My Family Is Sooooo ****ing Gaaaayyyy

[18.15.2.15x12.9.14.11]

My sister was the same when we were younger, difference is that we're A year and a half apart from each other! You get what I mean? At 8, I had developed intelligent measures already. And you seem not to do so.

Out of curiosity, what did you do?

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Out of curiosity, what did you do?

I'll just give one of the many examples I've got.
I had a discussion with my uncle. The favor I had asked of him was to teach me how to talk and behave in a conference. And I ended up doing so with my mom. Presented everything in an adult manner.

It didn't work, but I know one thing for sure.
I had gained lots of point at that moment. I was 11.

 

[Indigo Jeans]

Lol, well, congrats on that I guess. But no, I've never been disrespectul to my parents. I know you're gonna say "Nah, you're lying, betcha did once." NO The way I was brought up, was talk back, and either get slapped, or whipped with a leather belt. Another thing; I don't get a ****ing allowance. I actually WORK*gasp!* for whatever I get. DS? I saved up and worked for 180$. Brawl, Melee, GCCs? Earned em myself. I'm sorry your dad treat you like **** and is now dead, but that doesn't make you ****ing Doctor Phil. People have different ways of handling things. And the only way I get some **** peace is making my sister cry, either by verbal or physical methods. There's really no other way that she can still bug me. Besides, in a matter of two hours, she's at it AGAIN. And believe me, I've only made her cry about 3 times in the span of nine years. And I've made up for it. Ask anybody who knows me well IRL, and they'll say it's true.
Prime example: We were having a pool party one day. I had already gottne out and dried off, but my sister was still in. Suddenly, she's gasping for air. This was a big pool we had at our house, inground, nine feet. So she was drowning in the deep end. I just jumped right in and pulled her out. This happened about 3 years ago. Why was she drowning? She stuck her hands inside her float ring because she "was cold". LOL.

So yeah, I'm pretty immature, saving drowning little girls and working for my videogames at the age of eleven.

 

[Teran]

Well to be fair TRDS, you don't strike me as having an attitude beyond your years.

I mean it's just posts off SWF though, which isn't that much of an indicator.

 

[Mr.-0]

Okay, barrage, that's the most idiotic thing og reasoning i've ever heard. that's like saying, stab her in the arm, it'll hurt like **** but it won't kill her.

Now, honestly, you just have a bad sister. My response to it: be nice. She's a little girl. Little girl. She likes it when people dote on her and when she gets attention, and she loves it when people love her. That's what it sounds like from the OP anyway. She doesn't tattle on you for know reason, you know. A girl did this to me in 1st grade. But since we were the same age,a dn she was a no it all, I made it come to a bet: if you bet me in this test, you can keep on bugging me, but if I beat you, you have to leave me alone. I got an a, her a b-. she didn't leave me alone, but luckily, we moved. Obviously you can't do this, but think of it this way. Your her big brother. Deep down, she adores you. Just play on that.
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Edit: ryu reaitsu, how much older than you was your brother? Or was that a typo and you meant sister. but if not, he didn't beat your sister?

 

[john!]

Well to be fair TRDS, you don't strike me as having an attitude beyond your years.

I mean it's just posts off SWF though, which isn't that much of an indicator.

See how unwilling people are to admit they don't have a clue about the actual situation? Now the mod is falling back on the "you don't sound mature" defense.

People are never going to understand the ridiculous double standards your parents practice, because they never have been in the situation themselves.

 

[Mr.-0]

See how unwilling people are to admit they don't have a clue about the actual situation? Now the mod is falling back on the "you don't sound mature" defense.

People are never going to understand the ridiculous double standards your parents practice, because they never have been in the situation themselves.

I live in a double stanard parent thing. But it's much, much les potent than this. In fact, it's not bad at all. Instead, they make me errand boy and only lecture me. Not ot bad though.

 

[SuSa]

See how unwilling people are to admit they don't have a clue about the actual situation? Now the mod is falling back on the "you don't sound mature" defense.

People are never going to understand the ridiculous double standards your parents practice, because they never have been in the situation themselves.

Speak for yourself.

Unlike him though, I stood up a little bit too much and ended up being kicked out of my moms house. (Mom+Stepdad+3 stepsisters)

Same issues. I solved them. New issues. I ended up getting kicked out trying to solve them.

