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.:~*Momo*~:.

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I have nothing against gays or anything, I hope this topic doesn't turn into a major flame war.

Anyway I agree with KingReMo on that last comment... *doesn't know what else to say* Uhhh... well ummm... I wonder how many more people here roll that way. O.o
 

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And, heh, it seems I'm pretty similar to what you said. My favorite movie is The Lion King and I'm listening to the Wicked soundtrack right now. And I'm not stranger to embarrassing situations or unfortunately crushing on friends of mine; very hetero friends of mine... Ah, the life of the lonely high school gay kid. Not happily mated, though. Oh well, 'sure it'll happen sooner or later.

Thanks for your understanding.

My favorite movie is actually not Disney, it is a Don Bluth film called "The Secret of NIMH" I even loved the boook growing up. ^_^ As far as Disney goes though, my favorite film is and always will be Robin Hood. And, the Wicked soundtrack is awesome! I love the story from the musical, even if it's completely 100% from teh book... My favorite musical of all time is "The Phantom of the Opera." I have most of the lyrics from much of that memorized. =p I burst into singing the song of that name to my boyfriend and creeped him out once. =p It was full of lols.

I'm sure you'll find someone you love and who will love you back someday, and I pray that society will be more accepting and that your family and the rest of the world will be happy for you and not treat you anyu differently than they would normally. ^_^ Good luck.
 

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PrinceesPeach, stop replying. You have added nothing to the topic and are pretty much going to get this topic closed, yourself banned, and a lot of people pissed off. I could have you banned for the next month just for this topic alone. Unless you have something RELEVANT to say, don't post, and if it's one line, don't post your signature.

KrystalRules said:
ok i have absolutely no problem with Gay/Lesbians! but i dont get how guys can be gay...girls i understand! for one reason. GIRLS ARE FREAKIN HOTT(well some) guys are just nasty! im not gay. i will get along with you fine if you dont hit on me.
Lol!! I know!!! You watch lesbian porn then? Haha...
 

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ME!!!!!!!!

maybe this thread should end up being a list or something? Lol

my fav characters are Link and Marth, my main is falco, my favorite character to use is falcon, and um......

[size=+1]:D[/size]?
 

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I have nothing against gays or anything, I hope this topic doesn't turn into a major flame war.

Anyway I agree with KingReMo on that last comment... *doesn't know what else to say* Uhhh... well ummm... I wonder how many more people here roll that way. O.o
we don't roll, we float. :p

Kyari is probably the best gay smasher skill wise.
to say that is to insult gay smashers across the world :<
 

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Ha, I also love Disney movies. Too bad I'm not gay or else I'd finally fit into a stereotype.

KrystalRules and Princess Peach777, did they take your brains out at birth or something?

First Krystal, that has been one of the most ignorant things I've heard lately. I mean, you could at least try to understand how gay people feel. Actually, you already know. You know that feeling when you have a crush on a girl? Well, gay people feel the same thing, only for the same sex. So if you think that gay people having crushes is nasty, than you also think that your own crushes are nasty, because they are the same thing.

I don't even want to explain any further because you're too much of a homophobe.
Heck, I'd even feel flattered if it turns out some guy liked me, the same as if some girl had a crush on me. It'd be too bad that it wouldn't work out, but hey, maybe I'll suddenly open my eyes and convert, you never know.

That leads me to a question for the gay people. How/when did you figure out that you'd like your own sex instead of the other one? Did you think you were straight at first?
You can PM me the answers if you don't want to tell in public or something.
 

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That leads me to a question for the gay people. How/when did you figure out that you'd like your own sex instead of the other one? Did you think you were straight at first?
You can PM me the answers if you don't want to tell in public or something.

Well, for me, I never really was ever sexually atracted to girls... I had a few crushes, but I never really though about the girls sexually... Now, when I started geting... um... <_<; Not sure I can say this here. When I started... getting excited downtown for the first time... it was usually guys that did it. Right from Puberty I started developing a crush on my best friend. He's married now to a girl I don't think I've met, and has kids. I'm not really going into what happened there, suffice to say he doesn't know I crushed on him or about my sexuallity. But then again, I haven't seen him in years.
 

