I know this is a weird and sudden question but I need opinions on this... What do you guys do to seek happiness in your life?
I'm just trying to figure out some stuff in life, but I'm just wondering what other people do... I have like two more questions in mind, but I can't figure out a way to phrase it without it sounding strange. I'll ask it later.
Strange question to bring up here of all places, and certainly takes a lot of courage to ask. It's more interesting then anything else going on here though so I'll bite.
The Pursuit of Happiness is indeed the never-ending human struggle and truly, there is no
right answer. The answer you seek also tends to change a lot, and not many people actually find just one thing to pursue in life that keeps them happy, though they do exist - usually those who fall deeply in love with another person and do everything in servitude of them, or those who have an ambition and never lose focus on it.
In my case, what makes me happy tends to change. I am admittedly a bit of a loner these days, for example. But this doesn't inherently bother me. Most of the time, I don't feel like I need companionship to be happy. However, there will be times where it does weigh on me, and I suddenly get more of an urge to hang out with someone. And so, what makes me happy has changed.
I think at the end of the day, however, the one constant in my life, is I just do whatever my heart tells me, cheesy as it may sound. Do what I know needs to be done, regardless of the circumstances, and what I know makes me feel satisfied. With this mindset, concepts like morality (a big barrier to a lot of people's happiness), and logic (another big barrier), are sort of a "domino effect", rather than something I consciously consider. There are people who think I'm a very logically thinking person, in part because I've probably told them as much. There are people who also think I'm a really nice person, many have claimed I'm one of the nicest people they've ever met. But they must understand, I am not inherently either of those things. When I think logically, which is admittedly a lot of the time, or perform acts of kindness or compassion, it is for no reason other than it makes me feel satisfied with myself, gives me happiness, and makes me feel like my existence has a purpose, the purpose being that attainment of that happy feeling.
Does this make me a sociopath? Maybe, and people are free to think that. But at the end of the day, humans are no more than animals on this planet. And like all other animals, we're at our best when we are true to ourselves, to our inner nature. I've merely accepted that, and used it to define how I live.
Don't misunderstand me though, when I say "I care about you", or "I feel bad for you" or something like that, I am not lying. I just don't do things like that because society told me it was the right thing to do. I do it because forming bonds with people is one of the things that makes me truly happy. Likewise, I wouldn't turn into a mass murderer or something, because although the concept of morality is just a barrier to me, hurting someone or ending their life, and therefore
their happiness, would bring me no joy, it would only bring me negative feelings. I don't care much for things like morality and logic on their own honestly, but I guess it just so happens to be that the things and actions that make me happy, line up well with this over-complicated society humanity has built for itself. But ultimately, I care not for what humanity thinks of me. If it makes me feel satisfied with being alive, then I'll do it.
