The Unhappy Thread

[BlueX]

I am completely sick of my parent's fighting mostly all the time. They were completely happy until summer of 2014 happen where they just suddenly just argued most of the time. It get's really intense for me and probably for my brother as well... they are one of the nicest parents i ever had and i really love them but as of right i have huge fear over them as if something could bad happen.

I will be talking to them probably tomorrow and i need help of what i should say or at least what a 14 year old should say... and if i ever showed my parent's this i just want to say i mean no offence to you i am just really worried and want to make sure that both of you are happy.

 

[Froggy]

It is the strangest thing.

As someone who has always been critical of feminsts, roll my eyes whenever I hear people proclaiming how bad a problem sexist against women is, haates our chivalry inspired culture and gets upset at the latitude we give to women over men(especially **** allegations), its humbling your thoughts on these things change when it happens to someone close to you.

My girlfriend was hiding in the bathroom today avoiding one of her male co-workers, after some probbing she confessed to me that he had tried to force her to have sex with him around two years ago. I asked her if she reported him, and she scoffed at the idea, being convinced nothing productive would come of that. We talked and I got upset when she told me that she was at fault too, its ironic as something I've argued repeated times on the internet is how women need to take responsiblity for their part in a sexual conflicts. She very dismissively told me that its something she has to move on from and that its not even the first time its happen. So obviously my next question is has she been ***** before? And she asks me to not probe any furthur and that we'll talk about it later.

What a scarey thought. The idea that this girl I'm really into wsa violated by another man against her will really pisses me up and it furthur upsets me that she accepts it as if its a normal part of human life. I am just going to when she talks to me later and likely tell me that she has been ***** before, and never tried to bring anyone to justice. At the end of the convo she writes to me "I really never wanted u to know about this side of me(with one of the sad emoticons)". I had to re ensure her that none of this is her fault sigh.

Well I'll know later I guess.

Edit: Turns out she hasn't been *****(thank God) just assaulted more than once. My understanding is that both times were a case of her going over to the guys house and the guy being adamantly physically persuasive instead of forcibly trying to **** her, so I underatand why she didn't report. Anyways we're all good and I'm happy to be moving on.

 

[Froggy]

Lol I guess people are real happy this week.

I was playing class mode on my 3DS last night trying to unlock Custom moves. And I know with Doctor Mario I got both Fast Capsue and the Mega Vitamin on the result screen, but when I went to pick my Customs neither of them were there. I am scared some stupid glitch has happened and now I won't be able to unlocl either of those customs ever. Sucks because those were the two I really wanted too

sigh

 

[Daybreak]

Lately I've been feeling like I'm caught between a wall and a hard place and I don't know why. It's strange, nothing terrible is going on in my life, maybe it's the lack of friends I have? I prefer quality over quantity.

Anyways things lately have just seemed bleh. Looking for some positive advice, I'm a pretty upbeat guy so it's strange to be back in this weird state of mind. I feel it's sometimes healthy to be sad, just to feel your way through the dark and find brighter days.

 

[BlueX]

Lately I've been feeling like I'm caught between a wall and a hard place and I don't know why. It's strange, nothing terrible is going on in my life, maybe it's the lack of friends I have? I prefer quality over quantity.

Anyways things lately have just seemed bleh. Looking for some positive advice, I'm a pretty upbeat guy so it's strange to be back in this weird state of mind. I feel it's sometimes it's healthy to be sad, just to feel your way through the dark and find brighter days.

May not be the best advice but has anything bad happened that made you to feel like this? Do you go to SSB tournaments? If so try to make some friends in tournaments! Just be nice and talk about SSB and your interests.

 

[JayTheUnseen]

I'm an attention *****, and it makes me feel bad. So one minute I'm quiet, then the next I'm stating my issues, then I wish I hadn't mentioned them...
I seriously need to sort myself out.

 

[Daybreak]

May not be the best advice but has anything bad happened that made you to feel like this? Do you go to SSB tournaments? If so try to make some friends in tournaments! Just be nice and talk about SSB and your interests.

Thanks for that. I'm still not the most entirely sure about where my problem lies, but I haven't been to any smash tournaments in a while, maybe I just need to get out more? (I could be a bit more social.) Also just had an amazing nap and for some reason I feel like it's worked wonders. I think communication and rest will fix some of my troubles. It felt good to vent a bit, even if I didn't find the solution.

I read into your troubles as well and as someone who has been through the parent problems I can give you some decent advice. Honesty is always the best policy, be up front at first. If nothing seems to connect all you can do is lead by example. Be the change you want to see in others and you will fact see results. But don't force someone to change, because they need to want to change on their own. Be the best person you can be and some of your problems may fix themselves.

 

[BlueX]

Thanks for that. I'm still not the most entirely sure about where my problem lies, but I haven't been to any smash tournaments in a while, maybe I just need to get out more? (I could be a bit more social.) Also just had an amazing nap and for some reason I feel like it's worked wonders. I think communication and rest will fix some of my troubles. It felt good to vent a bit, even if I didn't find the solution.

