hey thanks for this info, this will prove much useful advice for him, I must say you look like you know your stuff
*chuckles and smiles wide* I'm glad you were able to take something away from my experiences and thoughts. Always makes me feel all warm'n'fuzzy. I know my stuff? I don't know about that. I just think I've been through a lot of stuff in a few short years that gives me a unique perspective to share with others. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't, I accept it, and when it does I feel happy that my experience is worth it in the life of another.
I really don't agree with that line of logic, Faora. Call me disillusioned, but after putting blood and sweat and tears into a relationship that didn't work for a whole ****ing year of my life I found that not everything is set in stone and not everything that I can humanly own can come from a singular person. I thought I was going to marry this chick, to stay with her for the rest of my life only to find out that in the end she wasn't in love with me to begin with and that this whole little soiree into Georgia was an elaborate waste of time and self-sacrifice on my part.
The most important person that you should fall back on, in the end, is yourself. Never let your world revolve around a single person or even a collective group of people. This is one of the most profound lessons that I have learned in my lifetime.
Smooth Criminal
I'll call you disillusioned, but let me be the first to say that if you want emotional (and mental for that matter) hardship, I've seen my fair share. Some say more than my fair share, but let's not get into that.
Firstly, I'd like to express sympathy for you. A relationship that you pour yourself into, body and soul, and then watch crumble around you for whatever reason... I've been there several times, on both sides, and it's never fun. I might suggest that you've allowed yourself to become a little jaded though, and that for the sake of your future, you may wish to allow a little childish hope and idealism to crack through your walls. No one wants to love a heart protectively wrapped in steel plating.
However, I wasn't saying to put all your eggs in one basket, so to speak. What I was saying was that when you have someone of your own, two things happen. One, it gets harder to avoid or ignore the questions of friends and family, if for example you're a guy with another guy on your arm. At that point, your sexuality becomes known, for better or for worse. Two, you HAVE got someone, and someone who understands the situation. As a result, you have a built-in supportive person in your life who simply isn't going to turn on you, at least not for that reason.
I feel like you misunderstood what I was trying to say, and I hope that cleared it up a little. I also hope that you can find it in you to warm your heart, because it certainly sounds you're very jaded and bitter about what happened in your past with that one person. Obviously she wasn't the one for you, and obviously you're still carrying scars. But don't let those scars fester, or they'll prevent you from finding anyone to love again. You gotta have a little hope, you gotta have a little faith, and you gotta trust in yourself and your own worth.
The latter I know is a problem for a lot of people (myself included; some people confuse my low self-esteem for modesty or humbleness), but it's a distinct key to finding someone to love. After all, if you can't see the worth in yourself and show that off, then how on earth is anyone else going to see any worth in you?
Chin up, Smooth, square your shoulders. Acknowledge the past, learn for the present, and look to the future.
Wow, it's been almost a month since I posted in here! @_@ Geez, college finals and going back home for a week almost made me forget about this thread. Anyways, looks like everybody's been going dates as of recently. Sigh, I almost had one a while back. The worse thing happened, the week finals ended this guy I liked invited me to his party which I went to. We have a mutual attraction (he plays Smash too!) and I was the only one from outside his coworkers or friends (whom I didn't know) he invited. I went and had such a good time I forgot to actually get his number. Short of stalking him I have no way of contacting him either.
The worst thing is is he's leaving the country after summer ends. Double
Funny side-story though, I brought a friend home with me to show her Las Vegas before
she left the country. It's 2 in the morning on The Strip and we're sitting at a bus top. A group of guys walk by and one of them stops. He takes a look at me and asks if me and my friend are a couple. We stare at each other for a couple seconds and she finally blurts 'yes'. He looks at her and says 'too bad, he's really cute', and walks off. It was a funny scene, yet it's been making me feel somewhat uneasy now. Am I really
that transparent when it comes to my sexuality? I've been more self-conscious than ever about how I present myself. I'm out, so I'm not worried about anyone noticing, but I've never been hit on by another gay guy before. I was just sitting there too...
Any help with my two dilemmas?
*stands on his context sensitive pad and 'ting's a lightbulb over his head*
And the light comes on, TING! Makes a ting noise.
For your first problem, I'd say stalk him just a little. Find a way to get into contact with him again, even if just once. That way, you CAN get his phone number. You're only the creepy stalker if you're hiding in shadows behind his bushes and painting his bricks white while he showers, if you catch my meaning. You know? You're not stalkin' him for any nasty purpose, you just wanted to get his number, had the chance, and fumbled. Everyone does it, especially with someone they're interested in a lot. Go find him, if you can, and get his details.
Second problem. What's the problem? You're you, and other gay guys can spot that you like guys. ... so? *laughs* I think you're overreacting. You're thinking 'transparently gay' is instantly making you look 'obviously gay'. It's not that bad. Some people are really good at spotting gay guys, some people aren't. If you're not interested in letting people know your sexual preferences, then this is GOOD for you. It means those guys interested in you will have a clear shot at you, and the others you don't want to know will remain oblivious. A lot of 'closeted' gay guys would love to have that! Hell, even 'out' guys would love to have the cute boys know that they're interested in them.
So chill. You're just fine, mate, nothing to worry about. You are, dare I say, a lucky one!
*slowly raises hand*
Well this is a neat little bit of the forums. Thought I'd browse around looking for the artwork of all the characters EVERYONE uses for their sigs and instead I stumble here. Yay!
Anyways, before I jet off back to my artwork hunt - though I'll probably be coming back - how about a bit of background?
I came out pretty much a month ago to my closest friends on my birthday (see, I turned it into this whole event). Happiest moment of my life as they jumped in their seats, smiling and laughing ("I knew it!").
Love the *******s.
Since then I've came out to a few others (family still awaits) who took it at least as well as they did and it's been the greatest month I've ever experienced. Excluding this small drama I'm having, but it's too "highschool" to go into detail - so meh.
So yeah.
*waves rainbow flag, but then reconsiders seeing as rainbows are ugly*
Hello, and welcome! *hands you a piece of art*
I have to admit, you seem to have some very groovy friends! Congrats on being lucky enough to have made some true friends who don't judge. It's a surprisingly rare thing amongst the general population these days, unfortunately.
Also, if you're dealing with a little drama, even highschool stuffs, you can still spill here. I, and many others in this thread are willing to offer a digital shoulder and ear. If advice you need, advice you get. If laughs you need... well go back over most of the thread. We're pretty funny most of the time ourselves, but if you want a REAL laugh, check some of the trolls. They're loltastic!
*holds up the bleeding stumps that were once his fingers and cries to the heavens*
