Teenage Drama... is it an understatement?

[L__]

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I apologize in advance for the lack of flow in my points.

Roughly a month ago my grandma passed out on the ground and couldn't speak. I called 911 and my mom had come over as well.

When my mom arrived, my Mom and Grandma began speaking in Vietnamese, using words I couldn't understand. When the ambulance finally arrived, my Grandma and Mom ... told them to go away. After that, they began to argue for 2 hours straight about how stupid the other was. [My Grandpa involved with the argument]

It's almost been a month, and another argument has occurred-- err, rather an argument is still going on. It has been going on for 2 hours, and half of it was calling me a failure. The interesting thing is, my grandma called me a failure. My grandma is someone whom I've spent time with my entire life, and recently I've been taking care of her.

I'm 17 years old, and I have to worry about my entire family.

First off, friends have told me I should worry about myself in order to be healthy enough to take care of others. Sadly, I have to worry about school, college apps, personal statements, grandma's health, grandpa's health, mom's health, dad's health, family in SoCal, and ... in general, me.

I was always a very lazy person, so I wasn't exactly on the ball for college, so in October, I'm taking the SATs. I also am behind in research for colleges. A few of my friends have stated I should go to a community college and then transfer, which I'm beginning to strongly consider and not show up for the SATs.

As I speak, my mom is arguing insanely loud about everything that has ever gone wrong, and is threatening to boot them from their current living area. I shudder to think who would take care of them, considering no one can...really.

I request that no one be an ******* here please, my life is practically falling apart, because if anything happens to my grandma, my extended family will go crazy and blame me for not taking care of everyone.

Thank you for reading.

 

[Grunt]

that's pretty harsh, but i don't really understand why it's your problem or why everyone is mad in the first place.

 

[Arbutus]

that's pretty harsh, but i don't really understand why it's your problem or why everyone is mad in the first place.

Because, whoever makes the money makes the rules. If they say it's his problem, it's his problem.

 

[L__]

I would assume it's because my Mom is taking care of my Grandma, whom everyone in our family has a strong connection with.

Because of that, they are generally overly-critical about the things I do so I don't accidentally kill her or something.

ehh

I don't really know

...

I can't believe I forgot to mention that I am the target of my Mom's rage 90% of the time...

since my Grandma's been sick lately, my Mom's been venting a lot more to me

my extended family doesn't really know what's going on other than what she says, so when I go down to visit, I get scolded by them the entire "vacation"

edit: I'll probably re-word my blog thing when I'm not so tired

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

yeah man, I'm also 17.

I'm going through pretty much the same exact stuff you are (save for the grandparents), but you just gotta cope. there's realy not much else that can be done.

oh yeah, and college apps are pretty brutal right now, but I got this. I also have and bunch of scholarships/financial aid **** to go for to, along with all the other school-related crap like grades/sats/clubs etc, but I got this.

we got this.

 

[L__]

I forgot to mention I might be forced to leave the friends I care about most because my mom wants me to move to like ... San Jose?

._.

I hope we got this...

 

[SuSa]

Because, whoever makes the money makes the rules. If they say it's his problem, it's his problem.

Remember the golden rule. Those with the gold make the rules.



@L
Yeah, seems to be similiar to my mom/her parents/my aunt.

Except it's not as harsh, but still a rather stupid fight.

I'd share, but this topic is about you. Not stupid parent+Grandparent arguments.

 

[L__]

If you have any tips on what I should do in this situation I'd be more than glad to hear them out.

 

[SuSa]

What I did got me kicked out, so I don't have any tips.

 

[L__]

Things are moving in that direction...

May I ask what you did? Or would you rather talk about this over IM?

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

Seems extremely difficult.

There is so much, and from what you stated, I feel very sorry for you. That's not usually me.

For one, you should worry about your mother and father's health only in the back of your mind. Problems are possible, but not completely likely. Your mother and father can take care of themselves, you don't have to spend much time worrying about them.
I'm not saying forget them, just don't worry as much as you are.

Secondly, taking care of your grandmother and grandfather while trying to apply for a college is quite harsh; I see that going to a community college and then transferring to another would be a good idea.

Try to talk things over with your parents; tell them what is on your mind and how much you worry. They're parents, they should have sympathy.

I'm not exactly sure what to say for the fact that if something happens to your grandmother then your whole extended family would blame you... That's probably where I'd fall apart.

As for academic purposes: try to organize your time. Designate time to care for your grandparents, designate time for homework and, if you can, designate some time for yourself; a little time with yourself can be good to think things over.

That's roughly all I can say.

 

[stabbedbyanipple]

Don't worry, you got this L!

Maybe you can study hard and get housing on campus for college?

 

[L__]

Seems extremely difficult.

There is so much, and from what you stated, I feel very sorry for you. That's not usually me.

For one, you should worry about your mother and father's health only in the back of your mind. Problems are possible, but not completely likely. Your mother and father can take care of themselves, you don't have to spend much time worrying about them.
I'm not saying forget them, just don't worry as much as you are.

Secondly, taking care of your grandmother and grandfather while trying to apply for a college is quite harsh; I see that going to a community college and then transferring to another would be a good idea.

Try to talk things over with your parents; tell them what is on your mind and how much you worry. They're parents, they should have sympathy.

I'm not exactly sure what to say for the fact that if something happens to your grandmother then your whole extended family would blame you... That's probably where I'd fall apart.

As for academic purposes: try to organize your time. Designate time to care for your grandparents, designate time for homework and, if you can, designate some time for yourself; a little time with yourself can be good to think things over.

That's roughly all I can say.

._.

Concerning the talking to my parents thing

I've tried

My mom cussed me out

My dad lit up a cigarette and told me

"I don't know son... just get into a good college and don't mess up like I did"

He's practically one of the few family members I'd feel bad for if they died...

I'm not gonna lie, when he tells me what I have the potential to do...what I haven't been doing, I cry. ._________.

Don't worry, you got this L!

Maybe you can study hard and get housing on campus for college?

I'm a Senior now, I doubt I'm going to get anywhere nice

I screwed up Sophomore and Junior year because two of my good friends passed away and I couldn't focus because how much I believed life sucked

Now I just want to go back in time and tell myself how much I hate myself because I might have ****ed up my future

Thanks for showing your concern peoples... It made me feel good that there are people that wouldn't mind being nice for a change.

 

[†Slader7†]

wow L, to be honest, I'm kind of getting depressed reading your blog but that is life.
It is in the darkest of hours when you either truly shine, or fall.
I hope you shine.

All I can do is give you the best of luck.

 

[Atlus8]

A few of my friends have stated I should go to a community college and then transfer, which I'm beginning to strongly consider and not show up for the SATs.

This!

Or take at least one year off after high school for YOURself! High school makes going to college right after graduating look so f***en important!

 

[L__]

wow L, to be honest, I'm kind of getting depressed reading your blog but that is life.
It is in the darkest of hours when you either truly shine, or fall.
I hope you shine.

All I can do is give you the best of luck.

Mehh

I hope I shine too

My life apparently makes quite a few people depressed

>_______>

 

[Oracle]

Vietnamese parents are crazy. Typically, Asian parents operate under Asian cultural/social standards and expect you to do the same. If you don't, you are viewed as a failure, which is what Asian society would view you as if you lived in Asia. Often the fact that the child is raised in a completely different culture is completely ignored in favor of ignorantly following arbitrary old beliefs.

hence why they talk about you being a failure.

My advice would be to work hard to get into a good college so you can quickly get out of there. You probably should have taken the SAT's earlier but you can take them up until like March so it's all good. You need to get at those college apps and stuff.