 

[Dark 3nergy]

See how unwilling people are to admit they don't have a clue about the actual situation? Now the mod is falling back on the "you don't sound mature" defense.

People are never going to understand the ridiculous double standards your parents practice, because they never have been in the situation themselves.

Actually your wrong in the sense that Parents are

1. never perfect
2. need to learn how TO BE a parent

Just having a baby and trying to raise it to be a sensable adult in this day an age[lol peer pressure/stuff from the TV] is difficult to do

Even my mother admits even after 24 years of raising me she still thinks shes got more to learn about parenting.

One of these days i'll be out on my own, and the first thing she'll do is cry. Because her baby is leaving the nest.

 

[SyOn]

parents are stupid

hahaha

 

[Teran]

See how unwilling people are to admit they don't have a clue about the actual situation? Now the mod is falling back on the "you don't sound mature" defense.

People are never going to understand the ridiculous double standards your parents practice, because they never have been in the situation themselves.

Well first of all, his parents probably aren't that bad. This is one of the most common complaints like ever, and quite frankly it's just sibling jealousy. Get over it.

As for "now the mod this now the mod that". Just because I'm a mod, doesn't make my insight any more or less valid. It's better to judge the words themselves for what they are rather than who they come from. He's like 14. 14 year olds aren't mature, if he's acting his age, then he's prone to being rash and not fully understanding of a situation. There's nothing wrong with that, but it doesn't make him right for being overly harsh on his family.

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Lol, well, congrats on that I guess. But no, I've never been disrespectul to my parents. I know you're gonna say "Nah, you're lying, betcha did once." NO The way I was brought up, was talk back, and either get slapped, or whipped with a leather belt. Another thing; I don't get a ****ing allowance. I actually WORK*gasp!* for whatever I get. DS? I saved up and worked for 180$. Brawl, Melee, GCCs? Earned em myself. I'm sorry your dad treat you like **** and is now dead, but that doesn't make you ****ing Doctor Phil. People have different ways of handling things. And the only way I get some **** peace is making my sister cry, either by verbal or physical methods. There's really no other way that she can still bug me. Besides, in a matter of two hours, she's at it AGAIN. And believe me, I've only made her cry about 3 times in the span of nine years. And I've made up for it. Ask anybody who knows me well IRL, and they'll say it's true.
Prime example: We were having a pool party one day. I had already gottne out and dried off, but my sister was still in. Suddenly, she's gasping for air. This was a big pool we had at our house, inground, nine feet. So she was drowning in the deep end. I just jumped right in and pulled her out. This happened about 3 years ago. Why was she drowning? She stuck her hands inside her float ring because she "was cold". LOL.

So yeah, I'm pretty immature, saving drowning little girls and working for my videogames at the age of eleven.

Allowance? That was an example... *facepalms*

About the Doctor Phil comment. I've actually compared your **** situation to one I've been into. Somebody said your parents are NASTY. I don't even consider the situation I've lived through as "nasty" just pretty stupid and dark.

I've never said in no way that I was some sort of Dr.Phil or anything of that kind. It was merely a comparison to other families. *Another facepalm*

Working is a sign of maturity? I know idiots who work, don't go to school, smoke trees and laugh at sexual words. Does that make them ****ing mature?

And saving somebody doesn't make you any more mature.
My brother saved me from drowning when he was 7. Did that make him mature back then?

Stop taking things literally, gosh.

EDIT: Oh and, speaking angrily and aggressively doesn't mean necessarily mean that there were any disrespect. If they tell you that you're wrong. Prove them that they're talking ****, in a proper manner. The way I see it, from all your previous posts, you're just playing the victim.
Sure, you are a victim of some kind. But that doesn't mean you'll get justice by doing so.
And you do talk back in a way, you've said it yourself.

I start to protest, and then my aunt slaps my hands. I'm like WTF I'M NOT FOUR. AND BESIDES IT'S HER FAULT. But no, I end up getting grounded. AGAIN.

Well I'm out of here. You're simply frustrated and I should not add oil to the fire. Wish you best of luck.

 

[Indigo Jeans]

TO THE PEOPLE TELLING ME TO IGNORE HER: I've tried it. I'e tried simply shutting out all the negativeness from her. And you know what?
1) I got grounded. "Stop ignoring your sister!"
2) I actually felt a twinge of pity. Again, my soft side.

