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Vent Thread- Not enough rage

luke_atyeo

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yeah just relax dude, I've had plently of close calls before, theres no point worrying when most of the time it'll be a false alarm.
 

luke_atyeo

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its because I dont try to impress them by headbutting controllers sieg, try it out, it works.
 

Sieg

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Yes because I do that all the time.

I'm constantly headbutting things.

**** man, you should come out for a night on the town with me, wow, headbutt everything in sight.
 

Technodeath

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no, but i'm the exact same Arrow. i've only been with one girl for the entirety of my sexual life. which was last week, which was 4 times.

my flower got stolen

go me... yeeeaaaaah
 

undead_moose

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Oh well. I guess he's just.. Different
I hate how I can change how i talk/act just to make sure someone will like talking to me. I hate how I do this so much at work my boss is amazed how i can get on any customers good side. I hate how I honestly cant think how i would act normally like myself... I don't have a myself. I act completely different for everyone.

I hate how I think too much about things I really shouldn't as I don't get anywhere in life by sitting at home on my bed late at night being a mess. I hate how I cant ever have anything happy to say even when I try. I hate how I am really a gossip and you shouldn't tell me anything because chances are I will tell someone behind your back. Speak bad about you and even laugh at you.

I hate how my longest relationship with anyone lasted about 4 weeks. I hate how I always let my friends down when they need me the most. I hate how I am a all around boring person to be with and no fun at all. I hate how I cant change how I live for the better no matter how hard I try.

I hate how I don't have any self control. I hate how i say stupid things at inappropriate times. I hate how I look. I hate how my hair naturally curls at the ends for no reason at all. I hate how I have trouble sleeping for no reason at all.

I hate how I'm a stupid attention ***** who posts on the internet for a little bit of attention.

I hate how this is really nothing compared to other peoples problems.
 

Technodeath

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Screw the ACT. Come live with Techno.

*cues song*
Hakuna Matata! What a wonderful phrase

Hakuna Matata! Ain't no passing craze

It means no worries for the rest of your days

It's our problem-free philosophy

Hakuna Matata!

and that sir is a good motto of by which how you live. (not realistic but who cares?)

i think Luke should also come live with Techno
when you find a good friend Moose, you'll know when you can really be yourself
i'm always myself, people either like me or hate me. there's no middle part.
but **** will pick up for you man, just keep your chin up.


also, good news. turns out she isnt pregnant. woot.
 

Nova

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Ergh, Moose, no matter what anyone tells you, you're smarter than you give yourself credit, since you pointed all that out (although obviously not in a great mood). Although you sound a lot like me before I just gave up on other people. You have an extremely high level of self-awareness and you're analysing yourself and what you're worried other people may think too harshly. :/

Basically as hard as it is to abolish the negative thoughts you think other people think of you if you don't put on an act, it seems to be your main issue. For example you say you don't like how you look - neither do I until I realised I hated how I looked soley because of what I perceived other people to think, now I just don't care.

I also understand how frustrating it is for someone to tell you to not worry so much, as the mind will do what it wants regardless of what other people tell you, especially if you're judging yourself too harshly. So I'm sorry for giving that answer. In my case, I don't even remember when it was, but I suddenly stopped worrying about what people around me thought. You say you're not reliable/thoughtful - if this WERE the case you wouldn't hate yourself for those reasons because you wouldn't have any friends at all. But you do.

You say people shouldn't tell you secrets because you'll gossip/talk behind their back. Let me ask you: If you told someone a secret would you be paranoid they'd talk behind your back about it? Would you really, for example tell someone that your best friend just confided in you that their father ***** them several times when they were 5? Would you laugh, gossip and tell other people about that? I don't think you would, so you likely do have self control you just annoy yourself (by worrying) so much you bury your emotions. Of course you might say "No I wouldn't joke about that behind peoples backs because of what other people might think when I laugh about it, even to the person I'm gossiping to", but it's doubtful, honestly. And this is coming from someone who has to fake 90% of his emotions in order to seem normal - although I'd rather do that rather than laugh if I hear about someone dying on the news. *Shrugs*

