ok sisterinos
mainly for the older sisters i know
but some real talk
i know this dude over the net, and ive known him for like, years now, but it's starting to bug me that his social skills are less than impressive
we talk like, every day over skype IMs (and skype calls when we're playing league/smash/mario kart) but sometimes i just get the vibe that he's really not that interested in things i have to say/ask
like, he went to a tournament yesterday and he didn't bother to tell me where he placed, or I went to a tournament the other week and he didn't bother to ask where I placed (this is important because I was one of the main people who kept nagging at him for like, ever, to go to tournaments etc)
I think of him as a friend because of how long we've known each other but i wonder to myself sometimes if he thinks that of me or if he thinks of me as just a guy on the internet, and dwelling on that scares me tbh
He uses smashboards but I doubt he'd find this post, but it's something I've wanted to talk to him about for ages but idk if it's just me being weird or overreacting or what
Has anyone else had experiences similar to this? I sort of doubt it but im like, dying inside keeping this to myself so i wanted to post it somewhere <:
Here's the real talk since you asked for it (and I'm pushing 30, so I'm probably old enough): sometimes in life there are the people who are our friends, and other times there are the people who are just our "Player 2," so to speak. A Player 2 is someone who is mainly just available for video games but basically this is where the relationship ends. I have seen folks who have mistaken their Player 2 for a real friend until duty really called and then they realized where they stood. This is often distressing, but at this point you can decide whether you can be happy with the relationship under this definition or not.
That being said, it sounds like you have been friends with this person for a long time. If you still talk a lot in general, and it is just a matter of him not asking or sharing about tournament stuff, maybe he is trying to grow the other aspects of the relationship so it is not purely defined by a Player 2 type situation. Or maybe he is embarrassed about his performance in this game, so he didn't want to bring up how he placed, or ask how you did for fear of comparison/opening that can of worms.
You mentioned that his social skills are less than stellar as well, so you are already aware that what you are noticing may just be a personality trait and not reflective of the quality of your relationship. I myself am an introvert, but eloquent and not stereotypically awkward, so sometimes people mistake my introverted nature for mere b**chiness. It is probably better to just assume best intentions here since you already know he has social deficiencies.
In the end, everyone else gave good advice. You need to talk to him. It doesn't have to be big and dramatic, but just be upfront. If you want to talk about the tournament you were at, or ask about how he placed, do so. Then you will see if he is short with your or dodges the question. Either way you can follow up and ask if he is not liking the game or what the deal is that he seems more withdrawn now. Sorry if this post got too long, but I hope it helps.