TO THE PEOPLE TELLING ME TO BE MORE LOVING: I already went over this. She's an opportunistic user. She hates me trying to be nice 90% of the time. The other 10% is the only time when she wants my affection; when she needs a shoulder to cry on. And I provide a shoulder. So please, no more of that, because I've tried it.

TO THE PEOPLE GIVING AGE JOHNS:
We have standards. By the time you turn seven you're supposed to cut the crap.

TO THE PEOPLE TELLING ME TO TALK IT OUT AND ACT LIKE AN ADULT: I've tried talking it out patiently. I've tried calmly asking her to stop. I've tried discussing with my parents why I think I'm being done injustice. But to no avail. I think what I really need is a break from my family. A really long break. Maybe dorms will be the way to go.


tl;dr I've tried practically everything, but it dun work.

 

[¯\_S.(ツ).L.I.D._/¯]

Have you tried like, talking to your parents?

Like actually sitting down and explaining the situation?

 

[Arora]

Have u ever said to ur parents think about what u are grounding me for and think of how foolish u will think of urself one day cuz all people and I mean almost everyone have no idea what they're doing until u say are u insane look at what going for a second

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Have u ever said to ur parents think about what u are grounding me for and think of how foolish u will think of urself one day cuz all people and I mean almost everyone have no idea what they're doing until u say are u insane look at what going for a second

You're actually saying something that's going against what he said he would do. Saying stuffs like that will immediately get him a slap in the face.
That's disrespectful.

And there I've said I wasn't going to post here anymore ._. .

 

[18.15.2.15x12.9.14.11]

TO THE PEOPLE TELLING ME TO IGNORE HER: I've tried it. I'e tried simply shutting out all the negativeness from her. And you know what?
1) I got grounded. "Stop ignoring your sister!"
2) I actually felt a twinge of pity. Again, my soft side.

That sucks (Although I confess I personally find it dubious as to whether you actually got grounded for the sole reason of ignoring your sister).

TO THE PEOPLE TELLING ME TO BE MORE LOVING: I already went over this. She's an opportunistic user. She hates me trying to be nice 90% of the time. The other 10% is the only time when she wants my affection; when she needs a shoulder to cry on. And I provide a shoulder. So please, no more of that, because I've tried it.

Good, it annoys me when people actually make a conscious effort to be "nice." If your kindness requires something in return, then it's not kindness.

TO THE PEOPLE GIVING AGE JOHNS:
We have standards. By the time you turn seven you're supposed to cut the crap.

Not exactly.

TO THE PEOPLE TELLING ME TO TALK IT OUT AND ACT LIKE AN ADULT: I've tried talking it out patiently. I've tried calmly asking her to stop. I've tried discussing with my parents why I think I'm being done injustice. But to no avail. I think what I really need is a break from my family. A really long break. Maybe dorms will be the way to go.

Why is it to no avail? Is it because your family is pure evil and hates your guts? Doubtful. Try to find the reason your words do not reach them, then you will be closer to your solution than simply labeling yourself as 100% just and your family as 100% unjust.

 

[Arora]

I'm just saying to say to his parents to think about why they ground him so much

 

[john!]

I just don't think you guys are giving him enough credit. He sounds capable of articulating his problems to his parents and has even told us that talking with them won't work. Some parents won't listen to or empathize with their kids, that's just an unfortunate fact. Also, any oldest son with a younger sister can tell you that the brother takes the heat for everything, and the sister gets away with everything. I don't know why, maybe it's an automatic parenting mentality. Many sisters get used to this double standard and take advantage of it.

 

[RyuReiatsu]

I'm just saying to say to his parents to think about why they ground him so much

Do you really think that his parents will listen to a 14 years old kid?
Heck, if I were 35 and my 14 years old son told me such things. Gosh, I wouldn't accept it.

Because we're all that close-minded, truthfully. That would be like his sister telling him such things. Doesn't work.

I just don't think you guys are giving him enough credit. He sounds capable of articulating his problems to his parents and has even told us that talking with them won't work. Some parents won't listen to or empathize with their kids, that's just an unfortunate fact. Also, any oldest son with a younger sister can tell you that the brother takes the heat for everything, and the sister gets away with everything. I don't know why, maybe it's an automatic parenting mentality.