People should just accept you for who you are, as should you. I know it sounds ridiculous and utterly impossible, but this is from what I can tell (I know a bit about the mind) what seems to be bothering you the most. If you were to stand up in a group of people (that you knew...somewhat) and say "I'M ****ING SEXY!", what would your fears be? The major one would be that someone would say that you're not, you're ugly, you're worthess, or something similar? And if I'm right, you fear this the most because you've basically boxed your mind into automatically thinking that other people will immediately think the worst of you unless you're quiet/reserved or change your attitude depending on who you're talking to. Really, a lot of people do that without even realising it; you do realise it, I wouldn't (again easier said than done) worry too much about it. So you'd act different around someone that'd be loud and obnoxious to another person that'd be quiet and laid back - it doesn't matter. Most people would. You'd also act different around someone you're majorly attracted to compared to someone you're not.

You can't spend most of your free time just hating on yourself. It goes without saying that this is the last thing that'll make you happy. But at the same time you're the only one that can change yourself. I'm not sure on how much you've actually beat yourself up over these small (this is not downplaying it, just the issues themselves) things, does it really matter if you act different depending on who you're speaking to? No, although depressed thoughts and anxiety is the main reason you'd be doing so. There is no instant fix, although speaking to a professional (this is not condescending, you have no idea how much junk I've told doctors) how you continuously over-think worst case scenarios in your head. There are methods and even medication to help with these issues, no matter how much of a social stigma is associated with them (which would likely be your main reason for shrugging such ideas off, or simply thinking they'd be a waste of time).

I dunno, I'm better at talking about this stuff rather than typing, though I think you'll get the gist of things, although change is rarely instantaneous. :/
I apologise if my post comes across as judgmental, as that's not what I intended - but rather I wanted to reach a similar wavelength because I think I've been where you are once before.

Or you could always try what Luke said, although you'd have to get people to play Melee instead of Brawl with you. :D

@ Techno, good news. Just contain....yourself better in future. ^_^
 

Technodeath

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@ Techno, good news. Just contain....yourself better in future. ^_^
thanks mang. and dont worry, i will. it was a one time **** up that could've changed my life for the best or worst. most likely the latter.
but it hasnt. i do intend on having kids with this girl at some point though, just not now. or a couple years.

reading through the rest of what you've said Nova, i've come across a few things i used to have issues with as well such as appearance and always thinking of what other people thought of me as such. my confidence in appearance in the passed couple years has more than doubled. due to the fact i may have lost over a quarter of my weight in a year, but people complimenting me over it. the thing that makes me even more confident in myself is my Girlfriend :)

i've since gotten over everything i had issues with. but some people go at different rates i suppose.

Moose/Nova, can has msn? :D i r Technodeath@live.com gogo. add meh.
i always like new people to talk to.
 

TakFR

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I read some of Meta's post, have to say i suffer from the same thing. I become extremely anxious in some situations and am always thinking about my actions, it's really hard to control being neurotic sometimes =(
 

Technodeath

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I'd be imagining you all naked if I knew what anyone looked like.

Techno, my MSN is Metamorphazone@hotmail.com, I'm only usually on in the evening, though.
Unless I'm bored and wanna annoy people.
awesome, i'll add you when i get home :D

i'll only dish back the annoyance if you do it to me.
it's only fair.

and i'm on whenever humanly possible on msn. mainly for the fact it's one of my main points of entertainment
when not playing Heroes of Newerth, or Osu, or Cod4, or SF4.

well, the biggest reason for me being on msn is to talk to my girlfriend whenever we're not in person. since we're about 4 hours apart. indeed it does such balls. but we've been going strong for over 5 months now.
 

Nova

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Yeah I know who you are now Seig, consider yourself violated....

I don't have anything to rage about, haven't for a while... Λ_Λ
 

undead_moose

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Oh well. I guess he's just.. Different
Wake up today find out the laptop i spent 1642 dollars on has stopped working after about a total of 24 hour usage. And I don't get paid this week so I can't pay for possible repairs. *I feel so awesome right now. I know it won't get better only worse with the ******* customers hounding me for their print jobs I can't to anything about because the god **** colour printer is broken and the lazy techs won't do anything about it because they have to sit in their room drinking tea. I am going to be suicidal by the end of the day
 
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