My Family Is Sooooo ****ing Gaaaayyyy

[Indigo Jeans]

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Ugh, I'm starting to look forward to shipping myself off to college. First of all, for the past four days, each day my mom gets home from work, and we're all about to have dinner, my sister starts snitching about every single thing I did during the day. For example, I'm supposed to make my bed at 8 AM. I slept in one day and woke up hungry. So I grab some breakfast and start watching TV. My sister actually took a photo of my unmade bed and marked the hour. She's that ****ing bad. So she shows my parents, and the start bashing on me. This repeats, albeit with a different thing to snitch about, for three more day. Three more f*cking days I lock myself in my room so I don't have to take the crap, and go down to eat dinner all by myself at 11:30.

Another thing that's really starting to piss me off is the ****ing ****ty justice we have in our household. Another example: I hadn't washed the dishes for about two days, so my mom and sister had taken my shifts. I'm laying there enjoying the sun with my pet dog, when my sister comes up to me and starts ranting. "You didn't wash the dishes yesterday or the day before, so you're gonna wash them today, and tommorow, and the day after that, and the day after....." Ok, I *****ing* get it, shut up already." Aaand she keeeps on raaanting. "So then my aunt, who had come to visit us, tells my sister "That's enough, I think he gets it." But she keeps ranting. "SHUT UP ALREADY" I scream at her, becaue this was going on for about fifteen minutes. But she doesn't. So I push her. Then she tries to push me, but I hold her back. Then she tries to kick me. But she doesn't reach. She keeps trying to kick me, so I push he then literally kick her ***. So she starts crying. "WHAT DID YOU DO" My aunt is fuming, because I'm 14, and my sister is nine. I start to protest, and then my aunt slaps my hands. I'm like WTF I'M NOT FOUR. AND BESIDES IT'S HER FAULT. But no, I end up getting grounded. AGAIN.

Another time, I was just sketching stuff. My sister comes up and starts bugging me, so I doodle a little "spud"" person and name it Aicirtap, which is my sister's name backwards. I know, I'm a creative genius. I snicker, and then my sister goes and whines to my mom. "But she just came up to me and started bugging me for absolutely NO reason!" I say. So then my sister comes up to me and yanks my hair. It's sorta long, so it hurt. I pull hers a little, and then my mom sees me. My MOM pulls my hair, then my SISTER pulls the other side. WTF. Then I get grounded.

And just now, about half an hour ago, my parents grounded me for absolutely NO F*CKING REASON. Seriously. It's been a freaking cycle. I get my AV cable taken away for a day. The next day, they give it back at about 8 PM. The next day, they take it away. Give it back, take it away, blah blah blah.

My parents, er, my FAMILY is so ****ing gay.

tl:dr My parents are ****ing unfair and

x9001

/rantofanger

 

[SuSa]

Edit out the censor dodge.

 

[Teran]

Ok SuSa mod guy, I'm sorry.

 

[SuSa]

I still see censor dodging. D=

The last ****ing is ok.

/sorry Teran. I just happened to drop in here first. Figured you'd close it because of the censor dodging. =p

 

[Indigo Jeans]

I'm sorry, I just needed to blow off steam. I felt that asterisks alone could not experss my anger.

 

[SuSa]

This is going to sound like a ****.

But you deserved it. :| Your sister is ****ing nine years old... if she kicks you, it shouldn't hurt. If it does. Tell mother, don't go kicking your sister back.

If your sister pulls your hair. Don't pull hers. You'd better not yell to Mom, but just slap your sisters hand. That at least looks like you were slapping your head, Mom should understand. If she doesn't, your Mom may be a little on the slower side. Just don't break her hand. (My mom was understanding about this, considering I have shoulder-length hair)

If you have your own room, ask for - or buy a lock if you do not have one. When you do not want to be annoyed, lock the door. Tell parents that if they knock, you will answer it. Do so. (Don't pull the "in a minute" thing). Do not answer it for sister. "Bugging" problem is solved. Don't have money for a lock? There are ways to lock a door without a lock. (read: block a door). Google them.

