Sonic The Hedgedawg
Smash Hero
maybe it's you seeing the situation as being one dimensional: who says desu's friend doesn't want to be friends anymore? All I read is that they aren't talking at the moment; if you aren't sure that you can keep your cool when you talk to someone, it's considerate not to talk to them at all.
surrounding yourself with only people with whom you won't have conflict is not a good way to live. you'll never be challenged to think differently or grow personally. As the french say, "vive le difference".
Regardless, we don't all have the same ideals as you. Some of us respect others and, oh, I don't know, feel bad when we hurt them. Obviously that's what happened here and you say the correct response is to abandon the wounded.
now normally I say that this is all just a matter of personal preference and opinion. But Xsyven referring to a friend who might be a little more touchy than normal as a "cancer" provides such a consice image of what a jejune outlook he appears to have on life relationships that I daresay it's not worth even listening to. Then again, it's in my nature to put others first 95% of the time, so my repulsion to Xsyven's mantra may be overstated.
Listen Desu. he's your friend right? and you wanna stay friends? then wait for him. Don't scorn him beause he's not okay with you at the moment. he'll come around eventually and, when he does, go as far as you are willing to to meet him halfway. if he feels wronged enough that you need to go 90% of the way to keep the relationship alive that's okay as long as he's willing to go the other 10%. As long as you think it's a friendship worth having, don't abandon it... but let him come to you when he's ready; he's already informed you that that's what he'll do.
There's nothing left to do but wait. If you feel you need to make amends or change your lifestyle to keep him as a friend, then take stock of what you are and aren't willing to change and make a decision. It's not the end of the world Desu, but things aren't going to just fall into place either. I wish you the best of luck.
you can't spend your entire life attempting to avoid all potential conflict.
surrounding yourself with only people with whom you won't have conflict is not a good way to live. you'll never be challenged to think differently or grow personally. As the french say, "vive le difference".
Regardless, we don't all have the same ideals as you. Some of us respect others and, oh, I don't know, feel bad when we hurt them. Obviously that's what happened here and you say the correct response is to abandon the wounded.
now normally I say that this is all just a matter of personal preference and opinion. But Xsyven referring to a friend who might be a little more touchy than normal as a "cancer" provides such a consice image of what a jejune outlook he appears to have on life relationships that I daresay it's not worth even listening to. Then again, it's in my nature to put others first 95% of the time, so my repulsion to Xsyven's mantra may be overstated.
Listen Desu. he's your friend right? and you wanna stay friends? then wait for him. Don't scorn him beause he's not okay with you at the moment. he'll come around eventually and, when he does, go as far as you are willing to to meet him halfway. if he feels wronged enough that you need to go 90% of the way to keep the relationship alive that's okay as long as he's willing to go the other 10%. As long as you think it's a friendship worth having, don't abandon it... but let him come to you when he's ready; he's already informed you that that's what he'll do.
There's nothing left to do but wait. If you feel you need to make amends or change your lifestyle to keep him as a friend, then take stock of what you are and aren't willing to change and make a decision. It's not the end of the world Desu, but things aren't going to just fall into place either. I wish you the best of luck.
but try not to beat yourself up over it. it's good to hope for the best, but the longer it goes on, the more it wears on you, trust me.
