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*I wrote this on my facebook account a couple of weeks ago and I wanted to bring it here to spread it to a larger audience. Hope you guys like it and, if enough people like it, I may post more of my facebook notes here in the future.*
I love women. I always have and I haven’t really been that open about it until about a year and a half ago. In that period of time, I’ve met a lot of great girls and have talked to a few quite extensively. Needless to say, I’ve learned a lot from the women that I’ve been in contact with. I’ve learned a decent amount about their lives and the problems they have faced. One of the problems that seemed to come up again and again is guys being interested in them that they aren’t interested in them at all. In this note, I wanted to address this problem in full.
“Men are stupid; women are insane.” Whenever I see problems in relationships or when one party exclaims “I just don’t understand the opposite sex” I usually say this. Why do I say it? Because I believe it’s true and, because of I believe in it, I don’t find anything women do to be confusing anymore. People usually get mad at me when I say this because they see it as a jab to both sexes. Well, it’s supposed to be and if you can’t laugh at your own faults, you’ll never learn how to overcome them. So what do I mean by this exactly?
From how I see it, men will do stupid things and not even be aware of it. They don’t see how things could become bad in the future or possible mistakes they made in the past. “I've admitted to sleeping with like 4,000 girls but there’s absolutely no way that will bug her in the least or cause any tension” or “Because we live 200 miles apart, I haven’t been able to talk to her in 3 months but there’s no way that she’s lonely or the least bit resentful” are classic examples. Now for women, they tend to do stupid things, be fully aware that it’s a bad idea, but still do it anyways. “He’s got an extensive criminal record, is a full blown alcoholic, and eats live puppies but I’m sure I can turn him around” or “I’m going to wear a bikini to a frat party and I’ll be the only girl but there’s no way that any of the guys will ogle me” are slightly exaggerated examples. If reading this hasn’t caused you to smack yourself upside the head from remembering a past occurance, you’re not being honest with yourself, you’re a complete shut in, or you’re actually a dog/cat and are somehow reading this.
Now that I’ve explained that, I’m going to move on to the point of this note: explaining things that women do to attract guys that they unintentionally do or do on purpose but not to attract a guy. Consider this my break out article. I’ve actually studied dating and relationships as far back as elementary school when I’d randomly read books at the local library on the subject (and try to understand them which I really didn't until years later). I’d say that I know quite a bit and, as they say, no time is better than the present to share my knowledge.
*Before reading this, take note that this doesn’t apply to: your friends that are gay, your friends who have already said that they are not interested, or friends that are currently dating someone else (but it could so just be careful unless you want to land yourself in a soap opera situation).*
1. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t hug him unless you’ve completely established and made clear that you’re not interested in anything outside of a friendship. Touch establishes a connection regardless of your intentions. That’s just how guys are wired because of the magical man juice called testosterone. Yes, this is college and everyone seems to grope everyone but don’t fall into the habit with guys. If he’s the one doing the hugging, don’t encourage it if you’re not interested or else you will establish in his mind false hope. You don’t have to be mean about it like knee him in crotch (although that would get the point across); just be passive about it and it won’t be likely that you’ll hurt his feelings.
2. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t ask him for favors. To a vast majority of guys this says “I need you and even though there are other people who could have done it, I chose you.” Don’t personally single him out if you need help moving something, doing a project, continous help with a certain subject, etc. If the action requires him to spend money or spend more than an hour of his time, it’s not a good idea unless there are multiple people involved. If it’s pretty obvious that the guy would willingly set himself on fire for you, don’t take advantage of it unless you actually want someone who pretends his pillow is your face every night and steals your hair/fingernails from your trash.
3. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t accept an invitation to something where it will be the two of you like a dance/movie/wedding reception/etc and could easily be classified by any onlooker as a date. Situations like this make it all too easy for the guy to picture you as a couple and will give him the wrong idea if you’re not interested. If you feel like you “have” to go, don’t assume that he knows that you’re “just friends” at said event. When in doubt, act like he’s completely ******** (which some guys are). Tell him straight up that “this isn’t a date.” Unless he really is ******** or deaf (pro-tip: make sure his hearing aid is on), he should get the message. Either way, it’s a high risk situation so it’s probably just best to avoid it altogether if you can.
4. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t do any of the following: hold his hand, massage his shoulders/back/neck/tonsils/etc, glomp him, use him as a pillow/flotation device, poke him, pet him, kiss him on the cheek, put your hands/arms on his shoulders/neck/waist/face/etc, play with the hair on his head/face/back, rub any part of your body against him especially your face or chest, jump on his back, or latch on his face like an evil koala. Rule of thumb, if it feels good for him, don’t do it. Also, don’t let him do the same to you. Allowing it says to him that you’re interested even if the thought of dating him makes you want to commit hari-kari.
5. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t talk about stuff with him that you’d normally talk about with your girlfriends like your boobs or how wonderfully divine your time of the month is. Even if you’re normally open about this stuff, this creates the illusion that he’s someone in your “inner circle” or that you trust him the same amount as your girlfriends. His naïve Peter Pan side will tell him “this is private stuff she’s telling me. I doubt she talks to other guys about this stuff so it must mean she likes me.” No, it probably just means you’re comfortable talking about your chest and/or mother nature is being a particular mother this month and you just need to blow off some steam. Even if a majority of your friends are guys, this is still the case. They’re still guys so don’t mistake them for girls.
6. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t give him gifts and especially don’t give him a gift if he gave you one first. Birthdays can be an exception but only if you’ve known each other for several years and, once again, have clearly established that you’re just friends. As a rule of thumb, it’s probably not a good idea to accept a gift that’s worth more than ten bucks if it’s from one individual guy. Despite popular belief, it is possible to refuse a gift from someone without them bursting into flames. It should be easy with something small but I imagine that if he yanks out something like a pearl necklace or the charter to your own private island, things could get hairy like your father’s back. Hopefully, you won’t get stuck in one of those worst case scenarios because I can’t really say anything aside from being a better judge of character and screening for psychos early on to avoid the situation altogether.
7. If you’re not interested in a guy, be careful of what you wear around him. Showing off a lot of leg, midriff, and cleavage around him will instinctively draw his attention. It’s called animal magnetism. Some guys have a lot of control over it (simply giving a quick glance as a hot girl walks by), others don’t (completely turning around as said hot girl walks away). Time for a reality shattering truth: all your straight guy friends have pictured (or have tried to because, I’ll admit, some girls are really hard to) you naked at some point in time.
A vast majority of guys will not admit to this and really shouldn’t have to because in most cases it’s usually a once or twice thing that lasts like a few seconds unless he’s genuinely interested. The more attractive you are, the sooner this probably happened and even if you’re not attractive, he probably has for the same reason that people will willingly watch infomericals at 3 in the morning: boredom or a cheap laugh. Now before you freak out and go into a seizure, it’s not that big of a deal. The sky is blue. Water is wet. Justin Timberlake was always secretly gay. Want to prevent guys from doing this? Too bad, you can’t but don’t give him more of a reason to do so. This doesn’t mean to start wearing garbage bags or burkas, just be aware of what you wear around certain guys. If you dress too sexy, he’ll think that you’re doing it specifically for him even if that’s just how you dress on a regular basis.
8. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t throw around compliments. Don’t just spontaneously tell him he’s handsome or how sweet he is or anything like that. If you’re going to compliment him, make sure there’s a reason behind it instead of just throwing it out from nowhere. For example, if he’s dressed nice, you can simply compliment his appearance and just leave it at that. Don’t gush or carry on and on. If he is interested in you, he’ll be thrilled. If he isn’t, it’ll just annoy the crap out of him and be the equivalent of poking him in the side of the head with a stick. In either case, compliments are best used sparingly; not every time you see each other.
9. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t talk about your dreams (like the one you had last night about being 500 pounds and destroying New York City with your monstrously huge butt) or lifelong goals especially if they’re not something you talk about regularly. Again, this shows that you’re comfortable enough to tell him about potentially embarrassing/private things. In his mind, the fact that you’re risking him full out laughing in your face shows that you’re willing to take that risk to be closer to him. Again, this is another fun case where you need to be careful not to mistake your guy friends for your girl friends.
10. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t give him your phone number so you can just call him up for a chat. This singles him out and gives him the idea that you want to talk one on one privately. If you have to, clearly specify why you’re giving him your number. For example, “When you decide what time you want to meet at the library to start researching famous elephants for our project, give me a call at *insert phone number here*.” This is really just a matter of common sense. You don’t just randomly give out your number in any other case so don’t do it to a guy unless you are interested or have clearly stated why you’re giving it to him.
11. If you’re not interested in a guy, be aware of your body language around him. A lot can be told from body language. Here are some of the text book examples of signs of attraction: fiddling with your hair or trying to keep it neat while he’s around, looking directly into his eyes most of the time while he talks, positioning your body to be completely pointed at him (key parts: face, chest, and feet), looking down to the left periodically while talking/listening, standing closer than arms’ length apart to him (unless it’s a really crowded area), touching your face/lips while he’s talking (as in keeping your hands there for longer than it takes to wipe your mouth with a napkin), smiling with your teeth for longer than a few seconds at a time while he’s talking to you, leaning forward while he’s talking (unless it’s a situation where you have to in order to hear better)etc.
Some of these you may simply do out of habit and do them with everyone. Some of these you do out of instinct. Attraction is a subconscious thing so even if you think the guy is a complete douchebag and the idea of him getting hit by an ice cream truck puts a smile on your face, you may still do some of the things I listed because, in your mind, you think he’s drop dead gorgeous and your body’s being a snitch. Yes, you can hate someone and still subconsciously find them attractive. Yes, your body sucks but there is some good news; everyone is like this and a vast majority of guys aren’t aware of these signs consciously but they may pick up on them subconsciously or if, like me, they actually study this kind of stuff. Now that you know, be aware of them because KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
12. If you not interested in a guy, do not talk about sex around him ESPECIALLY when it’s just you and him. This is probably the biggest pitfall that a lot of girls fall into. Once again, do not think that your guy friends think the same way as your girl friends. Even if it’s jokes, his mind will wander to that. Again, like in the naked example earlier, it probably won’t be for a long period of time unless you repeatedly do it (talking about sex, not having sex in front of him which would be unbelievably weird unless for some strange reason you both work in porn). Don’t jokingly offer sexual favors because that will make the mental image all the easier to make. This should be common sense but this is one of the most common examples of “women are insane” that I’ve come across. If your gut is telling you that it’s a bad idea, it probably is. Again, I fully realize that some people talk about it all the time but you should still be aware of it regardless.
13. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t laugh at his jokes if you genuinely don’t think they’re funny. Believe it or not, some guys tell crappy jokes on purpose because they know that girls laughing at crappy jokes is a sign of attraction, even if it’s a subconscious thing. You don’t have to give him a death glare and say to his face “that joke was bad and you should feel bad; why are you still alive?” if you don’t think his jokes are funny. Making people laugh is a sign that the person making the jokes wants to make the people listening in happy so if it’s directed at you, he’s trying to specifically make you happy. There’s definitely a difference between laughing at something you think is genuinely funny and laughing just to be polite. Don’t laugh to be polite. If his jokes truly suck, make him aware of it by your silence. Ever hear the expression “make him work for it?” You should definitely apply that to this. Have him earn your laughter, don’t just give it to him or you’ll, once again, be sending the wrong messages.
So, that’s that. Did you learn anything? To the guys reading this, you may want to take notes because despite the things I told girls not to do, I listed plenty of things that should be looked for. Keep in mind what the point of this note was though, to point out how signals can be misleading so don’t just stupidly follow things unless you start noticing a lot of the signs. If you find yourself in that situation, she’s either interested or completely oblivious that she’s sending out those signs. (Yes, the later can happen but don’t let it completely discourage you.) For the girls, I think I’ve said enough and I hope what I have said will help you in future interactions with guys. It’s a crazy world but things are made a lot clearer when we come to terms that we all are just a little bit crazy. Admit to it, be honest with yourself, and you’ll learn a lot.