Trust me, I had to grow up with similiar problems. Except I had 3 sisters, and they were ALL younger then 7.

 

[Teran]

No need for locking, just edit that **** out.
Lol pun intended.

 

[Pakman]

Your family is more average then ****ing Gaaaayyyy

Mod response combo

 

[Dark 3nergy]

this is why im glad im an only child..im being serious

 

[Lythium]

Aww, I wanted to be the mod combo breaker.

I have to agree with SuSa on this one. Yes, your family is annoying, and yes, there are better ways of dealing with it.

 

[Indigo Jeans]

This is going to sound like a ****.

But you deserved it. :| Your sister is ****ing nine years old... if she kicks you, it shouldn't hurt. If it does. Tell mother, don't go kicking your sister back.

If your sister pulls your hair. Don't pull hers. You'd better not yell to Mom, but just slap your sisters hand. That at least looks like you were slapping your head, Mom should understand. If she doesn't, your Mom may be a little on the slower side. Just don't break her hand. (My mom was understanding about this, considering I have shoulder-length hair)

If you have your own room, ask for - or buy a lock if you do not have one. When you do not want to be annoyed, lock the door. Tell parents that if they knock, you will answer it. Do so. (Don't pull the "in a minute" thing). Do not answer it for sister. "Bugging" problem is solved. Don't have money for a lock? There are ways to lock a door without a lock. (read: block a door). Google them.

Trust me, I had to grow up with similiar problems. Except I had 3 sisters, and they were ALL younger then 7.

Well, I can't do much else. I mean, it seems to me that my parents think it's just dandy that my sister does this to me. They used to tell her not to, but it seems they've just given up on this matter when it comes to me. Here's a breakdown of the possible outcomes.

1) Sister pulls hair. Ignore. Pulling continues. I lose.

2) Sister pulls hair. I tell her to stop. She acts like a snob and keeps doing it anyways. I lose.

3) Sister pulls hair. I tell one of my parents. Parents say they don't want to hear it. I lose.

4) Sister pulls hair. I slap her hand. She tells parents. Parents bash me. I protest. THAT'S when they say they don't want to hear it. I lose.

5) Pulls hair. I walk away. Follows me and continues to bug. I lose.


And about the door locking thing, for some reason or another, I'm not allowed to lock my door. Well, my parents say that my sister isn't either. But she does it and gets away with it. Sometimes I'll lock my door. My sister will knock and say "Why did you loooock it?" "So you won't bug me." "Well mom says you're not suppoooosed to loock iiiit." Then, my sister proceeds to tell my parents, and they make me unlock my door. I lose. Again.

 

[Dark 3nergy]

you can always resort to scare tactics

 

[SuSa]

Your parents are unreasonable and there is absolutely no reason you shouldn't be locking your door unless they suspect you to be doing drugs or sneaking girls in there.

Seriously, choose a time they aren't busy and talk to them about this. "If they don't want to hear it." Since this seems to be an endless cycle anyways, say "I don't want to deal with it, and because I keep getting into trouble everytime I try. YOU get to deal with it, like you should be doing. Because YOU are the parents."

Result:
They ****ing shut up and listen.
or
You get grounded (Bet'chya didn't see that one coming)

EDIT:
tl;dr
If parents can't manage second child. Parents should not have had said second child.

 

[Darkshadow7827]

I used to have the same problem with my older brother. He would hide around cornerns and pop out and scare me. I solved that problem by almost pushing him down a flight of stairs. I don't suggest that with your sister, but I think she needs to be disciplined. Also, you get slapped on the hands with what? Another hand? In my family, my parents used... chopsticks. I'm asian - Viet. Laugh if you want, but those chopsticks STING like hell.

 

[Teran]

tl;dr
If parents can't manage second child. Parents should not have had said second child.