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Hehe! I like that. =3 And I'm surprised to see people who are admitting it and are open about it here, usually if I see this kind of topic on a board there's like ONE person who's gay and the rest are either straight or asexual... either that or nobody is gay and everybody is homophobic. @_@
 

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Well, for me, I never really was ever sexually atracted to girls... I had a few crushes, but I never really though about the girls sexually... Now, when I started geting... um... <_<; Not sure I can say this here. When I started... getting excited downtown for the first time... it was usually guys that did it. Right from Puberty I started developing a crush on my best friend. He's married now to a girl I don't think I've met, and has kids. I'm not really going into what happened there, suffice to say he doesn't know I crushed on him or about my sexuallity. But then again, I haven't seen him in years.
must be hard to bottle that in , :(
 

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I'm still kind of confused on my sexuality (and yes, I will be 19 in a day or two depending on where you live.:laugh:)

I'm thinking I'll just say I'm bisexual.:ohwell:
 

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Darkfur do you think of getting kids, somehow?

uh..this isn't supposed to be offensive, just out of curiosity..
Yes. Very very much so... I would love to pass my genes on somehow... but I really wish I could do so in the same child as my love. However, I doubt that'll ever be possible... If I was going to pass my genes on however, (and however I did that) I'd like my mate to do so too. Two kids to raise as a family. I've also considered adoption. I want a loving family. I want a house in a good neighborhood. A steady job and income. Traditions I can make every year, like having a christmas tree and telling my kids Santa is coming. Bouncing my toddler on my knee and telling him or her funny stories. Teaching them to read. Reading to them. Hearing them laugh for the first time. watching them walk for the first time... Being told I'm being to overprotective for the first ti-... well... maybe not the last one, but I'm sure you get the point. =)

must be hard to bottle that in , :(
Well... Like I said, things happened back then regarding to that that I really can't talk about... But, suffice to say I've been over him for years, and know beyond a shadow of a doubt it wouldn't have worked. Plus, I've got my boyfriend now who I love very much. I don't wonder what things would have been like with my old friend because, I realize that if anything, that crush was soley based on lust. And that is why I was able to get over it so easily.
 

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PrinceesPeach, stop replying. You have added nothing to the topic and are pretty much going to get this topic closed, yourself banned, and a lot of people pissed off.
Hey, please don't close this topic. I'm kinda glad it's stirring some good conversation already. I'm just doing my best to ignore Ms. Peach777.

That leads me to a question for the gay people. How/when did you figure out that you'd like your own sex instead of the other one? Did you think you were straight at first?
I pretty much knew in sixth or seventh grade and "dealt with it" my sophomore year of high school. I had crushes here and there on girls early on, but I think it was just because it was the time of puberty and everybody else was doing it. Like Darkfur said, I also didn't think about them sexually. Never had a girlfriend or anything like that, either. In junior high, I knew I liked guys, but I didn't know how to handle it, so I pushed it away for as long as I could.

It wasn't until 10th grade, when another good friend of mine were driving home and we sort of came out to each other. We talked and worked out all of it to get the courage to tell other people. It took me about a year to be out to my friends and everybody else, and another year to tell my mom.
 

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I'm still kind of confused on my sexuality (and yes, I will be 19 in a day or two depending on where you live.:laugh:)

I'm thinking I'll just say I'm bisexual.:ohwell:
You sir are "Bi - curious"

I would know cause i "float" the same way :laugh:

Actually im more "pan-sexual" If anything but power to the people here.

I like gays, they keep things interesting :chuckle:
 

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princess peach is probably asian
most likely chinese though out of all asian countries
the way she types is exactly the chinese way of learning english: it's total blasphemy.
i know because i went to china last summer
i was born in the US though so i can type with perfect grammar
and no im not typing in perfect grammar right now
yes it is racist kinda sarcasm


Grammar Time!
A. It's just plastic surgery, omit the "a".
B. I know what it is, I just haven't a clue what that had to do with the topic or why you mentioned your sister.
Okay, you are correct. He has to omit the "a" in his sentence, "you don't know what is a plastic surgery?"
However, after doing so, he also has to capitalize the "y" in you.
Finally, he must move the words "plastic surgery" after the word "what."
 

