I hit a pretty bad low point

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So, I think that I could probably consider myself depressed right now. I'm a second year college student. I've lost touch with most of my friends from high school. I haven't made many new friends in college. And the connections that I have built stem from smash. The people I can consider my friends aren't in simple driving distance. I can't just see them whenever I wan't. There isn't really anyone between my family and friends that I feel close with. Anyone care enough to give me some advice?

 

[SuSa]

That's life, be happy you're in college.

If you haven't made any friends that's on you. Sorry if that's a bit harsh - but go out there, introduce yourself to people. Tad awkward? Yea it will and might be for a while, but start doing it. This is how I made my friends in high school.

Eating at Subway? See someone sitting by themselves? Sit by them and ask them if they mind the company. Introduce yourself. Ask them what's on their mind, how's lunch, what is their goal in life?

And don't just ask these things. Listen to these things. Talk about stuff. Be genuinely interested, even if you aren't. After all - are you there to make a friend or to have company?

Because you talk to company, but they leave. Usually because it's a one way relationship. Or you can have a friendship. Friendships (contrary to some popular belief) require two people to maintain. If you can't genuinely care for the others' thoughts, the friendship won't last long anyways - or it won't be as fulfilling.

So sign off SWF and go meet a friend.

 

[Osco316]

I'm not sure what college you attend, but most (if not all) colleges usually have at least a few student organizations. Try finding one that interests you and going to a few meetings. You might be able to get to know some people that way.

Do you live on campus? Try meeting some of your neighbors. This is probably easier if you live in the dorms or an apartment building.

And Susa's right, you'll probably have to go through some awkwardness for this to happen, but it'll be worth it.

 

[Pikaville]

The 2 posts above really say it all.

The only thing I'd add is try not to get down on yourself about it.

If you keep the attitude of "I can't make friends" you never will.

Be confident.

 

[Lythium]

http://www.smashboards.com/showthread.php?t=218536

 

[Jim Morrison]

wannabe mod noob lythium go back to SIC.

 

[Teran]

I'm a university 2nd year too.

I just actively avoid my friends and drink alone while posting on Smashboards.

I choose to be pathetic, ****'s mega cash.

 

[Lythium]

wannabe mod noob lythium go back to SIC.

You know that I'll be glad when User Blogs is back. :3c

 

[marthsword]

You're most likely depressed. But anxious pacing, inability to leave your bed, loss of interest/participation in hobbies, a feeling when you're screaming on the inside, would definitely confirm it. In this case, Western medicine is ideal. If your depression is interfering with your schoolwork or daily life, go see a psychiatrist of M.D, talk about antidepressants. It's better sooner than later because there's a waiting time before you feel the effects.

The best thing you can do without meds is to get out of bed and lift your spirits through socialization. No need to step outside your comfort zone just yet, maybe make small talk till you hit it off with someone. But if you are mentally are unable to even do that much, don't beat yourself up about it. It's part of the medical condition.

Oh, and if you find yourself unable to connect with a person on an emotional level, I strongly suggest you get medicated. This is most likely clinical depression. Don't hide your depression, it's too common to be ashamed about. But if you get this far in, you're going to feel detached, but you need to keep socializing. At this point, isolating yourself is the worst thing you can do.

 

[1048576]

Freidnship is two things. A secret and a favor. Ask to borrow someone's notes before class. Strike up a conversation. Find out something you have in common. Add him/her on facebook and make conversation about that thing. Eventually you'll get to the point where you'll share your vulnerabilities and voila, friendship.

 

[Vinylic.]

So, I think that I could probably consider myself depressed right now. I'm a second year college student. I've lost touch with most of my friends from high school. I haven't made many new friends in college. And the connections that I have built stem from smash. The people I can consider my friends aren't in simple driving distance. I can't just see them whenever I wan't. There isn't really anyone between my family and friends that I feel close with. Anyone care enough to give me some advice?

Answer: Keep moving foward.
Make your life one hell of a life.

 

[Strong Badam]

Yeah it sucks we're like 45 mins from eachother otherwise we'd hang more :/

 

[Pink Reaper]

I'm a university 2nd year too.

I just actively avoid my friends and drink alone while posting on Smashboards.

I choose to be pathetic, ****'s mega cash.

Being so offensively gay that literally no one, not even your "friends" want to associate with you and only being able to stave off suicide by being so drunk that you cant figure out how to do it doesnt count as "choosing" so much as being forced.

 

[Shadic]

Being so offensively gay that literally no one, not even your "friends" want to associate with you and only being able to stave off suicide by being so drunk that you cant figure out how to do it doesnt count as "choosing" so much as being forced.

 

[Teran]

Being so offensively gay that literally no one, not even your "friends" want to associate with you and only being able to stave off suicide by being so drunk that you cant figure out how to do it doesnt count as "choosing" so much as being forced.

Who knows PR, maybe one day I'll come out of denial.

For now I'll just roll with being too cool.

 

[Jim Morrison]

Being so offensively gay that literally no one, not even your "friends" want to associate with you and only being able to stave off suicide by being so drunk that you cant figure out how to do it doesnt count as "choosing" so much as being forced.

