Take a break. Anyways,
I'll probably receive a lot of flak for this, but I feel it's a disservice to be dishonest so I'll say what I think: I didn't have a problem with you outing the accused. These things are bound to happen in Mafia communities, and, as someone who used to help administrate and host games on one, I can understand dealing with cheaters/godkilled players. We sometimes have to deal with it to uphold the game - that is fine. I'll even be the first to admit that sometimes, when dealing with godkills/cheaters, they got dealt with in a way that was less than favorable and didn't work. I have regrets about games hosted, and I know the main person I worked with also definitely could have assessed situations (somewhat similar) to this one.
What I have a problem with is not that the situation was assessed, but
how the situation was assessed. You have a lot of people here, both from DGames and NZoners (Not to tout my horn either, but, me that's a mix of both, I guess, and one of the two managers of the Writing Team.). Why not ask them and have an open discussion about how to assess the situation, so that way, you mitigate to the best possible outcome? Situations like these are always going to ruffle feathers, but that's no reason to poison the fish tank. I wouldn't have had as much of a problem if, assuming the accused are guilty in all games, if they were warned for each game instance in specific, but this was their first time being warned, too. They don't
know how severely hurt other people were by this until someone pointed it out. Often in Power, the best thing to do is consult other people if it's a complicated issue, especially if it's an issue that's already compromising ethics: You don't throw Poison to fix the Fish Tank; you replace the water.
I'm thinking about this from multiple lenses; we're all people, and while I am at no liberty to speak from the perspective of you or the accused, I'll speak personally. I came back to this community because Nabe politely tagged me (<3 Nabe) so I decided "Sure, I'll try hosting again." and Vaanrose (<3) asked me politely if I'd like to join his game. I said yes. Seeing this before the first game I even played back on here finished made me go
"Are we really doing the drama thing again?" and quite honestly I've dealt with enough Godkills and games compromised. I'd rather not relive drama with a fresh coat of paint.
What's done is done. I bring this up for future situations.
If anything like this
does ever arise again (or if any of ya'll want to chat about Mafia I guess; I love talking hosting), know that my PM Box and Discord are open for anyone who's willing to chat with an open mind. I'm always going to look for the solution that makes as many people as possible happy simply because
1) It's in my nature. Ya'll will have to just live with it.
2) It's literally a part of my career. (My Master's that I'm working on is entirely in Management. I'd like to think I know a thing or two.
Reflective Listening is one of those, for a start)
Hope you have a good break; unease some of that stress. Meditation helps.