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princess peach is probably asian
most likely chinese though out of all asian countries
the way she types is exactly the chinese way of learning english: it's total blasphemy.
i know because i went to china last summer
i was born in the US though so i can type with perfect grammar
and no im not typing in perfect grammar right now
How very stereotypical of you. =3
 

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above post

that is true he edited it - also he is a smart man

more importantly americans are too good when it comes to grammar us Japanese are not
 

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I hate how many minor details there are to the English language, I'm glad I don't have to take this up as my second language. ^^;

But anyway back to the topic... ummm... well, I'd like to tell a story but I feel it may be a bit personal... not that it's disgusting or anything, just... meh. ^^;
 

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I'll throw in my two cents here.

I was a bit reluctant to post in this thread truthfully. I'm a gay male, but I don't really consciously seek identity in the group. I simply believe sexual and romantic expression is what it is, something unique and special. I think through standing by labels of sexual orientation, it's actually sort of regressive. It creates an us vs. them type conflict, the oppression so commonly felt in places like the deep south of the united states, and on the opposite end of the spectrum, the sheer spectacle displayed in cities like san francisco.
But, i wanted to post in this thread to provide a sense of support for fellow smashers who are still seeking a comfort level with their chosen identity, and would be happy to talk with anyone who's questioning themselves. My aim name is in my profile.

In response to Riciardos, I'm a 21 year old who's realized i'm gay for a little over a year now. It's sort of strange how it happened, it was an accidental discovery i suppose. I've been involved in relationships with several women in my life, and it's never 'felt' right. It was only after I got involved in a deep relationship with a friend of mine where we both began to explore ourselves to a greater degree, and found a sense of comfort I had always been looking for.

Part of my family knows, i've discussed it with my mom who's been amazingly supportive throughout the saga. Everyone else has been left in the dark. As I mentioned earlier, I don't think it's important to make the conscious distinction between being gay or straight, I think it only perpetuates frusteration and hatred. Living in the limelight has it's drawbacks, and what happens in my bedroom is unimportant anywhere outside of it.

As for the smash element of it, i'm a pikachu main, and am also quite skilled with jigglypuff. I'm still trying to get my boyfriend into smash bros, but so far haven't been able to share my addiction.


Edit: could you all stop the spamming? It's really cheapening the topic at hand.
 

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Well... I guess I'll say something on topic then. Well... umm... I'm currently confused about that kind of thing, well... not really as I think (okay, know) I am gay. But I'm not comfy saying it nor am I really looking for a relationship, so nobody really knows... though people often ask me because of my interests and whatnot. People don't ask me that question much anymore actually, but when I was younger I got that question a lot... and yes I am a guy. ^^;

As for my story... well... I can relate to that crushing on straight friends thing... earlier this year... ugh it's so embarrassing to admit but I had a crush on one of my friends. To be honest back in 6th grade I kinda liked him... then he went to high school once I reached 8th grade so I just got over it... but then in 10th grade we were in the same art class and... well it kinda sparked up again... I talked to him casually though and he still has no clue, I intend on keeping it that way too. @_@ Now I'm in 11th grade and I don't really have a crush on anybody, nor do I want one... not because of my sexuality but because... well I don't really wanna get involved with anybody yet, relationships look like fun but I know they are harder than that and I don't want to get my heart broken yet or anything... as I've never had a mate before... and well... my sexuality makes it easier for me to stay out of relationships too I guess. ^^;;;


And on the smash subject, I'm a Peach player. =P And I have to agree on what Ebonyks said.