Fatmanonice, April 24th 2010
“Love is a serious mental disease.” –Plato
"Always laugh when you can. It's cheap medicine." -Lord Byron
“The first symptom of love in a young man is shyness; the first symptom in a woman, its boldness.” -Victor Hugo
*I wrote this on my facebook account a couple of weeks ago and I wanted to bring it here to spread it to a larger audience. Hope you guys like it and, if enough people like it, I may post more of my facebook notes here in the future.*
I love women. I always have and I haven’t really been that open about it until about a year and a half ago. In that period of time, I’ve met a lot of great girls and have talked to a few quite extensively. Needless to say, I’ve learned a lot from the women that I’ve been in contact with. I’ve learned a decent amount about their lives and the problems they have faced. One of the problems that seemed to come up again and again is guys being interested in them that they aren’t interested in them at all. In this note, I wanted to address this problem in full.
“Men are stupid; women are insane.” Whenever I see problems in relationships or when one party exclaims “I just don’t understand the opposite sex” I usually say this. Why do I say it? Because I believe it’s true and, because of I believe in it, I don’t find anything women do to be confusing anymore. People usually get mad at me when I say this because they see it as a jab to both sexes. Well, it’s supposed to be and if you can’t laugh at your own faults, you’ll never learn how to overcome them. So what do I mean by this exactly?
From how I see it, men will do stupid things and not even be aware of it. They don’t see how things could become bad in the future or possible mistakes they made in the past. “I've admitted to sleeping with like 4,000 girls but there’s absolutely no way that will bug her in the least or cause any tension” or “Because we live 200 miles apart, I haven’t been able to talk to her in 3 months but there’s no way that she’s lonely or the least bit resentful” are classic examples. Now for women, they tend to do stupid things, be fully aware that it’s a bad idea, but still do it anyways. “He’s got an extensive criminal record, is a full blown alcoholic, and eats live puppies but I’m sure I can turn him around” or “I’m going to wear a bikini to a frat party and I’ll be the only girl but there’s no way that any of the guys will ogle me” are slightly exaggerated examples. If reading this hasn’t caused you to smack yourself upside the head from remembering a past occurance, you’re not being honest with yourself, you’re a complete shut in, or you’re actually a dog/cat and are somehow reading this.
Now that I’ve explained that, I’m going to move on to the point of this note: explaining things that women do to attract guys that they unintentionally do or do on purpose but not to attract a guy. Consider this my break out article. I’ve actually studied dating and relationships as far back as elementary school when I’d randomly read books at the local library on the subject (and try to understand them which I really didn't until years later). I’d say that I know quite a bit and, as they say, no time is better than the present to share my knowledge.
*Before reading this, take note that this doesn’t apply to: your friends that are gay, your friends who have already said that they are not interested, or friends that are currently dating someone else (but it could so just be careful unless you want to land yourself in a soap opera situation).*
1. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t hug him unless you’ve completely established and made clear that you’re not interested in anything outside of a friendship. Touch establishes a connection regardless of your intentions. That’s just how guys are wired because of the magical man juice called testosterone. Yes, this is college and everyone seems to grope everyone but don’t fall into the habit with guys. If he’s the one doing the hugging, don’t encourage it if you’re not interested or else you will establish in his mind false hope. You don’t have to be mean about it like knee him in crotch (although that would get the point across); just be passive about it and it won’t be likely that you’ll hurt his feelings.
2. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t ask him for favors. To a vast majority of guys this says “I need you and even though there are other people who could have done it, I chose you.” Don’t personally single him out if you need help moving something, doing a project, continous help with a certain subject, etc. If the action requires him to spend money or spend more than an hour of his time, it’s not a good idea unless there are multiple people involved. If it’s pretty obvious that the guy would willingly set himself on fire for you, don’t take advantage of it unless you actually want someone who pretends his pillow is your face every night and steals your hair/fingernails from your trash.
3. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t accept an invitation to something where it will be the two of you like a dance/movie/wedding reception/etc and could easily be classified by any onlooker as a date. Situations like this make it all too easy for the guy to picture you as a couple and will give him the wrong idea if you’re not interested. If you feel like you “have” to go, don’t assume that he knows that you’re “just friends” at said event. When in doubt, act like he’s completely ******** (which some guys are). Tell him straight up that “this isn’t a date.” Unless he really is ******** or deaf (pro-tip: make sure his hearing aid is on), he should get the message. Either way, it’s a high risk situation so it’s probably just best to avoid it altogether if you can.
4. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t do any of the following: hold his hand, massage his shoulders/back/neck/tonsils/etc, glomp him, use him as a pillow/flotation device, poke him, pet him, kiss him on the cheek, put your hands/arms on his shoulders/neck/waist/face/etc, play with the hair on his head/face/back, rub any part of your body against him especially your face or chest, jump on his back, or latch on his face like an evil koala. Rule of thumb, if it feels good for him, don’t do it. Also, don’t let him do the same to you. Allowing it says to him that you’re interested even if the thought of dating him makes you want to commit hari-kari.
5. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t talk about stuff with him that you’d normally talk about with your girlfriends like your boobs or how wonderfully divine your time of the month is. Even if you’re normally open about this stuff, this creates the illusion that he’s someone in your “inner circle” or that you trust him the same amount as your girlfriends. His naïve Peter Pan side will tell him “this is private stuff she’s telling me. I doubt she talks to other guys about this stuff so it must mean she likes me.” No, it probably just means you’re comfortable talking about your chest and/or mother nature is being a particular mother this month and you just need to blow off some steam. Even if a majority of your friends are guys, this is still the case. They’re still guys so don’t mistake them for girls.
6. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t give him gifts and especially don’t give him a gift if he gave you one first. Birthdays can be an exception but only if you’ve known each other for several years and, once again, have clearly established that you’re just friends. As a rule of thumb, it’s probably not a good idea to accept a gift that’s worth more than ten bucks if it’s from one individual guy. Despite popular belief, it is possible to refuse a gift from someone without them bursting into flames. It should be easy with something small but I imagine that if he yanks out something like a pearl necklace or the charter to your own private island, things could get hairy like your father’s back. Hopefully, you won’t get stuck in one of those worst case scenarios because I can’t really say anything aside from being a better judge of character and screening for psychos early on to avoid the situation altogether.
7. If you’re not interested in a guy, be careful of what you wear around him. Showing off a lot of leg, midriff, and cleavage around him will instinctively draw his attention. It’s called animal magnetism. Some guys have a lot of control over it (simply giving a quick glance as a hot girl walks by), others don’t (completely turning around as said hot girl walks away). Time for a reality shattering truth: all your straight guy friends have pictured (or have tried to because, I’ll admit, some girls are really hard to) you naked at some point in time.
A vast majority of guys will not admit to this and really shouldn’t have to because in most cases it’s usually a once or twice thing that lasts like a few seconds unless he’s genuinely interested. The more attractive you are, the sooner this probably happened and even if you’re not attractive, he probably has for the same reason that people will willingly watch infomericals at 3 in the morning: boredom or a cheap laugh. Now before you freak out and go into a seizure, it’s not that big of a deal. The sky is blue. Water is wet. Justin Timberlake was always secretly gay. Want to prevent guys from doing this? Too bad, you can’t but don’t give him more of a reason to do so. This doesn’t mean to start wearing garbage bags or burkas, just be aware of what you wear around certain guys. If you dress too sexy, he’ll think that you’re doing it specifically for him even if that’s just how you dress on a regular basis.
8. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t throw around compliments. Don’t just spontaneously tell him he’s handsome or how sweet he is or anything like that. If you’re going to compliment him, make sure there’s a reason behind it instead of just throwing it out from nowhere. For example, if he’s dressed nice, you can simply compliment his appearance and just leave it at that. Don’t gush or carry on and on. If he is interested in you, he’ll be thrilled. If he isn’t, it’ll just annoy the crap out of him and be the equivalent of poking him in the side of the head with a stick. In either case, compliments are best used sparingly; not every time you see each other.
9. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t talk about your dreams (like the one you had last night about being 500 pounds and destroying New York City with your monstrously huge butt) or lifelong goals especially if they’re not something you talk about regularly. Again, this shows that you’re comfortable enough to tell him about potentially embarrassing/private things. In his mind, the fact that you’re risking him full out laughing in your face shows that you’re willing to take that risk to be closer to him. Again, this is another fun case where you need to be careful not to mistake your guy friends for your girl friends.
10. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t give him your phone number so you can just call him up for a chat. This singles him out and gives him the idea that you want to talk one on one privately. If you have to, clearly specify why you’re giving him your number. For example, “When you decide what time you want to meet at the library to start researching famous elephants for our project, give me a call at *insert phone number here*.” This is really just a matter of common sense. You don’t just randomly give out your number in any other case so don’t do it to a guy unless you are interested or have clearly stated why you’re giving it to him.
11. If you’re not interested in a guy, be aware of your body language around him. A lot can be told from body language. Here are some of the text book examples of signs of attraction: fiddling with your hair or trying to keep it neat while he’s around, looking directly into his eyes most of the time while he talks, positioning your body to be completely pointed at him (key parts: face, chest, and feet), looking down to the left periodically while talking/listening, standing closer than arms’ length apart to him (unless it’s a really crowded area), touching your face/lips while he’s talking (as in keeping your hands there for longer than it takes to wipe your mouth with a napkin), smiling with your teeth for longer than a few seconds at a time while he’s talking to you, leaning forward while he’s talking (unless it’s a situation where you have to in order to hear better)etc.
Some of these you may simply do out of habit and do them with everyone. Some of these you do out of instinct. Attraction is a subconscious thing so even if you think the guy is a complete douchebag and the idea of him getting hit by an ice cream truck puts a smile on your face, you may still do some of the things I listed because, in your mind, you think he’s drop dead gorgeous and your body’s being a snitch. Yes, you can hate someone and still subconsciously find them attractive. Yes, your body sucks but there is some good news; everyone is like this and a vast majority of guys aren’t aware of these signs consciously but they may pick up on them subconsciously or if, like me, they actually study this kind of stuff. Now that you know, be aware of them because KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!
12. If you not interested in a guy, do not talk about sex around him ESPECIALLY when it’s just you and him. This is probably the biggest pitfall that a lot of girls fall into. Once again, do not think that your guy friends think the same way as your girl friends. Even if it’s jokes, his mind will wander to that. Again, like in the naked example earlier, it probably won’t be for a long period of time unless you repeatedly do it (talking about sex, not having sex in front of him which would be unbelievably weird unless for some strange reason you both work in porn). Don’t jokingly offer sexual favors because that will make the mental image all the easier to make. This should be common sense but this is one of the most common examples of “women are insane” that I’ve come across. If your gut is telling you that it’s a bad idea, it probably is. Again, I fully realize that some people talk about it all the time but you should still be aware of it regardless.
13. If you’re not interested in a guy, don’t laugh at his jokes if you genuinely don’t think they’re funny. Believe it or not, some guys tell crappy jokes on purpose because they know that girls laughing at crappy jokes is a sign of attraction, even if it’s a subconscious thing. You don’t have to give him a death glare and say to his face “that joke was bad and you should feel bad; why are you still alive?” if you don’t think his jokes are funny. Making people laugh is a sign that the person making the jokes wants to make the people listening in happy so if it’s directed at you, he’s trying to specifically make you happy. There’s definitely a difference between laughing at something you think is genuinely funny and laughing just to be polite. Don’t laugh to be polite. If his jokes truly suck, make him aware of it by your silence. Ever hear the expression “make him work for it?” You should definitely apply that to this. Have him earn your laughter, don’t just give it to him or you’ll, once again, be sending the wrong messages.
So, that’s that. Did you learn anything? To the guys reading this, you may want to take notes because despite the things I told girls not to do, I listed plenty of things that should be looked for. Keep in mind what the point of this note was though, to point out how signals can be misleading so don’t just stupidly follow things unless you start noticing a lot of the signs. If you find yourself in that situation, she’s either interested or completely oblivious that she’s sending out those signs. (Yes, the later can happen but don’t let it completely discourage you.) For the girls, I think I’ve said enough and I hope what I have said will help you in future interactions with guys. It’s a crazy world but things are made a lot clearer when we come to terms that we all are just a little bit crazy. Admit to it, be honest with yourself, and you’ll learn a lot.
Fatmanonice, April 24th 2010
“Love is a serious mental disease.” –Plato
"Always laugh when you can. It's cheap medicine." -Lord Byron
“The first symptom of love in a young man is shyness; the first symptom in a woman, its boldness.” -Victor Hugo
Yeah, there are times where you can find a girl that does a large number of these and is not interested at all. Some girls are just wired that way and don't even know it. 
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