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[Deleted member]

We're here for ya.

I've also had a... much trickier situation regarding someone living in my home. Except it wasn't my home, it's my family's--with my parents and six other siblings. And it was someone who was a very close friend of mine, who just happened to go through a terrible traumatic experience and had nowhere else to go. We helped get her into a school where she had a place to stay, but her roommates there were awful and the curriculum was insane. She ended up failing out after 8 months, and we took her back in. As it turns out, that school shut down in December because of how bad it was, so that's a testament that it wasn't entirely her fault.

And I've finally helped her get to another school and things are mostly fine, but her anxiety and depression are still affecting her, and it might make her wind back up at square one if she doesn't get it under control soon, and my family's definitely not taking her back for round three. She either has to succeed there, or go back to her family, which she doesn't want to do for a variety of reasons.

Tomorrow I'm going with her to a psychologist to see about getting her some help with her issues. I think things will be fine, she's just been through a lot and needs to sort things out.

The situation's been going on for over two years now. It's been the most consistently stressful two years of my life. It's part of the reason why I'm not as goofy as I used to be, and am so serious most of the time. I can't really afford to be too relaxed or silly when I never know what crisis is around the corner.

I hope things get better for you, and that no crisis happens!

 

[Moydow]

I think my activity on here has actually increased since I became an admin? I think I'm just used to juggling admin stuff and "hanging out" by now, though, having been at this stuff in various places for the last 8 years or so. So maybe it's a case where I've adjusted to the point that not being in a position of higher staff is the unnatural state for me, and now that I'm actually an admin on here I feel more comfortable somehow. I dunno how to really explain it.

 

[staindgrey]

We're here for ya.

I've also had a... much trickier situation regarding someone living in my home. Except it wasn't my home, it's my family's--with my parents and six other siblings. And it was someone who was a very close friend of mine, who just happened to go through a terrible traumatic experience and had nowhere else to go. We helped get her into a school where she had a place to stay, but her roommates there were awful and the curriculum was insane. She ended up failing out after 8 months, and we took her back in. As it turns out, that school shut down in December because of how bad it was, so that's a testament that it wasn't entirely her fault.

And I've finally helped her get to another school and things are mostly fine, but her anxiety and depression are still affecting her, and it might make her wind back up at square one if she doesn't get it under control soon, and my family's definitely not taking her back for round three. She either has to succeed there, or go back to her family, which she doesn't want to do for a variety of reasons.

Tomorrow I'm going with her to a psychologist to see about getting her some help with her issues. I think things will be fine, she's just been through a lot and needs to sort things out.

The situation's been going on for over two years now. It's been the most consistently stressful two years of my life. It's part of the reason why I'm not as goofy as I used to be, and am so serious most of the time. I can't really afford to be too relaxed or silly when I never know what crisis is around the corner.

That's very admirable of you. You have my respect, and I hope that things work out for her on this try. Psychologists can be tricky. They aren't always a good fit and you kind of have to jump from one to one without full knowledge of whether what they're doing is working.

My brother is in a similar situation. He's getting better, but he had crippling anxiety to the point that he couldn't hold a job. Dropped out of school, lost his job, lived with our parents, and when Dad got a new job in St. Louis, he didn't want to go. So I let him help me pick a house and I got a loan to get it for us so he could stay here and not live with our father anymore. (That's a whole different can of worms.) So I understand. I've become much more... parental and old in the last 2-3 years of my little brother falling apart.

I think taking care of him is what has given me such a short fuse with this other person in my house. Particularly when she said seeing a PT Cruiser gave her a "panic attack" because her old roommate whom she didn't like also owned a PT Cruiser. I almost stopped the car and told her to get out because of how she used an actual serious medical problem plaguing my brother as a way to exaggerate her very menial issue.

 

[ClaTheBae]

since it's late at night I am free to come on here and admit ricardo is cute

 

[staindgrey]

God damnit, I think I caught a cold from my Dad.

Ugh.

Aren't dads the worst?

...

Colds. Aren't colds the worst. That's what I meant.

 

[osby]

since it's late at night I am free to come on here and admit ricardo is cute

Agreed but who is this guy?

Aren't dads the worst?

...

Colds. Aren't colds the worst. That's what I meant.

We're getting into repressed parental issues hour, aren't we?

 

[staindgrey]

Actually, I spend time in here just as much, but it's divided between a lot more threads.

Though, you're right about it having its own stress.

For me, most days it was pretty stress free. But the stressful days weighed on me more than a stressful day at my job because you start to think, "Wait, I don't even have to be doing this." Those hard days came and went though. Most days you're just another user who occasionally has to clean up someone else's crap. Long as the stress doesn't become too much it's a very rewarding feeling.

 

[Zinith]

We're getting into repressed parental issues hour, aren't we?