I'm not sure if I should press the "Post Quick Reply" button or not... I guess if you're reading this though, then you'll know what I've decided. =P
 

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Well... I guess I'll say something on topic then. Well... umm... I'm currently confused about that kind of thing, well... not really as I kinda think I am gay. But I'm not comfy saying it nor am I really looking for a relationship, so nobody really knows... though people often ask me because of my interests and whatnot. People don't ask me that question much anymore actually, but when I was younger I got that question a lot... and yes I am a guy. ^^;

As for my story... well... I can relate to that crushing on straight friends thing... earlier this year... ugh it's so embarrassing to admit but I had a crush on one of my friends. To be honest back in 6th grade I kinda liked him... then he went to high school once I reached 8th grade so I just got over it... but then in 10th grade we were in the same art class and... well it kinda sparked up again... I talked to him casually though and he still has no clue, I intend on keeping it that way too. @_@ Now I'm in 11th grade and I don't really have a crush on anybody, nor do I want one... not because of my sexuality but because... well I don't really wanna get involved with anybody yet, relationships look like fun but I know they are harder than that and I don't want to get my heart broken yet or anything... as I've never had a mate before... and well... my sexuality makes it easier for me to stay out of relationships too I guess. ^^;;;


And on the smash subject, I'm a Peach player. =P And I have to agree on what Ebonyks said.

I'm not sure if I should press the "Post Quick Reply" button or not... I guess if you're reading this though, then you'll know what I've decided. =P

I understand how difficult it can be to come to terms with oneself. and Ebonyks made some very wise statements. I don't like that it's turned into an us vs them either... but I think pride (not hubris) and not being ashamed of being oneself is very important.

I'm glad you pushed the Quick post button, it takes a lot of guts to talk about this to anyone, especially on a forum like this. =) Now, as for your friend, I understand how confusing that situation can be, but based on what happened to me, you should be glad of the way it's going if you are sure he wouldn't feel the same way back. I THINK I'd have prefered that situation for myself...

Hmm... <_<; I want to say it... but I'm afraid of the reaction I'll get, and I'm sort of ashamed.

:/ This will be in Spoiler text. I'm afraid it may be TMI, so if you don't want to read it don't.

Alright, the reason I'm so uncomfortable about that particular situation is because, I sort of used my friends curious nature to convince him to experiment... I believe it was entirely consensual... at least that's what I keep telling myself... But I'd be lieing if I said I didn't manipulate some factors, say certain things at certain times, and push for it... :/

It's... a very iffy situation in me that I sometimes regret and sometimes not... I deffinitley enjoyed it back then, but I can't help but wonder if what I did was dishonorable... I mean, I'm sure he enjoyed it too, but I don't know if he would have experimented with me had I not tried to manipulate things in my favor... And I kind of feel slightly dirty about it...

Um... yeah... I'm sure noone wanted to know that... :/ so I put it in spoiler text.

So, yeah. Some people call me lucky to have had a friend like that growing up. I wish I was sure whether or not that's true... I think you should be thankful that you don't have to have that feeling.
 

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I'll throw in my two cents here.

I was a bit reluctant to post in this thread truthfully. I'm a gay male, but I don't really consciously seek identity in the group. I simply believe sexual and romantic expression is what it is, something unique and special. I think through standing by labels of sexual orientation, it's actually sort of regressive. It creates an us vs. them type conflict, the oppression so commonly felt in places like the deep south of the united states, and on the opposite end of the spectrum, the sheer spectacle displayed in cities like san francisco.
I appreciate your reply. I understand where you're coming from, and I agree. I think more and more, people are living more 'sexually free' and not worrying about "what" we are but more over "who" we are as people. But, I think what our society now is based on the labels and groups, which is not completely horrible. It's good that we're all so connected now we all can relate some sort of group in some way. I'm glad to be who I am in the part of history, where homosexuality is generally very accepted... generally.

I'm not sure if I should press the "Post Quick Reply" button or not... I guess if you're reading this though, then you'll know what I've decided. =P
Thanks for sharing. Talking about stuff like that, even anonymously on a forum, can be difficult. It might be very confusing and crazy right now, but trust me, it all seems to smooth out for the better. If you let it, that is. I don't think it's something that will just work itself out. I think it'll be good to talk about these things, find people who can relate or anyone who can help you out. I think I would still be deep in the closet if I hadn't have met my friend I talked about earlier, and that wouldn't be a good thing. Hope everything turns out good for you.
 