 

[Yonder]

Yeah i got depression too bro, working to fight it.

 

[alexmax021]

So, I think that I could probably consider myself depressed right now. I'm a second year college student. I've lost touch with most of my friends from high school. I haven't made many new friends in college. And the connections that I have built stem from smash. The people I can consider my friends aren't in simple driving distance. I can't just see them whenever I wan't. There isn't really anyone between my family and friends that I feel close with. Anyone care enough to give me some advice?

I also think so.

 

[jugfingers]

So, I think that I could probably consider myself depressed right now. I'm a second year college student. I've lost touch with most of my friends from high school. I haven't made many new friends in college. And the connections that I have built stem from smash. The people I can consider my friends aren't in simple driving distance. I can't just see them whenever I wan't. There isn't really anyone between my family and friends that I feel close with. Anyone care enough to give me some advice?

think about this.


at least your not being eaten alive by millions of terrifying insects(use your imagination) maybe something with lots of legs, eyes and savage pinchers.

 

[Overload]

For a while I've been pretty depressed. I pretty much stopped caring about anything.
Last night though, I was hanging out with some friends, and we took a drug. The drug isn't important, and I'm not advocating the use of drugs to deal with depression because your results could very well differ from mine, but I released everything I've been holding in. I just started crying uncontrollably. I can't put into words how good it felt. I now feel reborn. My mind is much clearer, more alert. I am feeling things again. It is so easy to cage yourself in. It's a dark place, but there is something comfortable about it that makes it so easy to stay there. For me, I think it had a lot to do with my opinion of myself, and trusting others. I would take everything anyone said, and turn it into an attack against myself, beating myself up.
I feel free now, without voices swarming in my head.

Music is pretty helpful for me if I'm ever feeling down. This song is pretty lifting for me http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KM9PwTC3xZM

Just wanted to share my experience with depression. I really hope you get through this. Good luck.

 

[P.C. Jona]

just talk to girls

walk up and say whats up

be weird

if your an attractive person it works really well LOL

if not dont do it

but still

talk to girls

it passes the time

 

[Namaste]

Things like this are NOT okay.

- Skyler

 

[Merkuri]

So, I think that I could probably consider myself depressed right now. I'm a second year college student. I've lost touch with most of my friends from high school. I haven't made many new friends in college. And the connections that I have built stem from smash. The people I can consider my friends aren't in simple driving distance. I can't just see them whenever I wan't. There isn't really anyone between my family and friends that I feel close with. Anyone care enough to give me some advice?

Pretty much all my friends in school come from my school's gamers club. See if your school has a gamers club, it works a lot better if you live on campus though.

 

[AlphaZealot]

Join a fraternity.

 

[Pikaville]

For a while I've been pretty depressed. I pretty much stopped caring about anything.
Last night though, I was hanging out with some friends, and we took a drug. The drug isn't important, and I'm not advocating the use of drugs to deal with depression because your results could very well differ from mine, but I released everything I've been holding in. I just started crying uncontrollably. I can't put into words how good it felt. I now feel reborn. My mind is much clearer, more alert. I am feeling things again. It is so easy to cage yourself in. It's a dark place, but there is something comfortable about it that makes it so easy to stay there. For me, I think it had a lot to do with my opinion of myself, and trusting others. I would take everything anyone said, and turn it into an attack against myself, beating myself up.
I feel free now, without voices swarming in my head.

Music is pretty helpful for me if I'm ever feeling down. This song is pretty lifting for me http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KM9PwTC3xZM

Just wanted to share my experience with depression. I really hope you get through this. Good luck.

That's amazing that you were able to finally break free and release your emotions.

It's really really important for your mental health to let people know how you feel.Lingering on bad feelings and not talking it out can take it's toll.

I was just talking to TigerWoods the other night and thinking of my future ahead of me.I suddenly got really upset over a bunch of stuff that I had pushed to the back of my mind.

For example the fact that when I move to America I'm going to leave behind everything I know, my friends, my family, my home etc.

Then there was other stuff to but tl;dr.

Anyways it's an AMAZING feeling to just cry your *** off sometimes and tell people about the crap that' upsetting you.

 

[Bassoonist]

So, I think that I could probably consider myself depressed right now. I'm a second year college student. I've lost touch with most of my friends from high school. I haven't made many new friends in college. And the connections that I have built stem from smash. The people I can consider my friends aren't in simple driving distance. I can't just see them whenever I wan't. There isn't really anyone between my family and friends that I feel close with. Anyone care enough to give me some advice?

My advice is that is no reason to be depressed.

However, I'm not sure how possible it is to come to that realization without something major happening in your life. I'll tell you that is the only reason I learned. I hate, hate, hate looking back on my days when I was so depressed over such things.

It's a waste of time being depressed and whining about it. It'll never get you anywhere. You need to try to make new friends. You made old ones. You can make new ones. It's not impossible for you, apparently.

 

[Keitaro]

If there's a gaming club at your school, join it.

