the thing. You don't know me! You don't know how fortunate or unfortunate I am. And therefore you have no right to tell me that I shouldn't be complaining.

I could make the same argument about you. You were really fortunate but you were too danm lazy or incompetent to get yourself a job. If you search for a minimum wage job for half a year you should get one, at some point you have to take responsibilities for your failures instead of blaming life. You say you don't have qualifications but isn't that your fault as well? You dropped out of high school and didn't think of getting a GED? I don't mean to be rude but I find it hard to be sympathetic towards people who complain all the time while not trying harder to fix their situation, even worse when they attack other people who are trying to fix their situations

I've been doing everything in my power to get myself back on my feet, but it's not like you would know. You're too busy with your head up your *** about how "awful" your life is, when everything you post says the opposite. you shouldn't know about difficult it is to get a job, or how looking for a job IS a full-time job. I'm not just sitting around and complaining, I'm actively putting effort into getting myself back onto my feet. Cool, so I post on swf. That doesn't make me lazy or incompetent.

If you think your life is so bad, please elaborate, because all I see is a whiny college student complaining about how awful his perfectly fine life is.

 

[Luigitoilet]

Whoa whoa whoa.

When I said "knock it off" I meant EVERYONE. That means you too, Merkuri.

So anyone who takes jabs at eachother in here and tries to one-up one another with their miseries is getting infracted.

 

[Rubyiris]

It's cool. Merkuri was completely wrong about me anyways.

 

[TigerWoods]

I'm more miserable than all of you... muahaha.

This isn't anything that makes me "unhappy" per say... but I've been thinking about it often...

Sometimes I feel like America isn't really the country for me if you know what I mean...

I'm kinda drawn to Australia > . >

 

[Rubyiris]

I'm more miserable than all of you... muahaha.

This isn't anything that makes me "unhappy" per say... but I've been thinking about it often...

Sometimes I feel like America isn't really the country for me if you know what I mean...

I'm kinda drawn to Australia > . >

Then move there? xD

 

[TigerWoods]

Well it isn't as simple as that I guess... XD

I don't know... I just can't picture myself living in philly for the rest of my life... haha

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

This thread is heading down.

 

[Rubyiris]

Well it isn't as simple as that I guess... XD

I don't know... I just can't picture myself living in philly for the rest of my life... haha

I'm the opposite. I can't imagine myself moving away from Arizona.

 

[TigerWoods]

I guess it's mainly because I've been moving around from place to place and country to country throughout my life... I've never been too attached to a place... and where I've been living (4 years now) is the longest I've ever been in one spot haha.

 

[Teran]

I think that's actually a pretty good thing, being able to move about freely and not feel attached to places.

I've lived all my life in a single borough in London, I dunno the American equivalent of that, but basically it's not a big area, and since 5 years of age, I've been living in the same area in that borough.

So yeah, I'd find it really hard just to leave this area, never mind go a long way away.

 

[TigerWoods]

We have boroughs as well and they are comprable in size.

To be honest, I don't find it a blessing that I feel unattached...

I kinda want somewhere to call home if you get me haha.

 

[Merkuri]

I realize now that the resume I sent the guy who is taking in people as an interns sucked.

My entire skill section was very general(good communication, good worth ethic, basically I do everything good) instead of specific skills, and I'm sure that's exactly what he didn't want. My actual skill set is actually pretty much what he wanted and that's not what was specifically on the resume. I could have even tailor made it for this specific position. Before I sent he my resume he said he'd be in touch for an interview, but I don't think I'm gonna get that interview. I feel like such an idiot.

 

[Pluvia]

Living a lie is getting to me these days. I wouldn't mind it so much if it wasn't constantly rubbed in my face, I mean seriously sex is everywhere, you can't go a day without hearing a mention of it, which makes being gay even more sucky.

 

[Rubyiris]

I don't understand your plight and I'm gay.

 

[Luigitoilet]

I think Pluvia is a closeted gay. At least, that's just what I inferred from his post right there. I might be wrong

 

[Teran]

Being in the closet isn't really so bad anyway.

Of course when you're partially out it sucks but hey that's why you should do it all at once!

 

[Dre89]

I think Pluvia is a closeted gay. At least, that's just what I inferred from his post right there. I might be wrong

That explains alot.

That's funny, because Pluvia always struck me as a homosexual's name.

I personally think he should come out of the closet, perhaps unless you could get bashed for it.

If it's just a case of being looked down upon or being hated, it'll be really tough at the start, but you'll grow to cope with it and it will strengthen you emotionally for future, whereas living a lie is more the equivalent of bottling up anger.