I don't think 7 year abortions are legal. =/

 

[Dark 3nergy]

"I don't want to deal with it, and because I keep getting into trouble everytime I try. YOU get to deal with it, like you should be doing. Because YOU are the parents."

in the likely event that they still arent responsive whats plan B

 

[Indigo Jeans]

I know, I've tried talking to them Susa, but it just ends up in a huge arguement with my parents saying that I always start everything and that I'M the root of the problem. It just doesn't work.

I mean, we'll usually have our good days and bad ones, but for some reason, these past four days have been just absolutely LOADED with crap.

 

[Teran]

You should be a better son for a few days, that'll calm them down.

You know, actually do chores round the house, do all your homework, don't play loads of videogames, help around the house without being asked.

By doing things like that, you win what are called "mommy's little angel" points, and with those under your belt, discussions are far less likely to devolve into argument.

Also, calling her a stupid ***** when she tells you to get off the computer does not win you angel points.

 

[Dark 3nergy]

the guy is absolutely right, parents love it when the kid helps out around the house. It really impresses them, and goes along way in their eyes.

Look at it from my end, my parents are paying off taxes and bills on this house while i still live in it. So in return for them paying bills thats i contribute in costs to-- i do house work as a type of payment for them paying them off. Sweeping, making dinner, dusting, getting food, picking up their prescriptions, taking out the trash, washing the floors, doing the dishes, watching out for ants popping up, getting their mail, doing small errands and maybe taking them out a few times or paying for lunch. I also rub moms back and feet when shes asks. I also finished building a website for my dads company.

Its these kinds of things that keep me on my parents good side while i continue looking/doing work. It goes along way for them. Plus while they go golf and enjoy looking forward to retirement they can come home to a nice clean house. It really puts them in a good mood, i cant stress how well doing this stuff has worked out for me.

 

[Indigo Jeans]

*gasp!* I would nevar call my mommy that!
....No seriously, I'm not the disrespectful kind of son.

But, that's actually a good idea Teran! Let's just hope my sister hasn't hoarded them all up, since she's seriously the biggest suck-up I've ever met.

Anyways, I guess I should stop bashing on my sister. That's another thing. With my close family, I'm the one that loves giving hugs and crap. Real mean do that too, so STFU. Back to the point: My sister absolutely HATES me even staring at her. Sometimes I'll be bored, so I'll stare at her, then she'll start whining about it. So, as you can probably tell, she doesn't particularly(sp?) like getting hugs from me. Or at least, when she's not crying. Whenever my parents get mad at her or scold her, she'll start crying, THEN she'll waddle over to me for a hug and a stroke on the head. She's like an opportunistic user. And what I really hate, is that I can't ever NOT feel pity for my sister. When my parents get angry at her, I feel pity. When she scrapes her knee, I feel pity. I need to burn out my soul. That'll teach her.

 

[18.15.2.15x12.9.14.11]

Link to original post: [drupal=2318]My Family Is Sooooo ****ing Gaaaayyyy[/drupal]I'm laying there enjoying the sun with my pet dog, when my sister comes up to me and starts ranting.

Buy an mp3 player.

Well, I can't do much else. I mean, it seems to me that my parents think it's just dandy that my sister does this to me. They used to tell her not to, but it seems they've just given up on this matter when it comes to me. Here's a breakdown of the possible outcomes.

1) Sister pulls hair. Ignore. Pulling continues. I lose.

2) Sister pulls hair. I tell her to stop. She acts like a snob and keeps doing it anyways. I lose.

3) Sister pulls hair. I tell one of my parents. Parents say they don't want to hear it. I lose.

4) Sister pulls hair. I slap her hand. She tells parents. Parents bash me. I protest. THAT'S when they say they don't want to hear it. I lose.

5) Pulls hair. I walk away. Follows me and continues to bug. I lose.

Use a helmet. Maybe get a squirt gun.

 

[Mr.-0]

Dude so you have an annoying sister, so what? She's your little sister. You wanna know what i'd do? Put aside three days and treat her like a goddess. Once she starts liking you, she'll have know reason to get mad at you. Same with your parents. This is exactly why that when I want kids, I want two guys though.

