Overswarm
is laughing at you
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I'd probably work on changing that.either one and done or simply non-girlfriend. women are stupid and i dont respect em.
also update on the rental: THEY DIDNT NOTICE ****! SUCK MY **** ENTERPRISE!
Casual encounters require two consenting parties. Your best results (without being immoral or doing illegal activity) are going to come from people who think similarly to you. Of that pool of people who think similarly to you, only a small percentage will likely be interested in you in that fashion. You cannot reliably alter this percentage to any large degree in the short term, so your only chance of increasing odds is to increase the size of the pool. If one in five hundred women are interested in non-commitment, you need to find five hundred women. That kind of thing. You then need to find a way to figure out which 1/500 it is without personally interviewing all 500 -- this would be especially difficult because that "1" still needs to be treated like a human being and cannot be treated poorly if you want a favorable outcome. Asking "sex?" to five hundred women is unlikely to be successful.
Given that most people end up with someone within one sigma of their level of attractiveness, you can narrow your search down by shooting below your level of attractiveness. If you are a "5", you aim for a "3" or below. This increases the likelihood of your offer being accepted.
Think of it from your perspective. If a scabbed, diseased, toothless hag emerged from a pile of mud and bile and said "sex?" you would say no 100% of the time. If some worldwide pageant award-winner supermodel actress person came up and said "sex?" you would say yes 100% of the time. The percentages equalize the closer to your base level of attractiveness, where preference comes into play. You want to be the supermodel -- you aren't, but you want to be.
But if you are a 5, the hag is a 1, and the supermodel is a 10, then a 10 looking for a 5 has a 100% success rate. This means if you had a bomb collar around your neck, you could find that diseased hag and ask her "sex?" and she would say yes near 100% of the time.
Most people try to shoot for the most attractive mate they can find. This results in a sort of "arms race" where people flout their financial status, physical looks, social circles, personality, etc. Most people who fail to find a significant other do so because they are either not being the kind of person that someone else would want or they are shooting too high. This is most often found in high school, early college. In a normal high school there might be like 2 to 10 actual attractive girls that are higher on the scale, but eeeeeeverybody want to date those from that pool. Because of this, they have bargaining ability and can float from potential mate to potential mate without any downsides. You want that exact ability!
So if it is possible, you can improve your own financial status, physical attractiveness, social circle, or personality and then can become a desirable catch yourself. This is highly unlikely to work in the short term. You are likely not wealthy enough to wow someone in any meaningful way; if you were, you could just ask women "hey, do you want to go on cruises with me for a year" and it wouldn't take long to get a yes. Physical attractiveness isn't difficult to modify, but everyone has a personal hard cap and it takes a lot of hard work and effort to reach that cap, not to mention time. Social circles have to be built slowly, gradually over time to maintain a good foundation. Personality often has innate qualities and requires unique experiences and long bouts of self-reflection to improve.
So since you can't improve upon yourself in any meaningful way, lower your target and you will increase your odds.
"But OS, what is my attractiveness level?"
People are typically within one sigma of attractiveness with their partners. Look at who has been interested in you in the past for a significant time period. There are many variables, so you will need to be honest with yourself. If you dated a super hot lady for two years but it turned out she had horrible mental problems that resulted in her staying with you then it is unlikely that your physical attractiveness kept her around. If you dated someone way up there on the scale and then she left quickly, again, unlikely that you are within one sigma.
It is also important to note that your strategy is a losing one. The "aim high" strategy is based around failing a high percentage of the time, but succeeding and then holding on to that success as well as you can. So if a 5 gets himself a 7, he makes up for his fiveness by being a caring significant other, being thoughtful, sacrificing time and energy to make the 7 happy, etc., which doesn't change that he is a 5 but grants special advantages. The "aim low" strategy is based around succeeding a high % of the time, but constantly having to keep shooting.
If you look at it as a binary system done over a length of time, you can immediately see the issue.
The "aim high" strategy will show up as fail, fail, fail, fail, fail, fail, success, success, success.... on to infinity. It hits the success and likely stays as success onward.
The "aim low" strategy will show up as success, success, success, fail, fail, fail, fail.... on to infinity. Even if you succeed every time you can, eventually something happens that lowers your number. You begin to age -- you gain weight, lose hair. You lose your youthful spark and are no longer a 5 -- you are a 4, maybe a 3. Your financial standing, social standing, etc. may be better, but they are irrelevant to anything that isn't long term. Eventually you can't aim low any more. Being a 5 and aiming for a 1 may net you a 100% chance of success, but this isn't the case from a 3 to a 1. Chances are you aren't shooting for a 1 anyway; you are likely shooting for a 3. Once you become a 3, you'll have the same success level as when you were a 5.
Ultimately, the winning strategy is to not say "women are dumb" and to instead of look for someone you can share a long term relationship with and, in the interim, improving yourself as much as possible so that your attractiveness level is at its peak when you find someone within one sigma of your own level of attractiveness.
Cheat code: Fun fact! Women typically end up dating men that are one head size taller. Go out on valentine's day and look at all the couples. Guy will stand with his chin at above her top of head / forehead height, over and over and over again. This is most especially true in longer couples. So, when looking for a target within 1 sigma, you can narrow it down further by looking at their height compared to yours.