The most important thing is simply how you present yourself. The less passive you are, the more influence you have. That seems obvious, but people often have this overall passive attitude in respect for other player's opinions & out of hesitance. This is not a bad thing in the slightest. One needs both of those things (respect and hesitance), because you're more often wrong than you are right. However, a balance of inquiry and assertion would hypothetically make the best player (I can't think of anyone whos done this adequately).
Do you know how many mislynches I've actively lead through out the years? Despite this, people are still willing to follow the courses I've laid out all because of how assertive I am in pushing it. While this is beneficial when one is actually right, it's completely devastating when wrong--which, as I stated, the latter is more often the case than the former.
Ran you've achieved this assertive type of play in a number of games before. Two that I was in: Doctor Who and Wal-Mart. You were a town leader in both. Mad assertive and unrelenting. In one, your reads were spot on; the other, completely wrong. You know how each turned out.