 

[PolarBear]

I've been feeling the same way after transferring from a college I enjoyed and coming back home. What I have done to get over this was make the most of the friends I still have. It may only be four people, but we go out and make crazy fun on our own. I also spend a lot of time doing individual things like watching films and playing video games. As a bit of an introvert, I've learned to enjoy spending a whole weekend on my own. Like others have said, join clubs, introduce yourself as soon as a situation comes up, and you don't need a whole bunch of people surrounding you to enjoy life.

 

[skekasaurus]

Buy a BMW, you'll have all the friends you want. Get an M3, and you'll have a panty dropper. Easy as that haha.

If you can't afford one right now, then just keep your head up and finish college. Then you'll have good money to get one and then you'll be set. But if you want immediate friends, just join a club that interests you. I don't know what you may be into, but I personally love cars so I hang around mostly people that have the same interest as me. From that alone I've met a handful of cool friends, its all about having some common interest with another person.

One last piece of advice, try not to look or act depressed. Its definitely a type of energy people don't really want to be around. Just try and be happy and full of positive energy, and people will be attracted to you.

Good luck!

 

[Zook]

Just get laid.

 

[Dre89]

I'm a university 2nd year too.

I just actively avoid my friends and drink alone while posting on Smashboards.

I choose to be pathetic, ****'s mega cash.

Yet you always want people to know that.

The classic case of the person who claims to hate socialising, yet cares what people think of him. Kind of like the person who claims to hate attention, just to get attention.

I say this because I know you'll handle it light heartedly. And yet at the same time, you're one of the people on these boards that I would have liked to meet most.

 

[Jim Morrison]

dre. telling it like it is ahahaha

 

[Gatlin]

You just have to be observant, for the most part. You need to find people with similar interests that you have, gamer? I am sure you can find a bunch. Also, friends of friends of friends of friends is a great way to get to know a lot of people. I have a friend who is room mates with 2 of his friends, I met those friends, and whenever they have other friends over I meet them as well.

Don't be afraid of what people think, don't hesitate to answer people. If people ask what your hobbies are, simply say you like to game, or you like to go hiking, or whatever you like to do. You never know, maybe they have the same hobbies as well, people can be surprising at times. If not, who cares, it's not like they are going to hate you, it is just a hobby.

I struggled to make friends, heck I still do. But whenever you are having a conversation with someone, don't let them do all the talking, get involved, show you care about what they are saying.

I am rambling, lol. Just try to live your life that way you want to live it, try and be the person you want to be, and have fun! Good luck.

 

[Skler]

The pool room is apparently awesome, though that may be because of Pink Reaper. I'm feeling helpful, so I'll try and help!

Skler's guide to college success:

Just make friends with people on your floor/in your dorm. It's pretty simple since you're in forced proximity anyways. Might as well make the best of it! Leave your door open while you play smash or something (assuming dorm life), I met tons of people by just leaving my door open. If you aren't meeting people through having an open door than go to socials or something. Generally the people who go to socials will be similar to you in that they're looking for people to hang out with. The socials themselves are generally terrible, but you only need to go to one, talk to one kid, then meet his/her friends and you're all set.

Or you can invite all of Maine to your dorm, have them sleep in the common room and then get kicked out of it by a *****y RA.

Alternatively, join a club that you're interested in. Win life.

Edit: Fun fact, my RA sophomore year thought I was gay because of the whole Maine thing. Apparently a bunch of dudes sleeping in a room together with video game systems everywhere is gay. Either that or the anal sex.

 

[Luigitoilet]

Yet you always want people to know that.

The classic case of the person who claims to hate socialising, yet cares what people think of him. Kind of like the person who claims to hate attention, just to get attention.

I say this because I know you'll handle it light heartedly. And yet at the same time, you're one of the people on these boards that I would have liked to meet most.

To be honest, I think internet socializing is a very different beast than face to face socializing. I understand where Teran is coming from because I am very much the same way. Online, you can mold and hone your "personality" in ways that you just can't in person. I also don't think self-consciousness and a bit of anti-social behavior are mutually exclusive.

 

[Teran]

So people drag up something I post over a month ago and make comments.

>.>

Man I know I like to ham up with the self deprecating humour but seriously Dre quoting every post I make on the running jokes is just =/

I mean there's no denying there's a lot of truth to things I say but lol @ taking it 100% literally.

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

Seems like Dre's mad.

 

[5ive]

So people drag up something I post over a month ago and make comments.

>.>

Man I know I like to ham up with the self deprecating humour but seriously Dre quoting every post I make on the running jokes is just =/

I mean there's no denying there's a lot of truth to things I say but lol @ taking it 100% literally.

u salty ur socially awkward?

 

[Teran]

Too wasted to tell!

 

[Dre89]

So people drag up something I post over a month ago and make comments.

>.>

Man I know I like to ham up with the self deprecating humour but seriously Dre quoting every post I make on the running jokes is just =/

I mean there's no denying there's a lot of truth to things I say but lol @ taking it 100% literally.

It's hard to tell on the net whether you're joking or not because there is no tone.

It also makes it harder when the supposed joke wasn't really funny at all....