 

[Pluvia]

Pretty much what LT said. I'm annoyed by how much everyone talks about sex in some sort of way, it's like nobody has anything better to talk about, and it's even everywhere in the media, and because it's all straight it's constantly reminding me of the predicament I'm in. I wont get **** for coming out, thats high school territory, but there's always that fear of friends alienating me.

But weirdly, I don't think anyone will really care that much, apart from my cousin. All he does is talk about girls, you can't watch a movie or tv or even have a conversation without him eventually mentioning them. I'm off to stay at his uni flat for a week in March when I'm on my holidays, and I know he's going to hook me up with a girl when I'm down there, and then I'm going to have to either dissapoint him yet again, or tell him that I don't have the most important thing to him in comon with him.

So I'm stuck with everyone thinking I'm straight and me playing along, but feeling like they wont mind if I tell them the truth, but being unable to because my cousin will find out and I don't know how he'll react, and he's more important to me than the rest of them. Plus long story short I know from experience that people will be shocked, and I don't think I have the courage to tell people right now, so I'm just going to have to sit and be reminded of the situation I'm in by everything.

/rant. Dunno if that made much sense, am quite tired.

Edit: Also Pluvia is just Latin for Rain.

 

[TigerWoods]

Yeo pluvia... I recently came out to 2 of my 6 best friends...

The one was a straight guy named lee... I was worried but I was surprised how well he took it... then he told me about his gay brother so I was like ohhh

The next one is my best girl-friend Taylor, she took it well as well and is still the same lol.

2/6... trying to get to 3/6 by the end of the day...

(Technically 3/5 because one is a bi dude lol).


The whole experience was rather anticlimatic to be honest. Lee wasn't phased at all and Taylor had a "shock period" of about 3 minutes... of her staring blankly at me until she processed what happened lol.

 

[Rubyiris]

Being in the closet isn't really so bad anyway.

Of course when you're partially out it sucks but hey that's why you should do it all at once!

I pretty much did this. At first I just blatantly announced I was bi, but as I grew older my attraction to woman lessened and lessened to the point that I generally just dislike woman as a whole, both intellectually, and physically. The only women I tend to get along well with anymore are older mothers in their 40s or higher, and that's just purely intellectual.

I didn't really get any reactions. One of my friends who is a homophobe teased me for about a span of a month, but it wasn't malicious at all. He knew me for years before ever finding out I liked men and he realized it doesn't change who I am and just ran with it, though he occasionally still teases me about it, but it's all in good fun. I have a surprising amount of friendships that like the entire premise is that we tease/troll the **** out of each other, and we enjoy every minute of it.

sorry for the rambling lol.

Also I think the main reason I don't really understand the guys plight might be because I'm extremely non-sexual.

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

Hey, Pluvia, just come out and have the 'haters gonna hate' attitude. If you friends alienate you because you are homosexual, I doubt those were your actual friends. They'll accept you as you are. It's going to eat you up eventually, to keep putting up this façade.

 

[Rubyiris]

Hey, Pluvia, just come out and have the 'haters gonna hate' attitude. If you friends alienate you because you are homosexual, I doubt those were your actual friends. They'll accept you as you are. It's going to eat you up eventually, to keep putting up this façade.

I don't think he cares about his friends so much as he cares about his cousin's opinion of him, especially since he plans on staying with him.

Either way I still agree with this. If your cousin has a problem with your sexuality, you shouldn't be associating yourself with him.

 

[Merkuri]

I don't think he cares about his friends so much as he cares about his cousin's opinion of him, especially since he plans on staying with him.

Either way I still agree with this. If your cousin has a problem with your sexuality, you shouldn't be associating yourself with him.

Right so he should disregard everyone who disagrees with or is uncomfortable with his lifestyle? That sounds really dumb to me. You can't expect friends to understand everything about you, and you have to understand that when you reveal sensitive things that they have every right not to be accepting of it.

Some of my closest friends have characteristics that I really don't like. Relationships often work like that.

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

If they would be unable to accept him as he is, then there's no reason to continue seeing that person as it would only make things more awkward. I think you're just going to have to tell your cousin you don't have the most important thing with him in common.

 

[Rubyiris]

Right so he should disregard everyone who disagrees with or is uncomfortable with his lifestyle? That sounds really dumb to me. You can't expect friends to understand everything about you, and you have to understand that when you reveal sensitive things that they have every right not to be accepting of it.

