The Unhappy Thread

[Deleted member]

Sometimes I just wish I can drop out of college. I'm 22 years old I should have graduated by now. But no because I skipped so many semesters because either I couldn't afford it or there were other obligations in my way. I probably won't be able to get out until I'm about 25 or so at the rate I'm going. I'm currently 'laid off' and have been dis-motivated to look for a new job because I've been feeling sick lately. It's bad enough I don't have a major in mind. I wanted to major in cyber crime but then I realize how difficult it is so I just want to major in information technology instead. The problem is, my mother is really pushing me to pursue cyber crime and if I tell her that I want to pursue another field she might be upset? You know how some parents are. She probably wouldn't mind but it's hard to read her mind.

So long story short - I feel like dropping out of college but I would feel like I wasted my time since I was in college for almost 3 years. I'm conflicted as to what major I should pursue in college which is another reason why I feel like dropping out so I don't have to deal with it. I made good grades in high school but my grades in college aren't as good which is yet another reason why I want to blow that popsicle joint. I really have no clue what to do.

 

[Cyn]

Sometimes I just wish I can drop out of college. I'm 22 years old I should have graduated by now. But no because I skipped so many semesters because either I couldn't afford it or there were other obligations in my way. I probably won't be able to get out until I'm about 25 or so at the rate I'm going. I'm currently 'laid off' and have been dis-motivated to look for a new job because I've been feeling sick lately. It's bad enough I don't have a major in mind. I wanted to major in cyber crime but then I realize how difficult it is so I just want to major in information technology instead. The problem is, my mother is really pushing me to pursue cyber crime and if I tell her that I want to pursue another field she might be upset? You know how some parents are. She probably wouldn't mind but it's hard to read her mind.

So long story short - I feel like dropping out of college but I would feel like I wasted my time since I was in college for almost 3 years. I'm conflicted as to what major I should pursue in college which is another reason why I feel like dropping out so I don't have to deal with it. I made good grades in high school but my grades in college aren't as good which is yet another reason why I want to blow that popsicle joint. I really have no clue what to do.

I'd finish at least. You should not worry about what your mom wants. However, if you are that worried about pleasing your mother consider this: would she be happier if you changed your aim or if you lost it altogether? Do what you want to do. If it makes you happy to pursue the easier route and you feel you'll be happy with that choice in the end, then what's stopping you? You have already put in 3 years. It would be asinine to quit now. Just suck it up and finish. Would you rather know 10 years down the road that you finished something you started or would you rather look back 10 years later and regret that you never finished your schooling? I'm not trying to tell you what to do, just giving you an idea on how I'd perceive the situation if I found myself in your shoes. Good luck.

 

[ZeldaMaster]

Sometimes I just wish I can drop out of college. I'm 22 years old I should have graduated by now. But no because I skipped so many semesters because either I couldn't afford it or there were other obligations in my way. I probably won't be able to get out until I'm about 25 or so at the rate I'm going. I'm currently 'laid off' and have been dis-motivated to look for a new job because I've been feeling sick lately. It's bad enough I don't have a major in mind. I wanted to major in cyber crime but then I realize how difficult it is so I just want to major in information technology instead. The problem is, my mother is really pushing me to pursue cyber crime and if I tell her that I want to pursue another field she might be upset? You know how some parents are. She probably wouldn't mind but it's hard to read her mind.

So long story short - I feel like dropping out of college but I would feel like I wasted my time since I was in college for almost 3 years. I'm conflicted as to what major I should pursue in college which is another reason why I feel like dropping out so I don't have to deal with it. I made good grades in high school but my grades in college aren't as good which is yet another reason why I want to blow that popsicle joint. I really have no clue what to do.

I feel you... I had to withdraw from my college because of anxiety and stress problems. Have to go back there next semester. Doesn't help that Berkeley is a depressing as hell city as well

 

[Dr. Slam]

I'm extremely shy around females... I haven't had even a female acquaintance since becoming a teenager. I'm 19 now, and I still don't have any female friends/acquaintances. At this point I fear I'll never have a girlfriend.

On top of what Rawkstar was saying, don't worry about having a girlfriend. If you search too frantically you might get into a relationship that you realize isn't what you really want. Just try to socialize with the opposite sex and you'll find the one when the time is right.