I read into your troubles as well and as someone who has been through the parent problems I can give you some decent advice. Honesty is always the best policy, be up front at first. If nothing seems to connect all you can do is lead by example. Be the change you want to see in others and you will fact see results. But don't force someone to change, because they need to want to change on their own. Be the best person you can be and some of your problems may fix themselves.

Thank you for the advice and i hope you get better.

 

[AnchorTea]

Is it normal if you're never happy?

 

[BlueX]

Is it normal if you're never happy?

What is making you unhappy?

 

[AnchorTea]

What is making you unhappy?

Idk. I just never feel happy, sometimes I just don't know what it is.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

Idk. I just never feel happy, sometimes I just don't know what it is.

I feel ya man. I've been in this state of gray for a seemingly infinite amount of time. There's just nothing that great left in the world, or so it seems, and fate doesn't seem to be working in our favor. Maybe you're lacking someone to love. Maybe you don't have the choices you wanted. Maybe you're just full of regrets. Its a weird feeling. Sometimes I'll be happy for a night, or a day, but it never seems to last.

 

[AnchorTea]

Maybe you're just full of regrets.

Maybe. I tend to regret things that I shouldn't.

 

[Elyssa Xey Hexen]

$30k in student loans over my life
$1.8k in medical fees due in 10 days

Yay! :D

 

[Froggy]

I'm thinking of dropping Smash 4 until the 1.06 patch. Just watched another major with Diddy Grand Finals, in fact top 3 was Diddy, Diddy, Shiek. I'm sick of it. Its like Melee all over again, I had thought the balance in the game was going to be the Equivalent of USF4, but its looking like Arcade Edition 2011.

 

[AnchorTea]

I'm thinking of dropping Smash 4 until the 1.06 patch. Just watched another major with Diddy Grand Finals, in fact top 3 was Diddy, Diddy, Shiek. I'm sick of it. Its like Melee all over again, I had thought the balance in the game was going to be the Equivalent of USF4, but its looking like Arcade Edition 2011.

I feel ya. When I lose to a Diddy or Sonic I just say to myself: "Soon... Your pride will vanish...."

 

[Froggy]

I feel ya. When I lose to a Diddy or Sonic I just say to myself: "Soon... Your pride will vanish...."

They (Diddy especially) need to be nerffed hard in the upcoming patch. Nintendo conired that there will be balance changes in the new version, I wish they had mentioned Diddy specfically though.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

Do you ever feel like your friends don't love you as much as you love them?

 

[BSXDrayden]

I really want to ask this cute smasher I know out but she lives in another city a wee while away and we've only been talking for about a week (and known each other vaguely for only about 2 or 3). This unsureness as to how she may react and the potential of destroying a new budding friendship really worries me. I've also not dated in a while so I'm scared that I'd mess everything up; even if I do ask and she says yes.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

I really want to ask this cute smasher I know out but she lives in another city a wee while away and we've only been talking for about a week (and known each other vaguely for only about 2 or 3). This unsureness as to how she may react and the potential of destroying a new budding friendship really worries me. I've also not dated in a while so I'm scared that I'd mess everything up; even if I do ask and she says yes.

The biggest regrets in life aren't the things we did do, but rather the things that we didn't. I'd say go for it. You won't get anywhere by doing nothing. And even if things don't work out, I'm sure you'll learn something.

 

[MewtwoMaster2002]

My mom tells my brother to not rely on one job he applied for and to look for other opportunities. She compares it to me and says I'm just waiting for a reply from the Navy about Officer Training School while not looking for other opportunities...as if applying for a bunch of other jobs isn't looking for opportunities. People who are hiring just don't want me.

 

[Froggy]

I really want to ask this cute smasher I know out but she lives in another city a wee while away and we've only been talking for about a week (and known each other vaguely for only about 2 or 3). This unsureness as to how she may react and the potential of destroying a new budding friendship really worries me. I've also not dated in a while so I'm scared that I'd mess everything up; even if I do ask and she says yes.

If you're that anxous about it then my advice to you is to ask her out somewere that isn't dateish so isn't doesn't appear as if you're actually asking her out. Just casually invite her somewhere.

 

[BSXDrayden]

If you're that anxous about it then my advice to you is to ask her out somewere that isn't dateish so isn't doesn't appear as if you're actually asking her out. Just casually invite her somewhere.

The problem with that is the distance. Because she lives in a different city, I'm not sure how I can easily casually invite her somewhere unless it was like "hey come join us for a weekly or something idk".

 

[Froggy]

The problem with that is the distance. Because she lives in a different city, I'm not sure how I can easily casually invite her somewhere unless it was like "hey come join us for a weekly or something idk".

Invite her to a party or any event where the focus isn't just on the two of you.

 

[MonkBard]

Well let's see... I'm broke, unemployed, no driver's license so I can't go anywhere without my grandma, and I live in a hick town in the middle of nowhere and I wanna gtfo asap. Still trying to stay positive, though, and honestly striving to get into the competitive Smash scene is helping with that.

