What's a girl to do...

[Overlord_Ganon]

Ok, I have been rather in the blues lately because I feel that certain past mistakes put me in a situation in which I feel weak/helpless.

For one, I was given the chance to live CA if I was able to dorm at a college after staying there a year with my Aunt. However, this didn't work out as there was a mix up with one of one of my high school grades because I was home schooled for one of my high school years. Another thing was my Aunt and Uncle were in he military, so they were very strict about certain things. For instance, they disliked video games with a passion and I wasn't about to throw my games away. Its been one of my personal passions since I my one-digit ages. So, hey didn't have much respect for me, and since I came from a home in which I was greatly sheltered by my parents; I was innocent and naive about many things. My Aunt and Uncle even complained that the way I was quiet and how I walked was shady and they wanted me to even change that! I mean, is it just me or is that somewhat strange now. They wouldn't even teach me to drive because they thought I was immature but never stated why they thought so.

Apart from my Aunt and Uncle, I did have some awesome friends in CA but since I have been gone for a year I feel as if I lost something I never got to have back east. In PA, I never made real friends unlike CA, I met so many people of similar interest.

So now, I am back in PA, which to me, is not where I personally want to be. I also had to stay with my grandparents here and they too, hate video games and I couldn't even play brawl when it came out. I also didn't have the friendships like I had in CA, and I was alone to face these troubles. The best response I get when I try to talk to someone in my family is "Get over it". I mean, if someone is facing a very tough time , how is ok to be so cold like that?

I know a lot that I had to endure was my fault, but in a way, it is also pretty screwed up. I never did anything like drugs, nor did get involved with wrong crowds etc. Yet my parents sheltered me beyond belief(I didn't know what college was until I was 17!) and my dad spoiled me to later then disown me when I was 12; which is a whole other story I won't get into right now. I am over that particular thing now, and I don't mean to complain so much but all I ever wanted to really do was enjoy art/animation and video gaming with others of similar interest. I also love to draw but with how feel it has been rather difficult to do so and I am not just some artist. I attended the Californnia State School of the Arts and got a scholarship from Disney because of my student animation.

So what am I do now? I really feel like I am completely alone to face these problems without even someone to listen. It isn't just get up and leave as still can't drive nor could I walk because not much is even close by.

Also, has anyone had similar problems? Can anyone shed some light on this? I need a hug.

 

[notftomearth7]

I'm not a religious person at all, but really all you can do here is pray.

 

[SkylerOcon]

Get your college degree, read up on human anatomy, get a drivers license and then ditch your family if they're really that bad.

 

[mzink*]

Dang girl that really sucks. Try not to worry about being alone, you can be alone for now, you don't HAVE to have the support of your family to go after what makes you happy, though it would help. Friends will come just don't be looking too hard. Can you bum a ride off someone you know to get to drivers ed classes? Could you take a bus or somethin? Once you learn to drive you can probably get a cheap car to hold you over till you have enough cash to buy a nicer one. One of my friend bought a freakin ancient ambulance for like 500 bucks and hauled around in that till he had saved up enough to buy an actual car lol. Some periods of your life you go through alone but it isn't like that forever. Work your a** off through the tough times and the sun will come out (i know horribly cheesy) eventually. And then you'll get to look back satisfied that you pushed through without anyone elses help.

 

[Leahdybug]

Listen to both posts above me. Your not doing anything sitting on your arse so way your pros and cons, you have figure out what you want,you have. Basically what do you want ask your self yes ro no questions dont try to make up excuses for yourself because your just delaying your life. Once thats done prepare for hell. Hell will never end you just change up different version of it, so how do you want to be miserable? On a positive though doing something other then sitting there will make you feel better.

 

[Dodongo]

Anyone who wants to change who you know you must be is not worth listening to. Just go ahead and be as radically independent as you want, because it will save you a lot of time trying to find yourself later in life.

 

[darkatma]

aww
find a way to move back to California, its basically the best place ever

don't listen to anyone who wants to change who you are, especially if they don't have a valid reason.
and try to keep your interests and set goals for yourself, you'll be happier if you can become independent of your family

 

[Ganon007]

**** what anyone else says and live life the way it makes sense for you. I'm in the process of moving back to CA and nothing and nobody will stop me. All I need is a car and then its off to CA, then I'll stay with my friend for a while until I can get my own place.

 

[Aesir]

Anyone who wants to change who you know you must be is not worth listening to. Just go ahead and be as radically independent as you want, because it will save you a lot of time trying to find yourself later in life.

QFT..

Can't emphasize that enough..>_>

 

[chucklesXcore]

Ok, I have been rather in the blues lately because I feel that certain past mistakes put me in a situation in which I feel weak/helpless.

For one, I was given the chance to live CA if I was able to dorm at a college after staying there a year with my Aunt. However, this didn't work out as there was a mix up with one of one of my high school grades because I was home schooled for one of my high school years. Another thing was my Aunt and Uncle were in he military, so they were very strict about certain things. For instance, they disliked video games with a passion and I wasn't about to throw my games away. Its been one of my personal passions since I my one-digit ages. So, hey didn't have much respect for me, and since I came from a home in which I was greatly sheltered by my parents; I was innocent and naive about many things. My Aunt and Uncle even complained that the way I was quiet and how I walked was shady and they wanted me to even change that! I mean, is it just me or is that somewhat strange now. They wouldn't even teach me to drive because they thought I was immature but never stated why they thought so.