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Darkfur, perhaps it would be wise to talk to that friend to see how he feels about it at this point. If it was a mutually pleasurable situation in which neither of you have regrets, i see no reason you should feel guilty about it. Discussing it with him could give you an interesting perspective. As for the credibility and bravery factor, it means nothing to me truthfully. I'm just a n00b who could easily create another account with no one the wiser if things ever got ugly. It's you, who has some credibility and history on the forums that is taking a real risk.

Momo, there's a piece of advice i was once given on the topic of sexual identity that seems very applicable. That is wait, date, and masturbate. Firstly, don't feel pressured to enter any sort of relationships you're not ready for. Just take your time, no pressure (it seems as if you have this part down). Once you find someone who interests you, there's no reason to hold back your feelings. Just be honest and open, and at the same time, relaxed and casual. Personally speaking, I put way too much pressure into my early romantic encounters, the best advice i can give you is to approach things slowly, but at the same time, don't hesistate. The third is masturbate. Keep a running log about what precisely you end up masturbating to. If you have a porn stash, maybe give some thought into what you're looking at most often. By analyzing what you're masturbating to, you have a pretty good idea as to what your sexual orientation consists of. It's implementing it effectively into relationships where things get tricky.
 

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Thanks KingReMO, I hope so too. X3

And thanks to you too Darkfur, what you said doesn't sound so bad. ^^

And thanks to you too Ebonyks, I'll keep that in mind. X3
 

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So, yeah. Some people call me lucky to have had a friend like that growing up. I wish I was sure whether or not that's true... I think you should be thankful that you don't have to have that feeling.
That's a really interesting situation. I think I would call you lucky, too, 'cuz I know I would've loved for something like that to happen to me. Heh, but yeah, I see how that can be uncomfortable looking back on it. I imagine whatever you said or did to make that happen couldn't've been too bad, especially for somebody questioning like that. But, yeah I won't act like I know what it's like in your shoes. Hopefully, it's not eating you up too bad, heh.
 

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Darkfur, perhaps it would be wise to talk to that friend to see how he feels about it at this point. If it was a mutually pleasurable situation in which neither of you have regrets, i see no reason you should feel guilty about it. Discussing it with him could give you an interesting perspective. As for the credibility and bravery factor, it means nothing to me truthfully. I'm just a n00b who could easily create another account with no one the wiser if things ever got ugly. It's you, who has some credibility and history on the forums that is taking a real risk.
Hmm... Well... To be honest I'd really like to do just that. =( It's just there are a lot of factors in that... One, I haven't seen him in YEARS... I don't even know if he's still married. Two, if he even still lives in GA there is to big a possibility that he'll tell someone... and it's a very small community and unfortunately I can't let my mother find out just yet... for reasons already spoken of. And Three, I'm afraid I'd be tempted to want to do it again, and maybe try to go further. We just did.. uh... Oral... <_<; I'm afraid of getting modded for speaking like this. *blush*

However, I do also want to say I like the advice you gave to Momo. If I'd done that I'd have had to admit to myself my sexuallity a LOT sooner.

And thanks to you too Darkfur, what you said doesn't sound so bad. ^^
Thank you for those kind words. I hate feeling that I potentially "*****" my friend... :/

That's a really interesting situation. I think I would call you lucky, too, 'cuz I know I would've loved for something like that to happen to me. Heh, but yeah, I see how that can be uncomfortable looking back on it. I imagine whatever you said or did to make that happen couldn't've been too bad, especially for somebody questioning like that. But, yeah I won't act like I know what it's like in your shoes. Hopefully, it's not eating you up too bad, heh.
Like I said in response to Momo, the dirtyness comes from me wondering if what I did would be considered ****... We were both 16-17 ish IIRC, which I actually think in Georgia is the legal age...
http://www.actwin.com/eatonohio/gay/consent.htm

cue Spoiler Text explanation:

Basically, we played games a lot, and I sort of got him to play a game of Truth or Dare with me... [Wow, I just realized... that sounds REALLY Gay. XD] Anyways. I made the rules that you had to do what you were dared, and made a list of things you could not dare the other to do. It went on for a while and he dared me to do something I didn't want to do, and I sort of made a big deal about it. then I dared him to do something disgusting, and he said I'd pay for it. then he dared me to... uh... yeah. He said he was joking afterwards, but I acted rather disturbed and told him rules were rules. I tried to make it look like I was frightened a bit and then after it was over dared him to do the same thing back... We continued to do things like that for the rest of the time I knew him... so that's how I knew he enjoyed it too... but I can't help but feel the first time I was... well... too manipulative... :/ And knowing that I can be like that is frightening. I don't trust my ability to remain honorable all the time.