 

[Cyn]

I'm extremely shy around females... I haven't had even a female acquaintance since becoming a teenager. I'm 19 now, and I still don't have any female friends/acquaintances. At this point I fear I'll never have a girlfriend.

On top of what Rawkstar was saying, don't worry about having a girlfriend. If you search too frantically you might get into a relationship that you realize isn't what you really want. Just try to socialize with the opposite sex and you'll find the one when the time is right.

Also don't try too hard. I personally find that unattractive. Just be confident in being yourself.

 

[StaffofSmashing]

You know that time in Middle School where everyone seems against you? Well I do. My best friends turned on me, I found out my girlfriend had been cheating on my for 2 months, my dad is dying from cancer, people threaten to kill me, and I just feel like hiding in a corner until it all flies by. I don't want to have to worry about my dad dying. I dont have to worry about all the death threats I get. But I do. Idn what to do?

 

[Cyn]

You know that time in Middle School where everyone seems against you? Well I do. My best friends turned on me, I found out my girlfriend had been cheating on my for 2 months, my dad is dying from cancer, people threaten to kill me, and I just feel like hiding in a corner until it all flies by. I don't want to have to worry about my dad dying. I dont have to worry about all the death threats I get. But I do. Idn what to do?

Let me start this off by saying that I am really sorry about your dad. There is nothing I can really say that will bring you any comfort. So my heart goes out to you for that. This rest of this might come off as kinda harsh and non-caring but I can assure you the opposite is true. If your best friends turned on you, then they were never true friends to begin with (assuming you did not do something to push them away). If your gf is "cheating" on you (I put that in quotes because I don't consider dating in middle school serious), then you are better off without her. Especially if she "cheated" on you and she knew you were going through a lot with your dad and whatnot. If people are really threatening to kill you, then you should probably report it to the office of your school. Nowadays, you have to take threats like that seriously. I'm sorry but it's true. Again, sorry about your father, I hope he is able to pull through it. Stay strong.

 

[SomewhatMystia]

I'd (depending on how they are in your area) go one step further and report it to the police, to be perfectly honest. Seriously, death threats aren't something to muck about with.

 

[The Fail Tracer]

I'm sorry that I have no advice that hasn't been already brought up, Staff. I definitely agree with the last two posts, and I hope everything works out for you.

In case this isn't the best time to be posting this, I'll put my problem in a spoiler so it doesn't really interfere with the previous issue:

Spoiler

In short, I did something really stupid/insane/horrible that I want to confess about, but even though I have a conscience full of guilt, I don't know how to bring it up.

Basically, back in sixth grade, when summer vacation was about to begin, I was more furious with my stepfather (and the whole world) than ever before. It wasn't the worst punishment I could have gotten, but all of the things I had to put up with while he was in my life just kept stacking up in my mind and the punishment I got for not being able to start his three-wheeler made me snap.

I was grounded from the internet for the whole summer vacation because I wasn't strong enough to pull that goddamn three-wheeler string.

Soon afterwards, my mother somehow convinced him to let me stay the summer over at my grandparents'. At around that time, my grandfather was trying to build something (I would assume), so he bought a huge amount of thick glass sheets that he set out by the garage until he was ready to use them.

In the middle of that night, I was still enraged and depressed. At the time, I felt like that was justification enough for what I did that night: I took a hammer, snuck out to the garage, and smashed all of the glass sheets to smithereens.

Please keep in mind that my grandparents never did anything wrong to me. On the contrary, they loved me and cared for me immensely all my life. That's why I feel like a pile-of-**** scumbag for doing that. The worst part is, even when Grandpa told me that he wasn't angry and that he wouldn't punish me in any way if I just came clean, I still lied to him about it.

And he still let it go. However, now that he's at higher risk of heart attacks, and now that it just popped into my head a bit ago, I feel more ashamed than anyone can imagine.

I am determined that I will confess to him about what I did before he passes... But I'm not sure how. If anyone has any advice, or if it turns out I should let it go, please let me know.

 

[MewtwoMaster2002]

You know that time in Middle School where everyone seems against you? Well I do. My best friends turned on me, I found out my girlfriend had been cheating on my for 2 months, my dad is dying from cancer, people threaten to kill me, and I just feel like hiding in a corner until it all flies by. I don't want to have to worry about my dad dying. I dont have to worry about all the death threats I get. But I do. Idn what to do?

