Future Sailor

[rhan]

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I'm enlisted in the United States Navy. I am damn proud of my decision. But what I worry about isn't basic training or going to war or whatever. It's actually what may happen between my and my girlfriend while I serve.

We have been together for 7 months now. I love her with all my heart and I actually lost my virginity to her. I know when I leave in June it'll be difficult for both of us being so far away from each other and having little contact with her when I'm out. We already don't see each other too often and it's already hard enough. While I'm over seas I don't want to give in to temptation (And I'm pretty confident that I won't). But I'm more worried about her giving into it or giving up on us.

I don't really know what to do. I know it'll hurt us both if things are broken off between us or if one of us is looking for something new. Which would be better though in the long run? Doing a temporary break up until I'm out of basic training and my A school.. or to stick together throughout my term?

I've been thinking about this for a little while now but as each day goes by and it gets closer to my leave date things become a little more depressing to think about..

 

[Ripple]

if you can communicate at ALL. via skype, phone call once a week, or writing, you had better try and not give up on her.

 

[arch knight]

alright im going to crack reality to you.
She is most likely going to leave you, through out basic your DIs are going to reiterate the same thing mine did over and over. You sold yourself to the military and America is your only love now forget everything that ties you to home and drop all the emotions you hold dear with people.

If she holds out for that long power to ya get her on base and get housing, hell if you know she will wait for you get married. But thats an average chance.

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

Arch Knight are you trying to be your "dark and merciless" side again?

 

[arch knight]

nope being serious.

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

Man you've been a real downer dave negative nancy lethargic larry emotional emily these days.

 

[arch knight]

<-- this is my srs avatar mmk?
now go be net bi elsewhere. >.>

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

You're horrendously immature for a "20" year old, arch.

Also rhan good luck with that.
But if you break up, come to me, I can feast on your tears for free.

 

[arch knight]

you only say that cause im a furry whom you actually like.

but yes good luck with the Navy i have a friend who is shipping out in March maybe youll meet him :D

 

[KMFBrawler]

I suggest keep in touch with her. Not a small break up. Because if you do break up, That way the both will find it easier to give in to temptation.

 

[rhan]

if you can communicate at ALL. via skype, phone call once a week, or writing, you had better try and not give up on her.

I'm going to try to write her while I'm in basic but I won't be able to have any other kind of contact until I'm out and on the way to A school. I don't think I could give up on her.

alright im going to crack reality to you.
She is most likely going to leave you, through out basic your DIs are going to reiterate the same thing mine did over and over. You sold yourself to the military and America is your only love now forget everything that ties you to home and drop all the emotions you hold dear with people.

If she holds out for that long power to ya get her on base and get housing, hell if you know she will wait for you get married. But thats an average chance.

Sorry to hear about that. I hope she wouldn't act like that. Her granddad's actually retired Navy. I also believe her dad is retired from the Marines. So she should be use to things like this. But it's really different when someone you care about deeply is going to be going through that.

you only say that cause im a furry whom you actually like.

but yes good luck with the Navy i have a friend who is shipping out in March maybe youll meet him :D

I might. I won't see him in basic but maybe while I'm stationed I might. I'm going in as a IT. If he's in the same field then there is that chance.

I suggest keep in touch with her. Not a small break up. Because if you do break up, That way the both will find it easier to give in to temptation.

The thing is. It'll hurt less if we're not obligated to one another there wouldn't be any guilt. I honestly don't think I would be able to see her for half a year after June. Basic is 2 month (Might be 3 when I go in) and once I'm done there I'll go straight to my A school and that lasts 14 weeks. So another 3 months. Then from there I won't know if I would have some time to spend with family or go off on duty.

 

[arch knight]

But it's really different when someone you care about deeply is going to be going through that.

If youve watched Jarhead thats the basic idea of what most go through.

If not id suggest you watch it.

 

[rhan]

Seen it. That's one reason why I worry..

 

[arch knight]

then you need to sit down with her and talk to her about whats going to happen. Get deep with it, cause if youre going to seriously commit to each other then you should have no problem with it.

 

[Today]

Okay. Seriously. Talk to her about it!
If you have all of these things on your mind, sit down and talk to her about it. The best thing we can do is encourage you and give you ideas-- but we have no idea what's going on in her mind, just yours. Maybe she's worried, maybe she wants a break, etc. We can't tell you.
You're going to have to talk to her about this.
"Do you think we should break-up?"
"Can you wait for me?"
"I'm worried you'd have temptations. How do you feel about this?"
"We can still talk through Skype/AIM/MSN/Writing letters. Are you comfortable with this?"
The best way to get your answer is to talk straight to the horses mouth. Tell her how you feel about all of this!

 

[t3h Icy]

Dude, you're going to be just like Link in Wind Waker.