I say you're too much on his side without enough neutral information.
My mom used to ground me all the time too, because of my sister. (When we were younger, obviously)
There's that one thing I couldn't get up until I've gotten older. I couldn't express myself properly. And that's what I think that's happening with OP right now.
I'm very convinced that he's not expressing himself properly. I thought I did, but looking back. It's not true. You get my drift?

 

[18.15.2.15x12.9.14.11]

I just don't think you guys are giving him enough credit. He sounds capable of articulating his problems to his parents and has even told us that talking with them won't work. Some parents won't listen to or empathize with their kids, that's just an unfortunate fact. Also, any oldest son with a younger sister can tell you that the brother takes the heat for everything, and the sister gets away with everything. I don't know why, maybe it's an automatic parenting mentality. Many sisters get used to this double standard and take advantage of it.

This is actually possible. I wonder what would happen if you showed your parents this blog. :>

I'm very convinced that he's not expressing himself properly. I thought I did, but looking back. It's not true. You get my drift?

Maybe. But I've learned not to underestimate the inanity of some people.

 

[john!]

I say you're too much on his side without enough neutral information.
My mom used to ground me all the time too, because of my sister. (When we were younger, obviously)
There's that one thing I couldn't get up until I've gotten older. I couldn't express myself properly. And that's what I think that's happening with OP right now.
I'm very convinced that he's not expressing himself properly. I thought I did, but looking back. It's not true. You get my drift?

Well maybe you could be kind enough to share with him some tips on "expressing himself properly?" I would like to hear this as well.

 

[Teran]

He should show his parents this blog, so they can smack him for censor dodging. :3

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Well maybe you could be kind enough to share with him some tips on "expressing himself properly?" I would like to hear this as well.

Not that telling him tips on 'expressing himself properly' would do any good.

*Facepalms*

Otherwise, he'd be expressing himself properly already. It's all about maturity, impulsion and frustration. Which is exactly why he doesn't know what's he doing wrong.
I'm not saying that it's wrong. I'm saying that he's dealing it in a bad manner. I'd bet ya my 2 cents that you'd be delighted to make me shut up. Unfortunately for you, I'm not that easy.

He should show his parents this blog, so they can smack him for censor dodging. :3

 

[18.15.2.15x12.9.14.11]

He should show his parents this blog, so they can smack him for censor dodging. :3

*spits out coffee*

 

[황미영]

He should show his parents this blog, so they can smack him for censor dodging. :3

No joke, that would be a great idea! Then they can see how he feels. And what others have said about the situation. That should get them thinking. I hope...

 

[Arora]

Why not just give up when ur parents ground u just stay quiet and say nothing eventually they will figure out their technique is not working become a little anti social u know don't go near trouble won't get any
I can't possibly see if ur parents can ground u for that and if there is well ur in a tough spot

 

[Nysyarc]

And what others have said about the situation.

Yaaaaah... may wanna delete every post that was involved in the whole 'pushing his sister down the stairs' incident in that case.

 

[ipitydatfu]

im sorry to hear about that. i guess from a similar standpoint just take the crud and avoid the nagging.

and if it continues, i suggest noise cancelling headphones.

 

[Sephiroths Masamune]

Yaaaaah... may wanna delete every post that was involved in the whole 'pushing his sister down the stairs' incident in that case.

ya lol Barrage <_<

 

[kataklysm336]

Some parents just don't listen. Fact of the matter is its their house, they pay the bills, they are older than you, ect., and they believe that because of this your opinion/worries/concerns/speeches mean nothing. Sure you can try to talk to them but if they are as bad as you say then that will do no good.

Of course pushing your sister down the stairs can only have disastrous results, so I would recommend a different method, while keeping the same fear=respect mentality.

The fact that you are older puts you in a terrible position. You are there to teach your younger siblings everything you know and your parents are there to baby them. Thats how it is, and you just got the ****ty luck of the draw. I suggest that whenever your sister begins annoying you just tell her you are going to tell your parents. If she continues tell you parents that you have been stressed a lot lately (this makes them more sympathetic to your cause) and that your sister is only adding to the issue. Tell them that if she could stop you would appreciate it because you would like the time to relax, and get away from the worries of school/life. If that doesn't do the trick then IDK what will. But atleast try.

