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Hello, my fellow debaters. I know there has been a lot of drama within the postbit thread. In order to move on quickly I present to you my first debate topic for this forum. I hope you all like psychology because we are about to discuss a very important theory. This theory was created by a humanistic psychologist, Carl Rogers, and it consists of two important elements. After reading the two theories I'll ask you "which would more likely lead to the development of a healthy person? Positive regard, or unconditional positive regard?"
Unconditioned Positive Regard
The first of these two elements is known as unconditional positive regard. Unconditional positive regard refers to individuals, especially parents, teachers, or even friends, who demonstrate unconditional love. In simplest terms, these individuals like, love, and/or respect you for who you are, no matter what. An example would be the parents of a gay teen still loving their child, despite his or her homosexuality. According to Carl Rogers, if people were left unencumbered by social restrictions and were allowed to grow and develop freely, the result would be fully functioning people.
Now with that said, I'll share with you more info on this point of view.
. Respect: respecting a person in their dignity and brokenness as a person
· Non-judgmental: being neither judgmental against nor for
· Acceptance: accepting the person in all their fullness, missing nothing out, including how they treat the relationship with you.
· Valuing: embracing the person you encounter, and valuing them as a unique and valuable person
· Prizing: celebrating achievements and what is of value in the person’s eyes.
Source: http://www.btinternet.com/~p.g.h/counselling_training_unconditional_positive_regard.htm
Conditioned Positive Regard
Now for the second element of this theory, which is conditioned positive regard. This occurs when significant others, such as parents, peers, in a person's life accept some but not all of that person's actions, feelings, and attitudes. This leads to the individual's self concept to become defined as having worth only when their significant others approve. Carl Rogers believed that individuals who were raised via this style won't be able to reach their full potential, i.e. a healthy lifestyle. So let's take the example I used earlier. Let's say a teen tells their parent's of their homosexuality. Then the parents overreact and proceed to throw their child out of the house or seek "help." The reactions from the parents prove that they have conditioned love for their child. To get a clearer understanding of this theory, you can literally take the points I made above and think of them as the opposite.
So with that, I truly believe that parents who raise their kids with unconditioned positive regard can develop into "healthy" individuals of society. The thing is, we all make mistakes, and chose paths that a lot of others don't always agree with. Now imagine if there was only one person, out of the many others in your life, stuck by your side and respected your decision/path. Wouldn't you feel more reluctant to follow your goal to the fullest? Ok so what if this path you are taking is a mistake. There is hope for that troubled person, because they have someone who is still thinking of them. Therefor, there isn't any reason to not admit their mistakes, and aim to right the wrong. Perhaps a lot of the people who are chronically troublemakers feel this way because they have convinced themselves that nobody cares two ****s about them.
So now I ask you again, "which would more likely lead to the development of a healthy person? Positive regard, or unconditional positive regard?"
Unconditioned Positive Regard
The first of these two elements is known as unconditional positive regard. Unconditional positive regard refers to individuals, especially parents, teachers, or even friends, who demonstrate unconditional love. In simplest terms, these individuals like, love, and/or respect you for who you are, no matter what. An example would be the parents of a gay teen still loving their child, despite his or her homosexuality. According to Carl Rogers, if people were left unencumbered by social restrictions and were allowed to grow and develop freely, the result would be fully functioning people.
Now with that said, I'll share with you more info on this point of view.
. Respect: respecting a person in their dignity and brokenness as a person
· Non-judgmental: being neither judgmental against nor for
· Acceptance: accepting the person in all their fullness, missing nothing out, including how they treat the relationship with you.
· Valuing: embracing the person you encounter, and valuing them as a unique and valuable person
· Prizing: celebrating achievements and what is of value in the person’s eyes.
Source: http://www.btinternet.com/~p.g.h/counselling_training_unconditional_positive_regard.htm
Conditioned Positive Regard
Now for the second element of this theory, which is conditioned positive regard. This occurs when significant others, such as parents, peers, in a person's life accept some but not all of that person's actions, feelings, and attitudes. This leads to the individual's self concept to become defined as having worth only when their significant others approve. Carl Rogers believed that individuals who were raised via this style won't be able to reach their full potential, i.e. a healthy lifestyle. So let's take the example I used earlier. Let's say a teen tells their parent's of their homosexuality. Then the parents overreact and proceed to throw their child out of the house or seek "help." The reactions from the parents prove that they have conditioned love for their child. To get a clearer understanding of this theory, you can literally take the points I made above and think of them as the opposite.
So with that, I truly believe that parents who raise their kids with unconditioned positive regard can develop into "healthy" individuals of society. The thing is, we all make mistakes, and chose paths that a lot of others don't always agree with. Now imagine if there was only one person, out of the many others in your life, stuck by your side and respected your decision/path. Wouldn't you feel more reluctant to follow your goal to the fullest? Ok so what if this path you are taking is a mistake. There is hope for that troubled person, because they have someone who is still thinking of them. Therefor, there isn't any reason to not admit their mistakes, and aim to right the wrong. Perhaps a lot of the people who are chronically troublemakers feel this way because they have convinced themselves that nobody cares two ****s about them.
So now I ask you again, "which would more likely lead to the development of a healthy person? Positive regard, or unconditional positive regard?"