Cobalt
Smash Journeyman
I can perhaps offer some insight myself, being a guy and all.
If this is a periodic, rather than a continuous thing (meaning it happens every once in a while, but it's not like this all the time), then there may be problems your boyfriend is experiencing elsewhere, perhaps with family or something. Now I can't speak for him, of course, but if he's going into a melancholic depressed state every once in a while, there's a chance that it's related to problems in his life.
I sort of do the same thing whenever something bad happens, but not to that extent. I just become more reserved and keep to myself until I feel better.
Anyway, you should ask him why this keeps happening, definitely. Also, I'd avoid beating around the bush, instead asking directly "I've noticed that you haven't been very affectionate at all at times; what's wrong?" or something to that effect. That should give you a few answers. And if he says that he doesn't want to trouble you with his problems, or tries to avoid it, just remind him that you're there for him, and willing to help him with anything.
If that were me, that would get me to open up for sure.
If this is a periodic, rather than a continuous thing (meaning it happens every once in a while, but it's not like this all the time), then there may be problems your boyfriend is experiencing elsewhere, perhaps with family or something. Now I can't speak for him, of course, but if he's going into a melancholic depressed state every once in a while, there's a chance that it's related to problems in his life.
I sort of do the same thing whenever something bad happens, but not to that extent. I just become more reserved and keep to myself until I feel better.
Anyway, you should ask him why this keeps happening, definitely. Also, I'd avoid beating around the bush, instead asking directly "I've noticed that you haven't been very affectionate at all at times; what's wrong?" or something to that effect. That should give you a few answers. And if he says that he doesn't want to trouble you with his problems, or tries to avoid it, just remind him that you're there for him, and willing to help him with anything.
If that were me, that would get me to open up for sure.