 

[MidnightAsaph]

I don't mean to be an ***, or ****ing gay, but... lol Alright, I'll be serious.

Your family is what it is, a family, and I don't know about everyone else, but mine are pretty ****ing bad. Or, well, just my sibling, who's three years younger than I am (I'm eighteen). She's severely immature, and talking to her is nigh impossible. The primal instinct is to use verbal abuse, and then the shoving, and the pushing, and the etc... hey, if they can't take a hint, they deserve it.

But growing older, we tend to use more mature approaches. My favorite approach is to glare at the ******* harassing me, shake my head in disapproval, and then walk away. Usually works. Although the shaking of the head is usually just an extra; you can gradually turn and then walk away... And let us all laugh. I might just write a book about how to deal with *******es.

Point being, don't stoop to a *******'s level. Go to a superior. If you're superior is also a ******* and there are no other available "adults", tough luck. Personally, I don't take **** from anyone, and that can get a person in trouble. Try to take the subtle, kind approach at all times. Also, don't give anyone a reason to harp on you.

 

[Dr.Brawl]

Buy an mp3 player.



Use a helmet. Maybe get a squirt gun.

I do not know this kind of sounds like a good idea, however why not just ignore your sister, my little brothers tend to do the same stuff as your little sister does. Your sister, would probably just get bored and leave, however i understand that you have already tried this but just try until she gets boarded and leaves. Then when dinner roles around you can say to your parents in a calm, but direct tone, " hey she seems to come into my room every so often just to annoy me. For example today she did so and so, and it would be great if you could tell here to stop." Also during this conversation DO NOT allow your sister to speak try to get your parents to really see your side of the argument. If your parent just blow you off, try to say, " I know she is only nine years old but she only seems to come into my room to annoy me." This is probably the best way to do.

However to really mess with your sister you should just do the same things that she does to you, set up a camera, take pictures and than agree to delete them as long as she agrees to stop bothering you. If she does not for the day then just show them to your parent and they will probably do the same stuff that happens to you to your sister. This is perhaps the worst way to solve problems but it is effective as if your parents were taking care of it.

 

[Teran]

I don't see the big deal about your little sister being a brat anyway.
I mean, she IS a 7 year old girl.

7 year old girls are usually brats. You can't say she's immature because 7 year olds aren't meant to be mature. They're meant to be like that. The perfect solution to this problem is patience with the arrow of time.

 

[Nysyarc]

I doodle a little "spud"" person and name it Aicirtap, which is my sister's name backwards. I know, I'm a creative genius.

... *Looks at my username*

<_<

Hey I invented that! I'm the creative genius here!

Plus your family sounds pretty typical, you'll get past it. Your sister will grow out of it and you'll grow up so your parents won't be able to push you around and ground you for silly reasons anymore. A lot of people go through that phase.

 

[Heartz♥]

Consider family a privilege. Most people don't even have that.

 

[john!]

All these people telling him to "be more mature"... have you ever had younger sisters and parents like this? I highly highly HIGHLY doubt it.

Trds, I know you want to rant, but you shouldn't expect people to understand unless they have been in that situation.

 

[J.Shadows]

you can always resort to scare tactics

Oh hellz yeah! <3 how this person thinks!

-Atlus

Edit - Pretend you're being nice for once and make her play the maze game!

-Atlus

 

[TheBuzzSaw]

Be grateful for the days you pay no rent. Doing chores is the least you can do.

 

[Heartz♥]

Yeah, adulthood ain't easy. You're gonna wish you were young a little while longer, trust me.

 

[Teran]

Yeah, I have to start contributing towards the utility bills when I get employed.

I've had a look, and it's pretty nuts. I bet 3/4 is because of me too.

 

[TheBuzzSaw]

Yeah, I have to start contributing towards the utility bills when I get employed.

I've had a look, and it's pretty nuts. I bet 3/4 is because of me too.