Nah, all my parental issues were settled years ago

 

[Cutie Gwen]

Ok cool so nWay confirmed that we're getting 3 DLC characters later down the road alongside the leaked ones, the new ones will be blue, purple and silver.
Wait there's a purple ranger who ended up playing Vergil in DmC

 

[Deleted member]

Agreed but who is this guy?

This person who danced only using an american thong.

 

[NonSpecificGuy]

My activity was never over the moon anyways. Most of my postings came from pre game hype for both Smash For and Ultimate.

I've been here for 5 years now and literally still have less than 10,000 posts. That says a lot, if I do say so myself.

 

[staindgrey]

We're getting into repressed parental issues hour, aren't we?

Pft. I'm old. They aren't repressed anymore.

 

[Deleted member]

I think my activity on here has actually increased since I became an admin? I think I'm just used to juggling admin stuff and "hanging out" by now, though, having been at this stuff in various places for the last 8 years or so. So maybe it's a case where I've adjusted to the point that not being in a position of higher staff is the unnatural state for me, and now that I'm actually an admin on here I feel more comfortable somehow. I dunno how to really explain it.

Power is everything.

 

[Deleted member]

Agreed but who is this guy?



We're getting into repressed parental issues hour, aren't we?

Parental Issues? I have a lot of Issues but this ain't one of them

Actually no, that was a lie

 

[staindgrey]

My activity was never over the moon anyways. Most of my postings came from pre game hype for both Smash For and Ultimate.

I've been here for 5 years now and literally still have less than 10,000 posts. That says a lot, if I do say so myself.

You've got more than me and I've been here ten years.

What's that say about me?

 

[NonSpecificGuy]

You've got more than me and I've been here ten years.

What's that say about me?

I feel like you were gone for super extended periods of times between games. If that's true then I guess that explains it?

Otherwise, pff, I dunno, dude. Guess you're just a ****ing god.

 

[Zinith]

Am I like the outlier for post output? Making 15000 in 10 months?

 

[Deleted member]

If you call me a "cinnamon roll", then you clearly do not understand my history in this website.
I am pretty messed up in here, I am not going to lie.

 

[Teeb147]

You've got more than me and I've been here ten years.

What's that say about me?

ha! I've got even less than you. beat that.
what, it's not a contest?

 

[Diem]

That's very admirable of you. You have my respect, and I hope that things work out for her on this try. Psychologists can be tricky. They aren't always a good fit and you kind of have to jump from one to one without full knowledge of whether what they're doing is working.

My brother is in a similar situation. He's getting better, but he had crippling anxiety to the point that he couldn't hold a job. Dropped out of school, lost his job, lived with our parents, and when Dad got a new job in St. Louis, he didn't want to go. So I let him help me pick a house and I got a loan to get it for us so he could stay here and not live with our father anymore. (That's a whole different can of worms.) So I understand. I've become much more... parental and old in the last 2-3 years of my little brother falling apart.

I think taking care of him is what has given me such a short fuse with this other person in my house. Particularly when she said seeing a PT Cruiser gave her a "panic attack" because her old roommate whom she didn't like also owned a PT Cruiser. I almost stopped the car and told her to get out because of how she used an actual serious medical problem plaguing my brother as a way to exaggerate her very menial issue.

Yeah, I've already been to two psychologists with her back in 2017 and 2018, but neither of them worked out. They were a little... off, though, and seemed more like they were counselors for people who needed to be told the obvious and less for young people with deeper-rooted issues. The counselor we're going to is the one for the school, which is a very nice school and has a huge amount of wellness resources for students, and probably more equipped to handle young students, so I anticipate it being a helpful experience.

Good thing your brother has you. The biggest problem for people with those kinds of mental health issues is that they don't have patient and understanding people to support them. That's been my friend's issue her entire life. Her father was abusive, and her mother never wanted to accept that there might be something wrong with her (we think she might have a form of Asperger's syndrome) and thus never got her the help she needed or treated her properly. This year, though, she's starting to patch things up with her mother really well, and she's also growing a bit more as a person, so things are finally looking up... it's just that she occasionally has these crashes or relapses that bring her back down.

People who pretend they have issues like that are also part of the problem. They do it for pity and attention and it's wrong. I haven't encountered too many, thankfully, but there is one specific... quirk that my friend has that's very real, but it's often faked by other people to seem more interesting or special, which only makes people misunderstand the issue and distrust people that genuinely have it.

 

[staindgrey]

I feel like you were gone for super extended periods of times between games. If that's true then I guess that explains it?

Otherwise, pff, I dunno, dude. Guess you're just a ****ing god.

Nothing gets past you detective. Haha.

No but yeah that's exactly what happened. I joined before Brawl, then moved to AiB, somehow became admin there, didn't come back to Smashboards until shortly before Smash For came out.

I think like 70% of my posts have been since that poor Inkling got something in her eye.

 

[NonSpecificGuy]

If you call me a "cinnamon roll", then you clearly do not understand my history in this website.
I am pretty messed up in here, I am not going to lie.

