Dee asked for space so she could feel more comfortable with the guy she's dating right now while we are going through the Healing Seperation. I don't have any problem with it, but my idol mind without her and about her is rather bi-polor. She assures me that we will be fine why I give her the space, just the space does cause me some worry, so just so I don't get devistated later I'm preparing myself just for the unlikely case that this doesn't go how I want it to go.
Based on that, I came to two seperate and opposite feelings about us ending.
1. I did what I wanted to do in our relationship. I came into her life, fixed her mind, made her life better, and made her smile everyday I was with her (almost haha). If it were not for me, she would have had tons of problems with this guy right now and before I had helped her, she couldn't even masterbait without crying and feeling guilty. Then there were her possessive parents. After seeing me, and learning to trust me, her parents let up and now let her stay out on late hours without having ever met this man. Then there were various other mental problems that I had cured her of that would have also caused problems.
This comforts me. It makes me feel like I will always be an intricate part of her life even when I am not there. the effects of my love will ring throughout her life, even if I died tommorrow.
2. That if she does leave me it will be because of our short comings caused by things that were outside of my control, such as her protective parents, both of our mental problems that we cured each other of as the relationship went on, and my problem with having to take way to long during sex and thus never climaxing in her like she always wanted, as well as my financaly dependency on my parents. He doesn't have to work around these same problems everyday. I WORKED my *** off in our relationship so that she would never have to worry. Her father (doesn't speak english) found me on the floor of her closet in my underwear after school and I worked my *** off to make that family love me. Every single moment of our relationship I had to work and struggle and learn everystep. With this guy, Dee doesn't have to teach him how to kiss, she doesn't have to have her mother come on her dates and have to be home from your house by 9 and have my parents do the driving and doesn't have to work around vast mental problems and doesn't have any of the things that she and I had to work around.
If she leaves me, I don't want it to be by this unfair comparison, and it would hurt me deeply for me to see this happen. She loves me deeply even still, but I don't want her to simply say "He couldn't do what I needed" and move on. Given, in about 3 months they are going to have a HUGE problem once he ask her to marry her and come with him on the Navy base (which he already said he wanted to do), because Dee doesn't want to do that. She wants to be an independent woman and always has. She's not going to trow away her dreams (which is also in thanks to me) for some guy (myself included.)
Half of me knows that we will get back together, half of me is preparing for the worst but can't decided to be happy or sad about it.