As others have said, report death threats to the police. Those shouldn't be taken lightly no matter who's giving them.

I'm sorry that I have no advice that hasn't been already brought up, Staff. I definitely agree with the last two posts, and I hope everything works out for you.

In case this isn't the best time to be posting this, I'll put my problem in a spoiler so it doesn't really interfere with the previous issue:

Spoiler

In short, I did something really stupid/insane/horrible that I want to confess about, but even though I have a conscience full of guilt, I don't know how to bring it up.

Basically, back in sixth grade, when summer vacation was about to begin, I was more furious with my stepfather (and the whole world) than ever before. It wasn't the worst punishment I could have gotten, but all of the things I had to put up with while he was in my life just kept stacking up in my mind and the punishment I got for not being able to start his three-wheeler made me snap.

I was grounded from the internet for the whole summer vacation because I wasn't strong enough to pull that goddamn three-wheeler string.

Soon afterwards, my mother somehow convinced him to let me stay the summer over at my grandparents'. At around that time, my grandfather was trying to build something (I would assume), so he bought a huge amount of thick glass sheets that he set out by the garage until he was ready to use them.

In the middle of that night, I was still enraged and depressed. At the time, I felt like that was justification enough for what I did that night: I took a hammer, snuck out to the garage, and smashed all of the glass sheets to smithereens.

Please keep in mind that my grandparents never did anything wrong to me. On the contrary, they loved me and cared for me immensely all my life. That's why I feel like a pile-of-**** scumbag for doing that. The worst part is, even when Grandpa told me that he wasn't angry and that he wouldn't punish me in any way if I just came clean, I still lied to him about it.

And he still let it go. However, now that he's at higher risk of heart attacks, and now that it just popped into my head a bit ago, I feel more ashamed than anyone can imagine.

I am determined that I will confess to him about what I did before he passes... But I'm not sure how. If anyone has any advice, or if it turns out I should let it go, please let me know.

I'd say just find an opportunity to talk to your grandfather, confess, and apologize. He gave you a chance earlier, so I think he will be understanding and forgiving.

 

[The Fail Tracer]

Thank you. I finally got around to doing exactly as you said, and he wasn't angry at all.

 

[SomewhatMystia]

Good to hear that everything went well!

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

Sometimes I feel like just lying down and dying or something

I feel like just giving up, but can't do anything about it

Life in the foreseeable future isn't going to get better

and the only reason an animal is compelled to survive is because they want to experience something enjoying

If they know their is no more enjoyment to be had, would they be compelled to live on?

 

[Cyn]

I don't think animals survive because it is enjoyable. They survive purely because it is instinctual to do so.

As far as your feelings, it helps to have goals.

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

I don't think animals survive because it is enjoyable. They survive purely because it is instinctual to do so.

As far as your feelings, it helps to have goals.

I actually just figured out that wasn't completely true

Read some articles about instincts

 

[Cyn]

I actually just figured out that wasn't completely true

Read some articles about instincts

In that case ignore the first part and just make some goals.

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

I think it's a little late in my life for that

Almost 30 and have still never been with a girl other than holding hands once. Almost all of my friends have gone their separate ways so I no longer have anyone I can just hang out with

And I hate my job. Plus, I realize I'm going to end up repeating the same tasks over and over again for the rest of my life

I do NOTHING except work, so working is my life. And I hate working

 

[Cyn]

I think it's a little late in my life for that

Almost 30 and have still never been with a girl other than holding hands once. Almost all of my friends have gone their separate ways so I no longer have anyone I can just hang out with

And I hate my job. Plus, I realize I'm going to end up repeating the same tasks over and over again for the rest of my life

I do NOTHING except work, so working is my life. And I hate working

I know it sounds cliché but it's never too late. I see men and women in their 40s and 50s going back to school and changing their lives significantly (I work on a college campus). You just have to be ready and willing to make a change. If you lack the drive and determination to make the change, it'll never happen. It'll be hard, but it'll be worth it in the end. I'm not saying school is the answer for you, but if you want to make a change you have to make the change. You can't wait for change to happen. If you're just sitting there waiting for it to happen you'll likely be waiting forever. It's up to you.

Good luck.

