I know this is a weird and sudden question but I need opinions on this... What do you guys do to seek happiness in your life?
I'm just trying to figure out some stuff in life, but I'm just wondering what other people do... I have like two more questions in mind, but I can't figure out a way to phrase it without it sounding strange. I'll ask it later.
This is a bit of a late reply on my end, but I wanted to take time and really think over this kind of question and take time to think about happiness and how I seek it.
I find I'm the most happy when I approach my desires when they are the strongest. An easier example would be if I was playing an RPG and suddenly I'm in the mood for a platformer. So I switch over to that game and take the excitement as far as I can with it until I suck the energy dry for a lack of better terms. However, there are other times when I know for a fact something will bring me some amount of happiness, and I want to take that opportunity, but I feel this awkward fear that something can go wrong as if it's holding me back. Like when I apply to a job and I make it to where they want to interview me, it initially feels like my fears are holding me back where I worry that if I fail, it will make me even less happy than I was before. Sure, that feeling is normal, but I continue to aim to better myself and overcome those kinds of feelings so I can achieve happiness easier.
Generally, seeking happiness is usually based on an emotional response deep within. Although I like consistency, everything is prone to change, and I sometimes have difficulty adapting. It's still something I'm working on for myself, and in turn I allow to grow and build upon my current definition of what truly makes me happy, sometimes the change can overwhelm me. I know there are good changes, but I always hope to avoid the bad ones. Without trying to go into too much detail, I have had past experiences where I was battling depression, and still am to an extent now. I would still remember my happiest memories and remember exactly how I felt during those times, but it would still be difficult for me to grasp the feel of happiness while trying to cope with feeling emotionally ill. Changes such as depression are of course bad changes that are difficult to control. So what I do no matter what is keep myself comfortable while always reaching out to others who care and will support me. I do find happiness being with others such as friends and family, but even at times where I feel desire to hang out with a friend, I feel this fearful resistance. It is something I try to control, but perhaps I should go easier on myself.
It was interesting the way you shared your own perspective on finding happiness. The way you put it where it may involve things such as sacrifice and risk are different from approaches like mine for example, but it doesn't make them bad and they're not wrong ways to seek happiness. It's just that different methods apply to different people. I don't want to make this sound judgmental responding to the description you gave. From what you've described in your way of seeking happiness, I'd say it is a unique method that has potential to bring excitement. I can't see how it would make you a "bad person" for using that method, but perhaps it can be used as a learning experience where you can gain so much from what you get out of it. I understand that you feel conflicted by your method, but I hope having all of us share our experiences can be a reminder where you can feel good about yourself if you stay true to yourself. Just know that you're not in the wrong for how you feel or how you want to feel. Do what's best for you.
I hope my input was helpful to you and everyone else here despite how late it was. Anything that comes up from you or anyone else here, I'll be listening.