One Outs remains one of the only Anime series that I've watched through in like two sittings. But to be honest it gets really really stale in it's formula.
Also for Raz now that I'm not at work I have to tell you, I know it has probably been voiced before and it's been voiced a lot but get over your fear of rejection. Here's the thing a lot of the times even being rejected romantically by a girl can still lead to friendship, and that friendship can lead to meeting new people and new girls.
The reason I have a lot of success is because I talk to everyone, anyone to me is interesting and by learning about them I can learn more about why I like them. I've been told by a lot of people that when they think of things like natural gifts the first thing to come to mind about me is the fact that everyone who knows me in real life genuinely wants to be around me. It's not like some big secret, I'm not doing anything amazing, I'm just making sure I'm in a lot of social situations and conveying myself the way I want to be perceived. I talk a lot, but more importantly when asking about someone, their interests, their hobbies, how their day is I'm genuinely interested. Couple that with the fact that I don't fear rejection because my attitude again in most situations is "Why would the reject me, I'm awesome" helps me to achieve a lot of success not only in relationships and with women but also with people in general. I've landed my internship interview through that attitude and I've met a lot of new people this year that I wouldn't have otherwise.
I'm telling you man, it's not about having a specific goal in mind, don't become so entrenched in the attitude "I need a relationship" become entrenched in the attitude of "Life is about self-improvement and the more happy I am with life the more opportunities I will have that develop around me and that I can create myself"
When me and Hailey broke up I thought after almost five years I would be really down, and I was.. for a couple of days. Then I reevaluated things in my life that I weren't happy about. Our relationship didn't just suddenly end I realized.. sure it had seemed sudden but there were a lot of warning signs. I realized that and saw that I was just putting my relationship on a pedestal. "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened" sorta thing.. I learned a lot and had a lot of amazing times I wouldn't change. But now was a new chapter in life, I became obsessed with becoming physically fit, still am, I really enjoy working out I've went from 224 pounds to I believe I'm currently as of last week at 192. I was never fat, I just felt like I wasn't as fit as I was before Hailey, I had become complacent and I looked to change that.
I felt happier about it, I felt great about myself and as such I began to radiate that sort of feeling to others.
WIth Hailey a lot of the jokes we had were judgmental and childish about others.. I wasn't comfortable with it but I fell in a rut about it. When we broke up a lot of the people who I had made fun of especially in the community had come out and just told me either A. **** you and what you said about me or more surprisingly and a majority of them B. showed sympathy and told me basically.. if you need me I'm here bro!
I realized something with that as well, like I said before EVERYONE YOU MEET has a story, they are interesting there is something about them that makes them unique and legitimately cool to talk to. And with that I managed to take a new stance with how I dealt with people, no longer did I judge things that came to me, instead I was legitimately interested in what they said and because of that I met a lot more people and came to be involved in many more social situations.
This wasn't supposed to be about me though it may seem it, it's more a laundry list of what I learned being in a relationship that was presumably sort of toxic and the lessons I learned to become not only comfortable finding relationships and such but become more comfortable in general about how my life's direction was heading.
You can do it man, you've got a good support network and a lot of good advice but at the end it's really up to you to just go out there and do what makes you happy and do what makes you the person you want to be at the end of the day, don't fear rejection and look at every bit of progress as a moment to celebrate but never become complacent.