Also to all the people who said he should do stuff for his parents because the give him a home, and feed him, ect - That doesn't make them make them good parents because they provided him with the necessities to survive. That is their job as a parent and they should be expected to do it with love for the child and not for the love of a reward their child can give them. Doing something you have too does NOT make you a good person. Doing things you aren't made to do does. If you say he should he should do things for his parents because they are his family and he loves them then that is okay, but he shouldn't do it in order to please them or to feel their love. He should already be receiving such.

 

[Technodeath]

just go columbine on your family. situation fixed. i hate both your sister and your parents just for reading this. your sister needs discipline full stop. she wont learn otherwise.

im pissed off just for reading this, because people get away with too much ****

 

[Circa]

...you guys could call me crazy and rash all you want, but at least I didn't advise what he just did. I'd never advise something like that. ._.

 

[Sephiroths Masamune]

...you guys could call me crazy and rash all you want, but at least I didn't advise what he just did. I'd never advise something like that. ._.

He was joking and you were not case closed.

 

[Circa]

He was joking and you were not case closed.

How do you know he was joking? Was there some point in his post where he quite clearly said 'joking aside', 'in all seriousness', or anything of that matter? No, I do not believe there was. Case not closed.

And no, not everyone jokes about death either. Actually, it's probably the one thing that most people refuse to joke about.

 

[Sephiroths Masamune]

How do you know he was joking? Was there some point in his post where he quite clearly said 'joking aside', 'in all seriousness', or anything of that matter? No, I do not believe there was. Case not closed.

And no, not everyone jokes about death either. Actually, it's probably the one thing that most people refuse to joke about.

you take things too seriously maybe that's one of the reasons your so violent <_<

 

[SuSa]

Barrage, you should just kill yourself now and save humanity.

/has no problems telling jokes about death
/didn't really need the disclaimer to show you I was attempting an extremely poor and sarcastic joke
/I fail

 

[Man of Popsicle]

"Next time you snitch I'm breaking everything you own."
Hold something over her head?

 

[Indigo Jeans]

Fear tactics won't work unless I have fear-spect from my parents. If I were to threaten anybody, and my parents weren't afraid of/didn't respect me, I'd be toast. Besides, I actually fear my parents a bit. But nobody go saying "CHILD ABUSE", because frankly, it wasn't.

I think I'm just going to try to lay low for a couple of days, then talk to my parents. The stress part somebody had mentioned was absolutely true, because I'm very stress-prone. "I lost my jacket, what are my parents going to do?" And I'm having cold sweats and an empty feeling all through school until I finally face my parents.
Or "O jeez, I can't find that application paper." Again, I'm stressing and sweating until I find it.
But what's really adding to my stress is that I start highschool in three days. A lot of my friends here have told me not to worry, that it's fine, but I worry about every little thing in the first few weeks. If I don't wake up by 5:00, if I'll know anyone, if I get lost(lol) in the halls, etc.


But yeah, I'm going to wait a couple of days, then talk to my parents. I'm really hoping they'll understand.

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Fear tactics won't work unless I have fear-spect from my parents. If I were to threaten anybody, and my parents weren't afraid of/didn't respect me, I'd be toast. Besides, I actually fear my parents a bit. But nobody go saying "CHILD ABUSE", because frankly, it wasn't.

I think I'm just going to try to lay low for a couple of days, then talk to my parents. The stress part somebody had mentioned was absolutely true, because I'm very stress-prone. "I lost my jacket, what are my parents going to do?" And I'm having cold sweats and an empty feeling all through school until I finally face my parents.
Or "O jeez, I can't find that application paper." Again, I'm stressing and sweating until I find it.
But what's really adding to my stress is that I start highschool in three days. A lot of my friends here have told me not to worry, that it's fine, but I worry about every little thing in the first few weeks. If I don't wake up by 5:00, if I'll know anyone, if I get lost(lol) in the halls, etc.


But yeah, I'm going to wait a couple of days, then talk to my parents. I'm really hoping they'll understand.

I understand the feeling. And even more the stressed-for-nothing part. I'm like that too. When you'll talk to your parents, tell us how it went. Hopefully, they'll listen to you a bit.