 

[ZeldaMaster]

I'm extremely shy around females... I haven't had even a female acquaintance since becoming a teenager. I'm 19 now, and I still don't have any female friends/acquaintances. At this point I fear I'll never have a girlfriend.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

I'm extremely shy around females... I haven't had even a female acquaintance since becoming a teenager. I'm 19 now, and I still don't have any female friends/acquaintances. At this point I fear I'll never have a girlfriend.

I used to be that way. Anxiety is a killer, I would assume you have some form of it. I was the same way up through my sophomore year of high school. I suppose throughout middle school I always had a few female friends, but my group was dominated by guy friends. Now as a senior, I'm doing a lot better. The trick I found is to fake your confidence until it's real. You have to pretend that you aren't shy, pretend that you aren't scared or nervous or whatever it is that you're feeling. Even if you feel judged, YOU HAVE TO IGNORE IT. Seriously, just talk to girls as you would talk to a guy. "Hey, did you see that movie?" "How'd you feel about that math test?" "What did you do this weekend?" Anything and everything works, just don't make it too specific or something that she wouldn't be interested in (ie: Smash Bros). If you're scared of them judging you, don't. Think about when someone is really shy around you. You don't judge them or think less of them for it, if anything you sympathize for them. Girls are the same way. Anyone who judges you for being shy isn't someone to spend time with. Heh, problem is...even with a lot of female friends, I still don't have a girlfriend. Haven't for about 2 years now. But that's my fault, I either wait too long, or like the girls who are taken.

On a completely unrelated note, a friend is mad at me because I was under the influence and sent a shirtless snapchat to his girlfriend. Thing is, I sent that same snapchat to almost everyone on my friends list. Not to mention some other guys I was with sent shirtless pics to her as well (we were all shirtless okay, nothing gay, we were drunk), but I'm the only one he's mad at. Worst part is, he refuses to admit that he's the jealous type (even though everyone, including his girlfriend acknowledges it), so bringing that up didn't help the situation.

 

[Space Stranger]

I hate parties.

 

[DarkBlueSpark]

I'm extremely shy around females... I haven't had even a female acquaintance since becoming a teenager. I'm 19 now, and I still don't have any female friends/acquaintances. At this point I fear I'll never have a girlfriend.

Be more outgoing I used to be the same way, didn't talk to girls much, but I got over my shyness. Get loud, get funny.

I hate parties.

So do I, I just go for the food

 

[MewtwoMaster2002]

Depending on the type of party and the people I know, I may or may not enjoy the party. If it's the type where people just get drunk, then I don't enjoy those.

I'm unhappy because I feel directionless in life.

 

[Deleted member 269706]

As far as parties go, I like them if it's just with a few friends. Like getting drunk or high with a few close friends is pretty fun, but when there's a billion people, it's the worst environment ever, regardless of how sober or tanked you are. And regular partiers where there are no drugs are just as fun. Seriously though, I'm not much of a partier (if I can even be labeled as one), but I'm not strictly against them either. I do have a lot of friends who completely against any of that stuff, and to be completely honest, those straightedge people are just as obnoxious as the partiers. Like anything else, there's no clear right or wrong answer, each side has it's advantages and disadvantages. Unfortunately, this conflict can, and will hurt friendships.

 

[Cyn]

One of my coworkers just managed to get our superior to dump a truckload of work onto me. Work that should have been done by my coworker.

 

[MewtwoMaster2002]

Mom keeps finding things to argue about. First, she tells me to stop looking for admin assistant jobs because $10-15/hr is not enough for a college graduate even though it would be better than part-time work that's $9.50/hr for maybe 13 hours a week. Then she's mad at me for having acne, which I don't really have any other than scars from past acne that got treated. She then assumes I don't eat vegetables because of it when I've been conscious about having to eat vegetables since high school for health reasons. She then assumes I don't shower. All this because I supposedly have a lot of acne. >_>

 

[Cyn]

That is what mom's are good for. Get used to it.

 

[Dastardly Ridleylash]

Well, my WiiU is being a PITA at the moment; I can only get as far as the screen where you need to enter the card suits because my Gamepad doesn't seem to respond to my inputs. I can tap it as much as I want, but it won't do anything.

Colour me unpleased.

 

[Teran]

@Rawkstar and members in general, please don't talk about drugs

 

[Deleted member 269706]

@Rawkstar and members in general, please don't talk about drugs

Yessir, sorry sir.

 

[Cyn]

Yessir, sorry sir.

Tsk tsk.

 

[Claire Diviner]

Depression: It's a hell of a thing to deal with, and it's never easy.

 

[BSXDrayden]

A friend of mine gets overly excited sometimes and she sends me lots of messages when she gets like this. This wouldn't be a problem except that I struggle to keep up and that it exhausts me really quickly. I've asked her to calm down with the number of messages before and she's apologised and tried her best to calm down. But she can't help it and does it again later on. I always feel bad too asking her to slow down and not send as many because she always feels guilty for doing it. Urgh, I dunno what to do.