There are so many kids out there who could use a loving family. Seriously, adoption is a really good idea. Otherwise... you don't have to have your spouse be the one who has your kids. Surrogate moms are an option.
On the giant quote wall above that I don't intend to read. Ok, I'm to tired to be p***ed. So I'm gonna just try to clarify some things and make a few points as clearly as I can.
Force is not necessarily violence. It can be social influence, reputation, yo money, etc. The type of force most effective in any given arena will vary of course. That said, force is not only effective in the short run, its respected. People like force, admire people who can use it.
The context of what I've been writing about largely referred to school situations from my past, which could be applied to non-intellectual situations with excessive testosterone now... These social settings support the use of violence, in small amounts, to achieve your aims. While in my case I was subjected to physical violence myself before I reacted that way, I found that retaliation: is socially accepted and admired, people really never expect a gay person to fight back. It dispels the stereotype of weakness, which is a real problem in these situations, and it puts you on a level playing field with your aggressors. The way you've demonized the use of force is a little silly. I'm not saying go out and shoot people lol.
In some situations you should fight. Its expected. Intellectual response isn't. Standing up for yourself isn't a bad thing. I mean, punching a random person / old woman is obviously stupid but at school it can much more expedient and effective. Fighting really isn't that terrible.
As I said before, I got my a** handed to me in 7th grade. 6 boys just wrecked my s*** and got away with it. OK, I'm still bitter about that. The thing was, at the time, I didn't fight back. I mean, I tried to defend myself, but I wasn't active about retaliation and I didn't confront them individually beforehand, when I could have prevented this.
I was more willing to fight after that, and my peers approved of it. Even though I was probably one of the most visible non-heterosexual students when I was in HS it didn't matter, because I wasn't an easy target. Teen males, as an easy example, are not going to hate you for fighting them physically (unless they're b****es). Its better to do so, in fact.
Ugh, alright, I need one quote:
"Still waiting on that example of how people came to respect you for becoming violent with them. I know if I pissed off someone bad enough to throw a punch at me, I'd be smirking like an idiot for a month at how awesome I was for working a kid up that bad."
Then you're a f***ing moron. People don't smirk generally when they get punched. The punch sorta fixes that. The people watching you throw the punch, they'll see the smirk fade away. Forget your false assumption that people (especially young men) don't love and respect violence. They do. The people watching, if they are homophobes, have seen that a quality for which they have little to no respect (passivity) is not present in you. So there's the additional social pressure. I only needed a few physical fights, and a few verbal evisceration, to make high school sooooo much more pleasant than middle school.
You sir... are a moron. Well, now that i've been compared to a racist beating children...
lol jk.
