The Unhappy Thread

[Teran]

Western society is very intolerant of mourning and sadness, and sympathy and empathy are generally not part of the cultural DNA.

That's just a sad fact.

We live in a world of emotional isolation, it sucks but rather than trying to "move on", you should work on the technique of grieving and dealing with great sadness without having others notice, otherwise you will just get nothing but insensitive and hypocritical remarks.

 

[Yodery]

Western society is very intolerant of mourning and sadness, and sympathy and empathy are generally not part of the cultural DNA.

That's just a sad fact.

We live in a world of emotional isolation, it sucks but rather than trying to "move on", you should work on the technique of grieving and dealing with great sadness without having others notice, otherwise you will just get nothing but insensitive and hypocritical remarks.

I'll try that, thank you, and yes, I agree completely.

I'm just... so ****ing tired of putting on some bull**** happy act whenever I go to school, just to please others, you know? Not that I'm a generally depressed person, but like, you know what I mean... idk.

 

[Smooth Criminal]

Sadly, Teran's right.

Hang in there, Yodery.

Smooth Criminal

 

[Teran]

I'll try that, thank you, and yes, I agree completely.

I'm just... so ****ing tired of putting on some bull**** happy act whenever I go to school, just to please others, you know? Not that I'm a generally depressed person, but like, you know what I mean... idk.

I wouldn't say you have to put on a happy façade, you just have to keep a lid on your grief in public to a large degree. The proverbial stiff upper lip.

It's a large part of why I play music, I can express anything I want quite intensely (in ways I couldn't put into words anyway) and not really have to place those emotions on others. That's the main reason really, most people feel that you're trying to burden them with feelings they'd rather not try to comprehend, sympathise with, or feel themselves.

It's also a good part of the reason why very happy/smiley people can also bother others, mainly because their overt displays of joy and general contentment can instill feelings of resentment and jealousy.

In any case if you can't play music, listen to some that might contain the complexity of emotion that express what you feel. You'd be surprised how well it can work. If you want you can add me on AIM for any sort of recommendations if you can't think of anything that fits that description.

 

[Jon Farron]

In any case if you can't play music, listen to some that might contain the complexity of emotion that express what you feel. You'd be surprised how well it can work. If you want you can add me on AIM for any sort of recommendations if you can't think of anything that fits that description.

This so much. Music has a very unique way in which it can relieve your emotions. There have been a couple singers I have discovered during emotional/stressful times in my life that have really helped me through it. (namely Britt Nicole, when I was going through lot's of insecurities and self hate)

"Any time you feel alone put on your headphones"

 

[cannedbread]

my mom is drunk and dropped spaghetti all over the floor
in fact she's spilling everything and making a mess

 

[~automatic]

I'm bummed about not being able to find another decent job.

 

[RATED]

I tend to feel out of place in 90% of situations.

 

[Froggy]

My eyesight sucks balls. I'm gonna need glasses/corrective lenses real soon.

 

[Jon Farron]

I lost an auction on ebay... BY ONE DOLLAR DX



I hate auctions =/

 

[KRDsonic]

@ Yondery: My advice is to just hang in there. Yes, people will tell you to move on, or get over it, but deal with the grief however you need to. Of course, like Masquerain said, you need to continue with your life as well. It sucks, and it can be very hard to do, but it actually does help with coping if you're continuing to better your life.

I lost my mom in August of last year to cancer. She passed away only 8 months after being diagnosed, and she was by far the person I was closest to since growing up, it was always just me and her living together, and I literally felt like every day my mom's health declined, that I was getting 1 step closer to the end of my life too. I couldn't even picture a life without my mom in it, but now over time, I've been coping with it and moving on with my life (I'm at the point where I'm just starting my life, so I've had no choice but to deal with my grief in ways that allow me to get other stuff done) and I can say that over time, it does get better. You won't ever "get over it", but it will be easier to deal with over time.

I wish you the best of luck, and I sympathize with you. Just know that things will get better.

 

[Claire Diviner]

My eyesight sucks balls. I'm gonna need glasses/corrective lenses real soon.

Don't feel too bad, I'm on the same boat; I'm horribly near-sighted.

 

[Teran]

At least you have the luxury of correcting your vision.

 

[Holder of the Heel]

Now, now Teran, this thread isn't a contest.

 

[Teran]

You should feel bad for making that implication.

 

[cannedbread]

if this thread was a contest i wonder who would be winning

 

[Holder of the Heel]

You should feel bad for making that implication.