Yeah, I have ridiculous electric bills myself. That's what I get for having two TVs, a DVR, a speaker system, two desktop computers, three monitors (two for my computer along), two laptops, speakers for the desktops, etc etc etc

 

[Snail]

I disagree with all people saying it's your own fault, your family sounds real nasty to me. I have a little brother, I know what they're like >_> Even if they're nine, they're manipulating you and they know it, and they also know how to abuse their age. They're just that bad... She'll grow up though.

Take care

 

[TheBuzzSaw]

I disagree with all people saying it's your own fault, your family sounds real nasty to me. I have a little brother, I know what they're like >_> Even if they're nine, they're manipulating you and they know it, and they also know how to abuse their age. They're just that bad... She'll grow up though.

Take care

The family sounds nasty for petty chores and punishments?

 

[Heartz♥]

I disagree with all people saying it's your own fault, your family sounds real nasty to me. I have a little brother, I know what they're like >_> Even if they're nine, they're manipulating you and they know it, and they also know how to abuse their age. They're just that bad... She'll grow up though.

Take care

What is your definition of a nasty family?

 

[Nysyarc]

It's like me and my brother always told our friends when we were planning football games in like winter or during a thunderstorm or something. "Doesn't matter how bad it is, you can always just suck it up". We went out and played in some pretty terrible weather and field conditions. Like I mentioned in my last post, the phase your family is in now will end eventually, just power through it.

I don't say that to be mean... I'm just bluntly stating my opinion.

 

[Indigo Jeans]

Ugh, she's gonna turn ten this November. I'm sure as HELL I wasn't this immature when I was ten. And yeah, she's always been abusive of her age. For example, when she was younger, if she had to do a chore, she would say "But I'm just a little girl. I can't do it." Then, when she wanted, say, an MP3, she would say "I'm a big girl, I can handle it." I would start choking and be like WUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHTUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHFUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHH

 

[Teran]

I'm pretty sure his family makes a lot of sacrifices and work pretty hard just to sustain a good standard of living for their kids.

Kids don't really understand this, but a lot of the seemingly harsh treatment from parents is there for a reason, and it's usually because they care about you. Now maybe they do a few things a bit wrong, and they may make a few mistakes, but everyone's guilty of that.

You give them a much harder time than they give you. If you think your little sibling gives you grief, you should see how far up the wall they actually drive your parents.

 

[Circa]

I do not know this kind of sounds like a good idea, however why not just ignore your sister, my little brothers tend to do the same stuff as your little sister does. Your sister, would probably just get bored and leave, however i understand that you have already tried this but just try until she gets boarded and leaves. Then when dinner roles around you can say to your parents in a calm, but direct tone, " hey she seems to come into my room every so often just to annoy me. For example today she did so and so, and it would be great if you could tell here to stop." Also during this conversation DO NOT allow your sister to speak try to get your parents to really see your side of the argument. If your parent just blow you off, try to say, " I know she is only nine years old but she only seems to come into my room to annoy me." This is probably the best way to do. However to really mess with your sister you should just do the same things that she does to you, set up a camera, take pictures and than agree to delete them as long as she agrees to stop bothering you. If she does not for the day then just show them to your parent and they will probably do the same stuff that happens to you to your sister. This is perhaps the worst way to solve problems but it is effective as if your parents were taking care of it.

Uhhhh...I actually highly doubt either of those things would work. From the sounds of it, his mother plays favorites toward his sister, and she'll generally be the angel no matter what he says to his parents to get them to do something about it.

The true solution is one of two things, do what Teran said, or shove her down some stairs (which I know someone else said...somewhere in this thread). I know it sounds horrible, but it's showing your little sister that you aren't going to put up with her, and you're crazy and heartless enough to take the situation 'too far' if need be. And the worst your parents can really do is either A) ground you or B) start sending you to therapy. You're already being sentenced to A, so B is the only bad thing. And even that is debatable, seeing as you then have someone irl to vent to about it all.

But still try Teran's idea first. Shoving people down stairs should always be the end-all.

EDIT: ****, I feel heartless for saying that...