So just some random chat that I wanted to get off my head and get you guys advice on.
As you all know I'm working a lot more lately. Busting my ***. And the store manager (who I loved to death) was working two stores, but now she has left to go to the other store and the assistant manager (who I also really like) has been moved up to manager.
I know paperwork, have the hour availability, all the good stuff, etc to get the position. And she knows I want it. However the person in front of me is another girl. While she's an admittedly hard worker and we're friends I have some issues with her getting it over me. I wouldn't be so mad about it, seeing as she does do her job, but she does have a more problematic past than me.
See she once thought she'd get assistant over the girl who is now manager. She went off. She cursed out the old manager, the district manager, and the now manager as well. She literally called the district manager a c word and she's the front runner.
Do I have a right to be angry if she gets it over me based on this alone? She also was there when the store got robbed twice in a row, used to hang out way too much on the clock, and since becoming full time recently hasn't really worked a full time schedule.
I'm also full time now and have no intentions of not doing that.
Again, am I right to harbor at least a little anger if I don't get picked? Or am I being an *******?
While it's fine to be disappointed when you don't get what you were hoping for in any situation, I don't see any immediate problem with her getting it over you, at least from the perspective of an average employer.
Thing is, as long as she does her job and works hard, she's just as viable as you are. I also don't see what her being there when the store was robbed has to do with anything if her job isn't security. Especially if those robberies were aggressive ones. Stuff like that just happens. If those robberies were the direct result of her not being where she should be, then I'd understand, but you just said she was there when it got robbed - most likely just being busy with her work. If anything, if it was an aggressive robbery and she had been harmed during it, it'd probably be the company paying her compensation, if she had work insurance.
In terms of cursing off her employers, that probably would be a strike against her, but if it was one time and it was a while ago, then they really won't care, especially if she has proven herself since then. This is especially true if the company can't afford to let go of anyone. Heck, they may even think of giving her the position because, for one, she seems qualified for it, but also because they know she might be really upset and cause a fuss if they don't. Therefore, it's a win-win to give her the position anyway, from their perspective.
Is that fair? From a moral perspective, no. But from a business perspective, it may be the most practical solution, especially if they feel you would be better positioned elsewhere.
So in my opinion, while it's fine to be inwardly disappointed and vent that a bit with other friends, I don't think it's fair to hold a grudge or get angry at her or anything, especially in the long term. And especially if you consider her a friend. If she gets the job, just accept that, and who knows, maybe she'll screw up early on and then you'll be next in line. Honestly, saying you want to get angry over it makes me think you would run the risk of reacting in the same way she did when she didn't get that position last time.
In any case, I hope you do get the job you want in the end, but try not to let it get to you if you don't get it. That's just the way it is in the job market. You win some, you lose some.