The Unhappy Thread

[Cyn]

I don't think so... after all the **** we said, specially me, I don't think I will ever see her again. :'(

Well, I'd still give her time before you make any moves concerning her. Just my advice. But you should do what you think feels right.

 

[LordCQ]

Well, I'd still give her time before you make any moves concerning her. Just my advice. But you should do what you think feels right.

Thank you, I appreciate the time to read my problems and give me advise.

 

[Cyn]

Thank you, I appreciate the time to read my problems and give me advise.

It is no problem. Glad I could try and help.

 

[Vexor1011]

So I was chillin in home room, like I do. Then, all of a sudden my friend says, out of no place, "I'm gonna main Ness." Naturally I began laughing, as he's an established Marth main. He then replied to this, with "Don't laugh at me you hoe."
I was legitimately upset by this.

 

[Froggy]

The worst thing is that I'm sure she is doing fine and moving on.

Thats usually crap. Women are typically as weak as we think they are, but some of them are very good at fronting, you expect so see visible signs of them breaking apart and when you see the opposite it hurts you even more. It is entirely part of her game plan, when she goes hime she feels like **** and likely cries at night. She likely feels about as awful as you do about all this.

You should take the initiative and start something up.

That is something i have given some thought to. Unfortunately I don't have any friends who are into smash in my area. And the money, time and effort it would take to start this thing up by myself is probably too much for me to handle right now.

 

[Cyn]

That is something i have given some thought to. Unfortunately I don't have any friends who are into smash in my area. And the money, time and effort it would take to start this thing up by myself is probably too much for me to handle right now.

It's a perfect way to make new friends....
I'd talk to some of the organizers of events on here, like @Xyro77 for the low down on what it takes to make it happen.

 

[Vexor1011]

Why do people value life? If we have to die anyways, given all the unhappiness and pain we experience, why do we care? I'm not sure I really care anymore, but I can't bring myself to finality.

 

[LordCQ]

Not sure if this was the right thing to do, but I just sent her flowers and an apology letter...

This sunday we were going to celebrate another month together, if by that day she won't talk to me, I will give up...

 

[Vexor1011]

Not sure if this was the right thing to do, but I just sent her flowers and an apology letter...

This sunday we were going to celebrate another month together, if by that day she won't talk to me, I will give up...

Don't specifically give up. No words should be allowed that much power. Especially if you two were engaged, you both should understand one another. If you honestly feel she's over the edge and there is no coming back, especially after the amount of twin you've had to learn about her, I feel that you should simply allow her happiness.

 

[Cyn]

Why do people value life? If we have to die anyways, given all the unhappiness and pain we experience, why do we care? I'm not sure I really care anymore, but I can't bring myself to finality.

You answered yourself. Life is valued because we must die. We only get one.

 

[LordCQ]

Don't specifically give up. No words should be allowed that much power. Especially if you two were engaged, you both should understand one another. If you honestly feel she's over the edge and there is no coming back, especially after the amount of twin you've had to learn about her, I feel that you should simply allow her happiness.

I just hope she writes tomorrow after she gets my flowers... I just can't deal with this loss, with this pain, with ALL this beautiful memories :'(

 

[Vexor1011]

Memories, time should always be valued. What you have could entirely change in a moment. I'm not saying she won't, you certainly seem like you value her and thus she should at least make an effort, however memories are there for a reason.

 

[Vexor1011]

You answered yourself. Life is valued because we must die. We only get one.

So in other words, saying I decide to off myself, this one life has made no difference and thus in the Same form, could not have been useful in any way. So my one pointless life, shouldn't really exist.
I see. My thanks.

 

[Cyn]

So in other words, saying I decide to off myself, this one life has made no difference and thus in the Same form, could not have been useful in any way. So my one pointless life, shouldn't really exist.
I see. My thanks.

No. You are twisting my words to suit how you feel. I didn't say your life was useless. By ending it, however, you render all future potential useless.

 

[Vexor1011]

Future potential that will be next to impossible to realize, and will also be cut short due to the looming of death?
I'm probably just caught up I'm my own little world.