Yeah... Spoler text again...
 

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Darkfur, that sounds like being flirtatious as opposed to manipulative to me. He would have resisted quite a bit more if he was actually disinterested in the situation. You shouldn't feel bad about that, it sounds like pretty normal experimentation to me. Overall, you seem really paranoid about it all, honestly.

I should mention that being tactful is important when approaching your friend. Track him down, see how he reacts to you, be friendly at first. Make your primary focus on seeing an old friend again, and catch up with each other. Internet is an ideal medium to find him through, it's far less conspicuous than a random phone-call. Play things out slowly, and see how he reacts. He did this with you, he's not going to lead a witch hunt to burn you on a cross for doing so. You just need to have some carefully applied confidence.

BTW, i'm a little jealous of you and your story. I used to have a very similar fantasy to that...
 

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Darkfur, that sounds like being flirtatious as opposed to manipulative to me. He would have resisted quite a bit more if he was actually disinterested in the situation. You shouldn't feel bad about that, it sounds like pretty normal experimentation to me. Overall, you seem really paranoid about it all, honestly.

I should mention that being tactful is important when approaching your friend. Track him down, see how he reacts to you, be friendly at first. Make your primary focus on seeing an old friend again, and catch up with each other. Internet is an ideal medium to find him through, it's far less conspicuous than a random phone-call. Play things out slowly, and see how he reacts. He did this with you, he's not going to lead a witch hunt to burn you on a cross for doing so. You just need to have some carefully applied confidence.

BTW, i'm a little jealous of you and your story. I used to have a very similar fantasy to that...
Thanks. That makes me feel a good bit better. And I do tend to be paranoid a lot of the time, so hearing you use those words makes me more inclined to the validity of that as well. Thanks.

I am not sure when I will do this, but I think you are right that I should... I'm not sure what would come of it though, especially since I'm happily in a relationship right now.... But my number 1 biggest fear is that word will somehow make it back to my mother... Which living in a small community isn't hard... People like to gossip in the grocery store.

And, yeah... bit of a backstory. It was a fantasy of mine to do that for the longest time before I made it happen. I was on a train ride back from New Jersey the year before that happened in which I fantasized about it and planned out the whole situation in my head. I had back up plans if things went awry, and also drew lines that I would not cross and wouldn't let him cross should that have happened. Looking back on it now... It's one of the few plans of action I've ever made that I actually followed through on. Wow...
*nosebleed*

I-I mean... uhhh... yeah you shouldn't feel bad about that Darkfur. ^^
*super severe blush* Oh uh... thanks. ^^;
 

Ebonyks

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I am not sure when I will do this, but I think you are right that I should... I'm not sure what would come of it though, especially since I'm happily in a relationship right now.... But my number 1 biggest fear is that word will somehow make it back to my mother... Which living in a small community isn't hard... People like to gossip in the grocery store.
So long as you're tactful about it, i assure you this situation wouldn't occur. I mean, it incriminates him just as much as you, who would perpetuate self-depreciating rumors? BTW, if you want to continue this conversation, sign on aim.
 

blink777

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Here goes...

I'm 19 and have only just come out to myself a few months gone; that's after my... erhem... has been telling me I'm gay for some six years. I went on for a good portion of my life knowing I was this way, but always told myself otherwise (I've even had girlfriends - none successful, of course). In my head, it was always just so "wrong" - I've strived my entire life to be as "normal" as possible (I'm absolutely terrible for that), and here was this part of me that the majority of my small town considered ridiculously "abnormal". I've since moved away from that small town and those small-minded people, and I finally just said to myself "I'm gay". It was honestly one of the best things I've ever done.