 

[rhan]

Dude, you're going to be just like Link in Wind Waker.

LOL

Also thanks guys for the advice. She's coming over my house for the weekend and I plan on talking to her about it then.

 

[Fuelbi]

If I may, don't break up with her. If she TRULY loved you, then she wouldn't cheat on you. If you wanna get married to her, this to me seems like the perfect chance to see if she loves you back the same way you do to her

If she cheats, then forget her and find someone else. She's seriously not worth it if so

 

[saviorslegacy]

Good to see it. We might end up going through basic together dude!

I have had multiple friends go through Navy boot and I have visited the facility myself.
The big things that I have been told is to make sure you can run, you can swim and be prepared to take tests. Also, they serve ****ing awesome food and font over eat.

Do not worry about going to war whilst in the Navy. Your *** will be on a ship or land based more than likely away from danger. Might I be so rude as to ask what you job is?
ps You can volunteer to be a rifleman while in the Navy. You cannot be forced to by Navy standards.

Stick with her, if you love her then keep her. If you are religious put your faith in God that he will keep your relationship together.

Now you can write once a week so take advantage of that to write to her. Also make sure she knows that she will only be recording one letter per week.


TBH, my best friends older brother and his gf took up Ever Quest while they were apart. I actually took up WoW to do something with my best friend since we miss being together.
Also, seeing her face and letting her see yours is better than a phone call. Skype ftw!!!!

Get her a piece of jewelry before you go. It will act as a constant reminder about you.



Good luck bro and hooyah!!!!!

 

[passmeplease]

Guess who? Geez. I'm as nosy as it gets. :/

This is actually one fo the hardest things I've ever had to read in a while.
I feel like our future relationship has been broadcasted for an open critique...I see a multitude of you all are on the optomistic side, which makes me happier than you can imagine.

While it is hard to imagine you being gone for so long, I feel the need to constantly remind myself that I'm always going to be waiting for someone I love to come home or for another chance to see certain people in my family...in all honestly, I feel like I will just be adding you to that long, forever growing list.

Every single time I've been seperated from someone I really care about, I always go through at least a week or two of "I can't do this, it hurts too much..," but I guess it goes to show that if you love someone, you'll wait no matter how long it takes. I don't talk much about the people I'm having to live with out (Dad, Mom, My bestfriend, Jordan), but truth is, I still love them just as much as when they left.

I know the seperation will be hard-I'm not even going to deny that.
I promise, I wouldn't go running off with someone else while you were away, or ever, for that matter.
You mean all too much to me, and are so much better than any guy I could have ever asked for.
Screwing you over...would be kind of like throwing away a perfectly good present.

Anywho, I know we didn't talk about it too much in detail last time I came over, but I'm prepared to anytime now...just, prepare for some hardcore crying.

I love you. Don't you ever forget that. <3
I'm proud of your decision to be in the Navy too, and I have no intention of changing it.



-Only created this account to respond to this.

 

[saviorslegacy]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It's Ankoku.... I know it.

 

[MK26]

Guess who? Geez. I'm as nosy as it gets. :/

This is actually one fo the hardest things I've ever had to read in a while.
I feel like our future relationship has been broadcasted for an open critique...I see a multitude of you all are on the optomistic side, which makes me happier than you can imagine.

While it is hard to imagine you being gone for so long, I feel the need to constantly remind myself that I'm always going to be waiting for someone I love to come home or for another chance to see certain people in my family...in all honestly, I feel like I will just be adding you to that long, forever growing list.

Every single time I've been seperated from someone I really care about, I always go through at least a week or two of "I can't do this, it hurts too much..," but I guess it goes to show that if you love someone, you'll wait no matter how long it takes. I don't talk much about the people I'm having to live with out (Dad, Mom, My bestfriend, Jordan), but truth is, I still love them just as much as when they left.

I know the seperation will be hard-I'm not even going to deny that.
I promise, I wouldn't go running off with someone else while you were away, or ever, for that matter.
You mean all too much to me, and are so much better than any guy I could have ever asked for.
Screwing you over...would be kind of like throwing away a perfectly good present.

Anywho, I know we didn't talk about it too much in detail last time I came over, but I'm prepared to anytime now...just, prepare for some hardcore crying.

I love you. Don't you ever forget that. <3
I'm proud of your decision to be in the Navy too, and I have no intention of changing it.



-Only created this account to respond to this.

dawwwwwwwwwww

*single tear*

 

[rhan]

Heartfelt post.

I don't know if you'll get back on to read this but...


daaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww <3

I love you and I'll talk to you more about this tomorrow.

The day I return to SWF.. just wow. <3

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It's Ankoku.... I know it.

Heeccccccccccckkkkkkkkkk no.

dawwwwwwwwwww

*single tear*

I know right?