*****, please.

You were melded into that by this place. Before that? Cinnamon_Roll_Shiny.png

 

[Hinata]

My activity was never over the moon anyways. Most of my postings came from pre game hype for both Smash For and Ultimate.

I've been here for 5 years now and literally still have less than 10,000 posts. That says a lot, if I do say so myself.

I'm comin' up on 6 years here, and I haven't even breached 4k.

The extended hiatus I took between the final DLC for Smash 4 and the first reveal for Ultimate probably has a lot to do with that.

 

[TMNTSSB4]

I am a plant

 

[osby]

Pft. I'm old. They aren't repressed anymore.

I guess that's a thing. I still have no noteworthy accomplishment in life, so I can't bring myself to openly disapprove my parents simply because they are better than me.

My activity was never over the moon anyways. Most of my postings came from pre game hype for both Smash For and Ultimate.

I've been here for 5 years now and literally still have less than 10,000 posts. That says a lot, if I do say so myself.

I'm not here for a year and I still have *checks* ...I need to spend more time outdoors.

 

[Zinith]

If you call me a "cinnamon roll", then you clearly do not understand my history in this website.
I am pretty messed up in here, I am not going to lie.

Well I mean...

Be thankful I don't call you that, because cinnamon rolls don't last long in my presence

 

[NonSpecificGuy]

I'm not here for a year and I still have *checks* ...I need to spend more time outdoors.

You're not here for a year yet and you're already a mod so I feel like that says a lot for your contributions and maturity within the community.

 

[Cutie Gwen]

Well I mean...

Be thankful I don't call you that, because cinnamon rolls don't last long in my presence

Are... Are you threatening to vore him?

 

[Moydow]

Power is everything.

:p
Nah, it's got nothing to do with power. I just like being able to help people out. Plus I think when you've been at it long enough, eventually being a mod/admin becomes like a state of mind. It's kind of hard to just switch it off. At least that's how it is for me, anyway, pretty much everywhere I go now I end up getting thrust into leadership-type roles without even really looking for them. It's almost kinda frustrating, since there aren't many places where I can just go and relax without having to worry about responsibilities like those, but at the same time I wouldn't give something like this up easily either, I guess.

 

[ToddCam]

18 years, less than 500. Do I win?

 

[Hinata]

18 years, less than 500. Do I win?

Indeed. Congratulations, you have a life, something the rest of us cannot claim to.

 

[staindgrey]

I guess that's a thing. I still have no noteworthy accomplishment in life, so I can't bring myself to openly disapprove my parents simply because they are better than me.

That's a very real statement, my dude. That's been me my whole life until I was finally 100% self-sustained and I felt I had the right to challenge my father. Since then our relationship has soured beautifully. We don't talk much, and I'm fine with that.

Hopefully your relationship with your family won't have to erode like mine has for you to be happy. But when the time comes and you feel as though you're on equal footing with your parents, your talks with them and your views on life will definitely change. Best of luck when all of that happens.

 

[Deleted member]

Wow guys, seeing your post counts I feel sometimes I've spent a lot on this site as Its not even 6 months since I joined and have around 1200 :b. Maybe I should spend less time posting.

 

[NonSpecificGuy]

You know you're a REAL old ****ing user when you remember me as the "Like Guy".

No ****. That was me for a really long time. One thing. Liking posts. Good old days.

 

[Teeb147]

18 years, less than 500. Do I win?

Yes.

Nah, it's got nothing to do with power. I just like being able to help people out. Plus I think when you've been at it long enough, eventually being a mod/admin becomes like a state of mind. It's kind of hard to just switch it off. At least that's how it is for me, anyway, pretty much everywhere I go now I end up getting thrust into leadership-type roles without even really looking for them. It's almost kinda frustrating, since there aren't many places where I can just go and relax without having to worry about responsibilities like those, but at the same time I wouldn't give something like this up easily either, I guess.

Ha sucks to be you.

no but really, I think it's cool to have leaders around. And yet you deserve freedom too

 

[staindgrey]

Indeed. Congratulations, you have a life, something the rest of us cannot claim to.

Speak for yourself. I have a Life.

And Jenga. And Pictionary. And a whole cabinet full of board games I never get to play because no one comes over to play them.

 

[Hinata]

You know you're a REAL old ****ing user when you remember me as the "Like Guy".

No ****. That was me for a really long time. One thing. Liking posts. Good old days.

I don't remember anything about this place before 2018.

but then again short-term memory loss is a legitimate problem for me

 

[Zinith]

Are... Are you threatening to vore him?

Well if you put it that way...

Think of it more like Yoshis take food analogies more literal than everyone else

 

[Diem]

Idon

 

[Cutie Gwen]

Indeed. Congratulations, you have a life, something the rest of us cannot claim to.

Joke's on you, I have a healthy social life despite my amount of posts