Apart from my Aunt and Uncle, I did have some awesome friends in CA but since I have been gone for a year I feel as if I lost something I never got to have back east. In PA, I never made real friends unlike CA, I met so many people of similar interest.

So now, I am back in PA, which to me, is not where I personally want to be. I also had to stay with my grandparents here and they too, hate video games and I couldn't even play brawl when it came out. I also didn't have the friendships like I had in CA, and I was alone to face these troubles. The best response I get when I try to talk to someone in my family is "Get over it". I mean, if someone is facing a very tough time , how is ok to be so cold like that?

I know a lot that I had to endure was my fault, but in a way, it is also pretty screwed up. I never did anything like drugs, nor did get involved with wrong crowds etc. Yet my parents sheltered me beyond belief(I didn't know what college was until I was 17!) and my dad spoiled me to later then disown me when I was 12; which is a whole other story I won't get into right now. I am over that particular thing now, and I don't mean to complain so much but all I ever wanted to really do was enjoy art/animation and video gaming with others of similar interest. I also love to draw but with how feel it has been rather difficult to do so and I am not just some artist. I attended the Californnia State School of the Arts and got a scholarship from Disney because of my student animation.

So what am I do now? I really feel like I am completely alone to face these problems without even someone to listen. It isn't just get up and leave as still can't drive nor could I walk because not much is even close by.

Also, has anyone had similar problems? Can anyone shed some light on this? I need a hug.

Well, that is quite the unfortunate situation. You really haven't experienced much because of being sheltered so much so you can't just go up and get on your own. Rather tough. However, I know exactly how you feel about being alone. I felt that way pretty recently. I went from a ton of friends that I was close to literally zero. It all happened within two weeks and i had no idea what was going on. But I found that if you aren't close to people, you go out and meet people. Have fun. do what you want. Sure you may not be able to do what you want in your grandparents house, but go out. Do something. Thats my only advice. Pursue meeting/hanging out with people as it eases depression by tenfold and eventually gets you out of it. If theres anybody(and i mean anybody) who might be willing to go do something simple with you then go do it. And don't be all sad around them. Have some fun. Thats what I've decided to do and its been working for me pretty nicely. And I'm sure if you feel alone, you just may very well believe it. Pessimistically you might read this and think "but there is no one" but there are tons of people in the world, there will be someone who will want to do something with you. You just have to get out of the house and try to meet people. I'm not saying talk to random people, but if you go to school...talk to your classmates when you can. Study with them and build some relationships. Even internet sites like myspace and the such can help you meet new people. I don't recommend it, but I've had some success getting some new friends through it. Nothing major, but you'd be surprised what you can find online. And since you're older now you have to do whats best for you and not worry about what everyone else expects of you. I'm not really sure if thats what you're doing, but I got a gist of something along those lines. Like you don't want to upset your grandparents, etc. The thing is, as long as you know you're not doing anything thats bad then its fine do it. Don't let yourself get down because getting down and staying down just leads to a big depression. And its just not good to get that low. If you can't find anyone to hang with(who knows sometimes its hard, it was for me during those two weeks) I'd channel yourself into something you enjoy. You may not have the urge, but force yourself to. I played tennis, made scrapbooks, guitar, piano, etc. Or you can revert back to something that your comfortable doing. For me, it was video games(this apparently isn't an option for you) because when I was younger I was so into them and now I don't play them as much. Its fun to go back to my past sometimes. So just do something that makes you comfortable. Even alone, there will be something. Just keep yourself as busy as possible and don't let yourself get stuck with negative thoughts.

Also, I don't know if you believe in God, but I'm going to throw this out there. Confiding in him helps me out, and reading(yes the bible) sometimes helps me. I read until I find something that speaks to me and then I take that to heart and feel a little better. Its not a one way ticket to happiness like everyone claims it is, but it can really help if you're really trying. But again, I don't know if you do. Just a suggestion in case you do.

 

[Overlord_Ganon]

Also, I don't know if you believe in God, but I'm going to throw this out there. Confiding in him helps me out, and reading(yes the bible) sometimes helps me. I read until I find something that speaks to me and then I take that to heart and feel a little better. Its not a one way ticket to happiness like everyone claims it is, but it can really help if you're really trying. But again, I don't know if you do. Just a suggestion in case you do.[/QUOTE]

Wow, now thats a response that I didn't expect. Yes, I do read the Bible and confide God, in fact, I do more than I ever did before. When I posted this thread I was seeking hope on this unfortunate situation I was enduring and I was also quite upset. But I do believe that what I went through was for purpose and I am spiritually stronger now. However, my situation has changed and things are better now. Thanks.

BTW, Thank you for all who responded, your advice was very helpful.

 

[RizardoLawless]

I can't stand people who can't stand gamers