Bleh... so many misconceptions. This is why I didn't want to take it public exactly (SmashBoards), but I had no choice since it really is an issue with many people in this crew.
Props to GOTM for holding down the fort until I got back. I'm currently in San Jose waiting for my flight to Los Angeles. But yea, almost everyone doesn't understand what I'm talking about.
I don't care about the boards. I don't want people flat out calling people out on **** that doesn't make sense or starting senseless fights or deceiving people, however I like the laid back and chill style of places such as this thread (except the situation where there is a serious topic at hand that needs to be done).
But I generally mean while acting in person, some people are flat out atrocious at times. This can extend to online in some ways. I REALLY don't want to name people or events but I feel like it's eventually going to happen, as there is probably no other way to get people to realize what's going on. When it's all out there, you guys will see where I'm coming from. For the record since you seemed a little uptight about it, don't worry Phillyrider, there's nothing wrong with you that I can think of lol. You're cool on the boards, mad chill in person, etc.
No one hate on Flizzz. His seemingly absent-minded posts here are a great relief from a lot of hassle lol.
As for the comment on games being serious business, some people go to tournaments more often than not. Unfortunately (since it's probably for the worst), my life practically changed when Smash started. GOTM and I were friends since before college, and we started Smash at college when the friends we made coincidentally liked the game, however we both had played it since before college, just nothing serious. That's kind of what happens when you hang out with people like Scar or Cactuar even when Smash isn't involved lol. Then for a while in college it was just playing Smash with friends in our free time, going to tournaments a lot on weekends, and as the case for a lot of us, when not at a tournament we were home in Jersey.
Our friends were smashers and naturally, smashers became our friends. It seems that the average age of smashers has really dropped somewhat, or not progressed at all with others. Now I'm almost 21, almost a 4th year college student, and my average friends I hang out with - smashers - are completely who they shouldn't be. For the most part the people I know through Smash are all younger, less mature, un-reliable, etc. This isn't the case for everyone, it's just that I yearn for more. I should be going to college parties, or hanging out with people more around my age on average. This is potentially my problem, but it's also how the crew started, but whenever we get a new member, it just seems to stray away from what it was more than it was like before.
Our crew was originally a handful of members, all aged within a year of each other (with one, maybe two exceptions), all from the same area, and were all great friends - all similar in how we acted and presented ourselves - whether or not Smash was involved. I knew Mexi and GOTM for 4 years before I started competitive Smash to name a couple. Talwind and Kyuu went to the same high school as us as well (even if GOTM and I didn't know it at the time haha).
I feel like I'm starting to go off on a tangent, but GOTM brought up another great point is that this also started more with the advent of Brawl. I want to play the game I like. If I like Brawl, so be it, but the community itself is so ****ed up compared to the classic Melee scene (I say classic meaning pre-Brawl since I'm not too fond of the Melee scene now post-Brawl, it's quite different) that it's rubbed off on plenty of members. Naturally the players of the Brawl scene seem unintelligent (at life, not at the game), immature, younger, and less respectful.
As a person I care about how I represent myself and the dignity that I hold for myself. If my friends can't uphold the same values, then it's tough to consider them as true friends that I would like to have outside of Smash as well. For instance, I'm sure people would love it if we went out to dinner again as a crew. That's outside the game however, you can't act the same way you do at a tournament in public or with others who aren't involved in the same game or activity, or your elders. It's something I feel many people aren't capable of in a way. I can name plenty that are, but at this moment I would rather not name anyone yet unless people would really like me to so we can all deal with this.
Personal PM'ing is not the way to solve this. That makes it a one-on-one problem between me and them, which it is not. I know 100% that there are people besides me in this crew that feel the exact same way that I do. Many people tbh. I also notice it more and more at National events like Genesis when I meet other crews from various regions that I feel have reached such a level of maturity that I find myself more fitted with than in my own crew, which is sad. I'm envious of how the midwest and texas crews represent themselves at events. I can't help but almost find us as a laughing stock when PA travels.