No I shouldn't.

if this thread was a contest i wonder who would be winning

Froggy.

 

[Teran]

Well you shouldn't if you're a c***, so I'll leave it up to you to decide whether or not to stick with that absurdly juvenile statement.

 

[cannedbread]

what else was there to imply though

 

[Teran]

That whilst having bad eyes sucks, at least if your vision can be corrected artificially then it's not all terrible, since it's just an inconvenience and not a life altering disability.

You know, something like that.

Actually what I meant to say was at least they aren't gay, and yes it is a competition for the most miserable life, but I mean I would never consider competing for that because I'd have no chance.

And your mum is fat.

 

[Chronodiver Lokii]

Teran, if i remember from previous posts, didnt you say you have macular degeneration or something similar?

 

[Falconv1.0]

Holder it would be grand if you would stop doing whatever it is that you're trying to do.

It's more annoying than I am for ****'s sake.

 

[Teran]

Teran, if i remember from previous posts, didnt you say you have macular degeneration or something similar?

That's pretty precise, I don't think I actually mentioned that specifically in here.

But yeah.

 

[Chronodiver Lokii]

Now I feel creepy u _ u;;;
I remember you saying something of the like
I mightve just pieced it together. Grandma had it, so I guess I can piece together the signs n stuff? idk

 

[cannedbread]

blah lal blah eyes blah blah gay blah blah yellow text

And your mum is fat.

 

[Oneupsalesman]

Teran n cannedbread n holder and froggy n stuff are making me sad

 

[Melty Venus]

Teran n cannedbread n holder and froggy n stuff are making me sad

Quit yer whining and front that stiff upper lip.

 

[Holder of the Heel]

No worries Oneupsalesman, this is nothing really to be sad over. ^^ It's just unfortunate for Teran to interpret that as me actually making fun of him, for whatever reason I'd do that to him.

Also Falcon, why the self-deprecation? It's been a while since anyone has bickered at you and got butt-hurt about things you've said, as far as I know.

 

[Falconv1.0]

Also Falcon, why the self-deprecation? It's been a while since anyone has bickered at you and got butt-hurt about things you've said, as far as I know.

You know sometimes people make fun of themselves just because they can.

And sometimes I'm really really sad. ;~;

 

[cannedbread]

your here with friends falcon

 

[Holder of the Heel]

My first reaction is to think you're bull****ting, but then a part in me thinks and feels bad. Ellen Page is right, you're among friends.

 

[Teran]

I really miss my laptop and the notation software on it.

This hunk of junk backup of the backup is too crappy to run such a thing, so I'm probably going to have to buy manuscript paper and that **** takes so long to scribble in just the basic stuff.

 

[Falconv1.0]

Teran did you just interrupt me in the middle of a possibly fake moment?

Wow you really are making this into a competition.

I DON'T THINK WE CAN BE TAG TEAM PARTNERS ANYMORE.

 

[Teran]

Well let me tell you somethin jabronijackdude, you've been holdin' me back long enough.

Yeah this is a competition, for the World Misery Championship, and I'm going to the main event to win it. *points at Jobbermania sign*

 

[cannedbread]

i don't even have my own laptop
seriously you guys can come at me with anything, i have the worst life itt if not me froggy

 

[Teran]

Well neither do I anymore.

Also if you want to beat Froggy, I can always just make your life worse for you.

 

[Falconv1.0]

Canned bread is like one of the worst forms of bread on the Earth, get outta my face.

AS FOR YOU, TERAN, I'LL SEE YOU AT JOBBERMANIA AFTER I TAKE DOWN WHITE MAGE FOR THE WORLD JOBBER WEIGHT TITLE.

I'M GONNA BE ALL THE CHAMPIONS.

I AM THE SWF CHAMPIONS.

 

[Teran]

Canned bread is like one of the worst forms of bread on the Earth, get outta my face.

AS FOR YOU, TERAN, I'LL SEE YOU AT JOBBERMANIA AFTER I TAKE DOWN WHITE MAGE FOR THE WORLD JOBBER WEIGHT TITLE.

I'M GONNA BE ALL THE CHAMPIONS.

I AM THE SWF CHAMPIONS.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ak_7tTxZrk

Too lazy to cut a promo so will just roll a video/music package.

 

[quote]

First day of class back at community college. I had a night class and it actually went the full 3 hours.

Dumb.

 

[Holder of the Heel]

Well **** that was disappointing, even if it was "possibly" going to be fake. People in our culture just love imperfection and pain, because like that makes things beautiful and interesting and other stuff I forget. This is your chance.