 

[Cyn]

It's okay, we all get like that sometimes. The thing about future potential is that it's near impossible to calculate and you don't know if it's there unless you're there as well fighting to make it happen.

 

[Vexor1011]

I feel that future "potential" I'd nonexistent, honestly. A person realizes who they are once they accept themselves, however finding a "potential " would mean that they are little or less than themselves as they are.
I'll stop replying now.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

Does she know you have a crush on her? If not, she sounds like one of those people who treats everyone else the same, and doesn't realize that saying something like working together could cause awkwardness.

Of course she doesn't know. Honestly I don't know how she can't tell, but it's better that she doesn't. Maybe it's because I got comfortable with her before I started liking her, so it kinda skipped the awkward phase. But we've been getting closer and closer, and I love it, but I hate it just as much. And now the year is over, so if we do start hanging out more, that's just more torture I have to endure, but if we don't see each other any more after this then I'll still be in pain. It's hard man...Like, everyone seems to think that we're dating as it is (her boyfriend doesn't go to the school), and we joke about it a lot too. We probably spend 1-2 hours together every week day and we even text on a pretty weekly basis. I'm never the one to send the first text. I just wanna cry, but this damn smile never leaves my face.

 

[Cyn]

I feel that future "potential" I'd nonexistent, honestly. A person realizes who they are once they accept themselves, however finding a "potential " would mean that they are little or less than themselves as they are.
I'll stop replying now.

That's your opinion. All I know is that people are versatile and can be inspired when previously in a slump.

 

[SomewhatMystia]

Maybe a change in environment would help? I was in a similar (although far less severe) slump to yours before getting out of the house. It doesn't have to be straight up moving out like I did, but maybe just getting away from everything for a weekend will help improve your mood?

 

[Vexor1011]

Huh. That seems somewhat counter productive.

 

[Yashichi]

What inspired me to stay positive was realizing that everyone is selfish and they are all too busy worrying about their own life to worry about yours. Nothing is permanent, emotions are chemical reactions, lying is easy, and everything is only as hard as you make it out to be. Hope this helps.

 

[Vexor1011]

That is a testament to society. Humans are quite a pathetic species. We aren't in a survival of the fittest anymore, and we aren't back to it yet. Why do we need to be individual? Are we that weak to where we can't even realize how much power there is in a number, especially when that number is 7 billion? Or am I simply missing a bigger picture?

 

[Yashichi]

haha whoa cool it there socrates

 

[LordCQ]

So we talked yesterday night but it was more to make peace and close the cycle, she told me that she was not in love with me anymore, that this relationship was not evolving, I'm not there for her, she does not trust in me and I was not making her happy anymore... :'( I am completely devastated.

 

[Cyn]

So we talked yesterday night but it was more to make peace and close the cycle, she told me that she was not in love with me anymore, that this relationship was not evolving, I'm not there for her, she does not trust in me and I was not making her happy anymore... :'( I am completely devastated.

I'm really sorry. It is hard now and it might be for a little while. It is better that it happened now rather than later.

 

[Vexor1011]

So we talked yesterday night but it was more to make peace and close the cycle, she told me that she was not in love with me anymore, that this relationship was not evolving, I'm not there for her, she does not trust in me and I was not making her happy anymore... :'( I am completely devastated.

You aren't gonna wanna hear this...
Happiness is your own. Other people can give you a spark, but if you don't want your own happiness, you won't have it. You can be happy after anything that occurs in life, you just need to allow yourself to feel it. This is a heavy loss right now, and it may still be tomorrow (Figuratively) but this loss can be one of your greatest strengths.

 

[LordCQ]

You aren't gonna wanna hear this...
Happiness is your own. Other people can give you a spark, but if you don't want your own happiness, you won't have it. You can be happy after anything that occurs in life, you just need to allow yourself to feel it. This is a heavy loss right now, and it may still be tomorrow (Figuratively) but this loss can be one of your greatest strengths.