Some of my closest friends have characteristics that I really don't like. Relationships often work like that.

You obviously have no understanding of what he potentially is going to have to deal with.

Yes, I think he should not associate with people who disapprove of his lifestyle. If you think I'm dumb, oh well. As if I care about the opinion from the likes of you of all people on swf.

 

[Merkuri]

If they would be unable to accept him as he is, then there's no reason to continue seeing that person as it would only make things more awkward. I think you're just going to have to tell your cousin you don't have the most important thing with him in common.

Well awkwardness isn't a substantial reason for you to lose your best friend, it doesn't sound as if this guy has many close friends to begin with. To lose your closest friend while the other people alienate you would just be awful. You just want him to come out about lifestyle without thinking of the consequences it will have on him. You're not the best at giving advice.

You obviously have no understanding of what he potentially is going to have to deal with.

Yes, I think he should not associate with people who disapprove of his lifestyle. If you think I'm dumb, oh well. As if I care about the opinion from the likes of you of all people on swf.

Me of all people? This coming from the homeless bum? Him not associating with people who disagree with his lifestyle is ********. I like how you refuted it by attacking me and providing anything resembling a sensible argument. Lol oh well, I guess I shouldn't expect any better from someone like you.

 

[Mr.Freeman]

Well awkwardness isn't a substantial reason for you to lose your best friend, it doesn't sound as if this guy has many close friends to begin with. To lose your closest friend while the other people alienate you would just be awful. You just want him to come out about lifestyle without thinking of the consequences it will have on him. You suck at giving advice.



Me of all people? This coming from the homeless bum? Him not associating with people who disagree with his lifestyle is ********. I like how you refuted it by attacking me and providing anything resembling a sensible argument. Lol oh well, I guess I shouldn't expect any better from someone like you.

My god, this is just getting better and better.

Do I smell bans from the Pool Room?

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

Well awkwardness isn't a substantial reason for you to lose your best friend, it doesn't sound as if this guy has many close friends to begin with. To lose your closest friend while the other people alienate you would just be awful. You just want him to come out about lifestyle without thinking of the consequences it will have on him. You suck at giving advice.

No need to take jabs at me for giving advice that differs from your point of view. I see him coming out as making a fresh new start and continue with the people who are his friends for the person he is. I just give advice as the thing I'd do, since most of the time I don't know the person I'm giving advice to.

 

[Rubyiris]

Well awkwardness isn't a substantial reason for you to lose your best friend, it doesn't sound as if this guy has many close friends to begin with. To lose your closest friend while the other people alienate you would just be awful. You just want him to come out about lifestyle without thinking of the consequences it will have on him. You suck at giving advice.



Me of all people? This coming from the homeless bum? Him not associating with people who disagree with his lifestyle is ********. I like how you refuted it by attacking me and providing anything resembling a sensible argument. Lol oh well, I guess I shouldn't expect any better from someone like you.

I'm not a bum. You seem to do everything in your power to ignore the content of my posts. Yes, I'm homeless, but you fail to realize that I don't WANT to be homeless. I WANT to have a roof over my head, and a steady job. I WANT to be able to pay my own way, but because I couldn't find a job, I couldn't. That's about to change since I'm going to a jobcorps orientation Thursday morning.

You're also completely twisted about this guy. If his "friends" can't accept the fact that he's gay, they aren't -really- his friends. The same goes with his cousin. If his family of all people can't accept the fact that he's gay he damn well shouldn't be associating with gutter trash like that.

 

[Merkuri]

No need to take jabs at me for giving advice that differs from your point of view. I see him coming out as making a fresh new start and continue with the people who are his friends for the person he is. I just give advice as the thing I'd do, since most of the time I don't know the person I'm giving advice to.

What Rubyris said got under my skin and I took some of that anger out on you, sorry. I really think your opinion here is misguided though. I'm a Jehova's witness and if I were to not associate myself with all people who are atheists or anti-religious I'd have a lot less friends. There is no reason to only associate yourself with people who accept everything about you, such a life style is very ignorant.

 

[Rubyiris]

No need to take jabs at me for giving advice that differs from your point of view. I see him coming out as making a fresh new start and continue with the people who are his friends for the person he is. I just give advice as the thing I'd do, since most of the time I don't know the person I'm giving advice to.

This is generally how I try to give advice, even with people I'm familiar with.

Of course I have some friends who purposely go out of their way to do the exact opposite of what I suggested, even though I give EXTREMELY good advice more often than not. They usually end up regretting it in the end. =]