Thanks for the vote of confidence. It's been no smooth ride, I've broken down and cried plenty of times in the past few months thinking about it all.
We've had conversations lasting whole nights over the phone and in-person contemplating every scenario.
And I mean, every scenario.
From things like managing how we'd care for our family lest they lose financial support, to how we'd manage if either one of us lost our jobs, to handling either of our parents' deaths, to the importance of putting the other first always, to the scary realization that we may not be as sexually attracted to one another as we are now, I could go on and on about how terrifying this will be.
As scared as we are, we're relying on love (or, as my dad jokes "stupid infatuation") and our commitment to one another to make it work.
I don't wanna sound like I'm going to reprimand you or anything, but no! No no no no! Don't do that! And by "that," I mean don't start worrying about stuff that hasn't even happened yet. It's good to try and make plans and all, and contemplating potential problems can be healthy to a moderate extent, but just crying your eyes out over things that haven't happened yet, which you don't know if they will happen at all, won't do any good for anyone.
I know it's
very terrifying to start out your own life, I actually moved away from my parents' house when I was exactly your age, but you know? I think terrifying's kinda cool in its own right. It's always scary to try and think of the future, because we all have dreams and plans, but then you realize "holy **** all this bad stuff can happen to me." Yet, if you think about it, you also don't know all the good things that
will happen to you.
When I first moved out my plan was to get into college, work half time, and pay for basically everything myself. Before my first semester started, I was offered a job in a studio that mainly colored comic books for Marvel and DC. I contemplated the chances and decided to take the risk. I never entered college, haha, but you know? taking that job has opened so many doors for me. And I had absolutely no idea I would be in the place I am when I was 20 and moving out of my parents'.
You even have an advantage over me back then, cause I will confess I spent some hard nights lamenting that I was alone and worrying that I would always be too busy with work to ever find someone to love, but now I found someone and we're basically married now too (not legally, but it's free union I suppose).
You already have someone to support you and love you like no one else will, during the good and during the bad times, and as you said it, you will make it work because you two love each other. So stop worrying about the bad things that will happen, and open up and prepare yourself for all the amazing things that will happen too~ You can take on anything that life throws at you, be confident, and stay strong
Omg sorry for the bible text.