Thank you buddy... I feel completely lost, unprotected, perhaps scared? I just don't want to move on... The only thing I have left to hug is a little stuffed cat that smells like her :'(

 

[Vexor1011]

Another thing you may not want to hear...
Instead of clinging to your remnants of her, let them go. Don't get rid of them, of course. Has she said she simply wants no contact to you? I certainly think there are amends you can both make, however if there is the potential for that, at least try. You seem like an intelligent individual, I'm sure you'll find your own way about. I can't find the words I'm trying to use right now, my apologies.

 

[Still~Wolf]

Thank you buddy... I feel completely lost, unprotected, perhaps scared? I just don't want to move on... The only thing I have left to hug is a little stuffed cat that smells like her :'(

You'll be like that for awhile, but you'll eventually move on.
Question is, did she still wanna stay "friends" or did she just break contact?
It's important to stick with your daily life, keep livin' and what not. If you have to, contact some friends or relatives and chat.
Of course, this is what I did last week over a death, so not sure if this is gonna be good relationship advice, but eh, I'll still try.

 

[Vexor1011]

It's more like, there's a certain emptiness and dissatisfaction to everything I do. Part of me just wants to accept that that's how it's supposed to be and "move on," but part of me doesn't wanna take that and thinks there's something more out there. And I'm basically stuck in limbo because the former depresses me, while the latter terrifies me.

This is an incredibly late response.
Find something out there you desire. An interest, something to learn, a reason to exist. It doesn't have to be that way so long as you accept yourself, or strive to be a form of yourself you accept, and work to attain that embodiment.

 

[LordCQ]

You'll be like that for awhile, but you'll eventually move on.
Question is, did she still wanna stay "friends" or did she just break contact?
It's important to stick with your daily life, keep livin' and what not. If you have to, contact some friends or relatives and chat.
Of course, this is what I did last week over a death, so not sure if this is gonna be good relationship advice, but eh, I'll still try.

No, she said that we can't be friends because you have to trust in your friends and she does not trust in me...

 

[Still~Wolf]

No, she said that we can't be friends because you have to trust in your friends and she does not trust in me...

I see. Well then, definitely need to try to just keep living. Like I said, do your daily routine, try to talk to some friend and family for support. It'll be hard, so feel free to be unmotivated for a few days.

Like I said, it's gonna be rough, but getting passed it is quite important for your mental health.

 

[Vexor1011]

Don't follow a routine, specifically. Try to do something new, find something you like. I think she's going a bit strict in general. She could at least attempt to help you. Or at least try to understand your mentality, but all she's doing is tearing you down further. So, let me ask you, are you ready to rise, or will the whirlpool swirl a little longer?

 

[LordCQ]

Don't follow a routine, specifically. Try to do something new, find something you like. I think she's going a bit strict in general. She could at least attempt to help you. Or at least try to understand your mentality, but all she's doing is tearing you down further. So, let me ask you, are you ready to rise, or will the whirlpool swirl a little longer?

No one is allowed to make us feel sad without our contempt and no one is in charge of our happines but us... Like Still-Wolf said, I can be a little unmotivated for some days, but I will not be down the rest of my life. Thank you buddy.

 

[Vexor1011]

Welcome. So.... Wanna play friendlies?
Too soon? yeah.... Sorry....

 

[Cyn]

Thank you buddy... I feel completely lost, unprotected, perhaps scared? I just don't want to move on... The only thing I have left to hug is a little stuffed cat that smells like her :'(

You might not want to do this, but in my experience it was easier to get rid of anything that reminded me of an ex. Not to be insensitive, but if that cat was mine, it would be in the garbage by the curb.

Stay strong. It'll get easier in time.

 

[Vexor1011]

Can I talk about an issue I'm currently having?

 

[Cyn]

Of course!! No need to ask.

 

[Vexor1011]

I should tell you. I'm a very young person before I continue.
One of my friends is in a relationship, which is cool and all. I don't feel like dating should really happen among my age group which makes me a hypocrite but oh well. My one friend has no faith in the other partner of the relationship, which leads to the other one in emotional distress quite commonly.
As a person things have never really pushed me far As a person, and I've never really felt huge emotions on either side of the spectrum. I usually tell them everything as I see it, and attempt to help them in any ways I can, however I'm beginning to wonder, based off today's events, if that is a proper choice. Any ideas?