That being said, I'm still very much not ready to go any further with it. Getting closer, but it'll probably take another half-decade before I tell anyone in real life. Time only knows when I'll actually pursue a relationship

In fact, and I don't know what possessed me to do it here, this is my first time coming out to anyone, anywhere. And jeez, I can't believe how scary that "Post Quick Reply" button is looking right now. Maybe I'll just blather on a little longer to postpone the decision.

In terms of myself and stereotypes... Not much there. I'm certainly not the "queen" type (those guys actually irritate me to no end). That being said, I do figure skate and specialise in a line of work dominated by women (Script Supervising for film and TV... lol, just realised anyone in the Toronto film business could probably figure me out easy now :p). Not a fan of Disney or musicals (bar Pirates and Rocky Horror respectively), don't like pink (though purple's nice), don't shop at Abercombie & Fitch, and rarely use "like" out of context.

In terms of Smash, I main Zelda (rarely using Shiek anymore), but also like Link, Mewtwo, and Jigglypuff. I'm not a tournament player and think wave-dashing and dash-dancing are some of the ugliest things I've ever seen done in the game, lol ;) . I check the Dojo religiously, and did so back before Melee was released as well.

So yeah... here goes...

EDIT: Just realised I started and finished the post with "here goes".... How terrible.
 

SU_Remo

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Yeah... Spoiler text again...
Darkfur, that sounds like being flirtatious as opposed to manipulative to me. He would have resisted quite a bit more if he was actually disinterested in the situation. You shouldn't feel bad about that, it sounds like pretty normal experimentation to me. Overall, you seem really paranoid about it all, honestly.

BTW, i'm a little jealous of you and your story. I used to have a very similar fantasy to that...
I'm a bit late, but yeah, I gotta agree with Ebonyks. You seem like a pretty genuine person, not evil, manipulative, or any of that. You seem to have lots of bottled up stuff going on, though. I think talking to the guy would bring about some much needed closure using Ebonyks' advice.

And, yeah, I'm more than a little jealous of your story, haha. -__- Oh, and I'm bored and on AIM right now, too, heh.
 

Crimson King

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I'm not gay but I'm suprised Kraid Guy has not come out of the closet! He is a loser.
Look what we have here, our first slanderous message. I slapped him with a flame warning, but in the future, the next warning will be doubled, meaning anymore flaming will result in banning. I take this extremely serious as a lot of members are obviously scared here with no place in real life to talk about how they feel.

Also, anything inappropriate, since obviously it'll come up, keep it in spoilers with a warning.
 

SU_Remo

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Here goes...

I'm 19 and have only just come out to myself a few months gone; that's after my... erhem... has been telling me I'm gay for some six years. I went on for a good portion of my life knowing I was this way, but always told myself otherwise (I've even had girlfriends - none successful, of course). In my head, it was always just so "wrong" - I've strived my entire life to be as "normal" as possible (I'm absolutely terrible for that), and here was this part of me that the majority of my small town considered ridiculously "abnormal". I've since moved away from that small town and those small-minded people, and I finally just said to myself "I'm gay". It was honestly one of the best things I've ever done..
So, here goes... (hehe) Congrats for having the courage to post in here. I know how hard that might be to hit that 'Quick Reply' button, especially just coming to terms only a few months ago. It took me a couple days just to make this thread itself. Didn't know if people think it's unnecessary or I'd get just a bunch of flames.

Anyways, I don't shop at Abercrombie & Fitch either. If someone came up to me and wanted to charge me $40 for a t-shirt, I would punch them straight in the throat. Anywho, good luck with everything that's going on with ya.
 

blink777

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Anyways, I don't shop at Abercrombie & Fitch either. If someone came up to me and wanted to charge me $40 for a t-shirt, I would punch them straight in the throat. Anywho, good luck with everything that's going on with ya.
lmao! Sadly enough, I shop at West 49 and wind up spending $40 on a t-shirt anyway :p.

Anyway, thanks for making this thread. It's been great.
 
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