Rule 1: Ignore any advice anyone has ever given to you and any posts that have been made in this thread other than by me. Furthermore, continue to ignore any post that may be posted in this thread other than by me. This includes posts that may even agree with my posts. It doesn't matter. They are non-existent. I am all that you need and all that you will ever need. So long as you follow this one and only rule, you will succeed.
Amendment: Ignore private messages from Keblerelf. He will lead to your failure.
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Hello AvengingTheKnight
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To begin, I am going to recommend you two sources:
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Rules of the Game, a book published in 2009 by Neil Strauss. Since its release, this book has aided thousands of men in overcoming the very issues that you speak of, transforming them into complete bosses. Would you like to be a boss, ATK? Yes, of course you do.
Link
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Simple Pickup, a youtube channel in which 3 young men pick up women at various places using various themes. Part of their of channel, called
Simple Tips, provides a lot of useful information:
Link
Before watching the tips playlist, however, I recommend that you watch some of their
get her number videos to get a sense of their credibility:
Link
I have observed the results that both of these advice mediums have produced first hand. Everything that I explain to you from here on out will have derived from these two sources. I have a copy of The Rules of The Game book which contains "missions" for one to carry out that will guarantee one to get at least one date within 30 days. These missions gradually force one to act outside of their comfort zone. If you would like, I will provide you with a mission each day for you to complete. Are you interested, ATK? Do you accept this offer?
Take the
pill face for no.
Take the
pill face for
**** YEAH!
Take note that if you choose to accept, there is no going back Neo, I mean ATK. You will leave this world behind. Your eyes will be opened to the bawss that you face everyday in the mirror. Never again will he be ignored.
For now, however, I shall provide you with the common misconceptions that many of us have about talking to or wooing (such an unpleasant word, why did I use that?) females. Simply understanding these misconceptions can go a long way. Most of these come from the
RotG.
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The Chains that Bind
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Some of these we don't even think about. They are often natural, subconscious binds that build up the closer we are to an anticipated situation.
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Limiting Belief: People are looking at me, judging me, or making fun of me.
Reality: This is half right. People notice you, but they're not necessarily judging you. Most of them are too busy worrying about what other people are thinking of them. Once you realize that most people are just like you-and that they're actually seeking your approval-you'll start to become socially fearless.
Besides, most bystanders who see you approach a girl or a group assume that you know the people. So act like you do. Not only will it ease your worries about what everyone else is thinking, but it'll also make your approach more effective.
2.
Limiting Belief: Women aren't attracted to nice guys. They just like jerks.
Reality: This is one of the oldest myths about dating. And, fortunately it's inaccurate. The dating dichotomy isn't actually between nice guys and mean guys, or good boys and bad boys. It's between weak guys and strong guys. Women are drawn to men who demonstrate strength-not necessarily physical strength, but the ability to make them feel safe. So if you're a nice guy, you can still be nice. But you must also be strong.
However, make sure you know what nice means. Most guys who define themselves as "too nice" only behave nicely because they want everybody to like them and don't want anyone to think badly of them. So if this is you, get out of your nice high horse. Don't mistake being fearful and weak-minded for being nice.
3.
Limiting Belief: I'm not good-looking, rich, or famous enough to be with beautiful women.
Reality: Many famous people have the same problems with women. The author of RoTG has worked with many. Money/Look/Fame do not matter. All that matters is how you are presented, not your natural born attractiveness (if there is such a thing). By
how you are presented, I refer to simply being well groomed and having a confident (straightened) posture.
4.
Limiting Belief: There's this one girl...
Reality: No there isn't.
5.
Limiting Belief: All I have to do is "be myself", and eventually I'll meet the right women who likes me for me.
Reality: This works only if you know exactly who you are, what your strengths are, and how to convey them successfully. Most often, this statement is used as an excuse not to improve. What most of us present to the world isn't necessarily our true self: It's a combination of years of bad habits and fear-based behavior. Our real self lies buried underneath all the insecurities and inhibitions. So rather than just being yourself, focus on discovering and permanently bringing to the surface your best self.
6.
Limiting Belief: If I approach a woman, she'll know I'm hitting on her and think I'm lame.
Reality: This only happens with over contemplation. You just have to realize and remember that it honestly really doesn't matter what you say. Watch some of the SPu videos I posted above. You can literally say anything (Yes,
literally: you could walk up to a girl and say "anything...." and continue the conversation from there) and still get a girls number so long as you express it in a confident manner. The minute you
believe that what you said was dumb is the minute she will think it so. So long as you believe in what you're saying, she will too.