 

[Froggy]

I think it's a little late in my life for that

Almost 30 and have still never been with a girl other than holding hands once. Almost all of my friends have gone their separate ways so I no longer have anyone I can just hang out with

And I hate my job. Plus, I realize I'm going to end up repeating the same tasks over and over again for the rest of my life

I do NOTHING except work, so working is my life. And I hate working

Nope

 

[Smooth Criminal]

ffs Froggy don't solicit that ****.

Smooth Criminal

 

[Froggy]

ffs Froggy don't solicit that ****.

Smooth Criminal

Why not?

He is an adult. He can make his own decisions.

 

[Cyn]

To add to what Cyndane said.....

Don't add that to what I said.

 

[BlueX]

That moment when you buy a pre owned Nintendo Wii just to find out that it's one of the later models that dosen't support Gamecube games and controllers.

I would like to add that the box looks like it should be a old black model but inside it is a family edition model.

 

[Teran]

@ Froggy what you described is illegal activity, never mind the general inappropriateness of it.

Encouraging illegal activity is a big nono on this site, we take a similar stance on things like drugs. It doesn't matter if he's an adult, not everyone on the site is, and your post isn't exactly an example of life advice we want hanging around the forums.

There are a million other places for certain types of adult conversation on the internet, Smashboards not being one of them.

 

[Froggy]

@ Teran , Smooth Criminal, Cyndane

Whats the matter with you people. You are actively helping to prevent Psychoincarnate lose his virginity. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

 

[Space Stranger]

@ Teran , Smooth Criminal, Cyndane

Whats the matter with you people. You are actively helping to prevent Psychoincarnate lose his virginity. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

Quit while your ahead, this won't end well.

 

[A Very Nice Dishwasher]

Sophomore year! It sucks. I wish it would just end already. I still have 8 weeks of this crap left, and it's just awful.

 

[Froggy]

I lost my headphones on my way to work. Its going to be a misrable work day today.

 

[Dastardly Ridleylash]

Well, **** me. I get off the bus to get home and what do I do? ****ing trip, cut my hand open and drop my laptop on concrete.

And today was going so well, too....;_;

 

[BlueX]

I found out that my Mum has cheated on my Dad and i can't believe this is actually happening. Please help or say something that will make me happy...

 

[Deleted member 269706]

Kinda weird that in 18 days, I will probably never see 95% of the people I know ever again. It's funny how much you care about someone until you never see them again. Then it's just another memory.

 

[The Fail Tracer]

I think I have truly reached my downfall. Everybody in the whole world hates me, and once I get back to college, it won't get much better. So what if people might occasionally say they like me? Those are empty words to me and they always will be. Even words of love from the family are bull****. I'm so tired of people being two-faced to me, and I'm supposed to just take it. Why doesn't anyone just say it straight out? Everyone thinks I'm just a waste of space and resources, but ****ing why? Why does everyone feel that way about me? I guess I'll never find out. Someone please just end my life.

 

[Noso]

The last girl I truly loved left me years ago and to this day I'm still a mental mess that has problems trusting people, problems with self-esteem, and go into a varying state of depression if I fail or lose at something (I could win 9 in a row and then fail twice back to back and instantly forget how well I was doing prior leading me to think I'm quite literally the worst)

 

[Froggy]

I found out that my Mum has cheated on my Dad and i can't believe this is actually happening. Please help or say something that will make me happy...

My dad cheated on my mom too so these things do happen. My advice is talk to your mom and try to get an explination for why she did this. You often find there is more to the story than whats at the surface with these things.

 

[BlueX]

It turns out that my Dad may of overreacted. They are still together and happy. My Dad is going to the docters to see about recent things that has happened to him.

 

[Cyn]

@ Teran , Smooth Criminal, Cyndane

Whats the matter with you people. You are actively helping to prevent Psychoincarnate lose his virginity. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

Without instigating an argument, let me preface this by saying that I believe that everyone is entitled to their opinion. That said, as @ Teran said, this is a family friendly site. There are rules forbidding that type of thing. It's not my place to scold you on the rules so I won't try and correct you. Also, I wasn't trying to prevent @ PsychoIncarnate from doing anything. The only thing at this point that I'd try to prevent is him following your terrible advice and catching a disease.

 

[PsychoIncarnate]

Wtf happened in here?

 

[ZeldaMaster]

Wow this got awkward real fast.

 

[Cyn]

Wow this got awkward real fast.

Sorry. It was not intentional.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

Anxiety is hitting me hard due to my presentation tomorrow...