Ok... So I am currently with a big dilemma.
You see, today It is my uncle's birthday (my mother's brother, not the other uncle who has the House with a swimming pool), and for the most part I was basically considering to just not go at all since my uncles deeply despise me and even went on to say some days ago in front of everyone that nobody gives a **** about me.
Sounds like a simple and fair solution.
However, my cousins have texted me saying that they are sad I didn't go have lunch with them as these past days I've went with them they have felt really good with my presence and all that. So right now I'm not sure if I should go dinner with them tonight just for my cousins while trying my best to deal with my uncles or just not going at the cost of dissapointing my cousins.
Since most of you here are around 25 to 30 years old, I was thinking ya'll could give me some feedback about this due to the amount of experience you all seem to have.
In my opinion, I wouldn't go, especially when he said no one gives a **** about you. As for your cousins, so then they are disappointed, but you shouldn't have to bend over backwards and visit your abusive uncle just to make others happy, but think about yourself as well. And bluntly, if they try to guilt trip you for that later, they aren't that much better. You can spend future days with them, but if they won't understand and accept it, it's on them, not you.
In short, don't bend over backwards and visit your abusive uncle just to make someone else happy. It's not healthy.
Of course all this comes from someone who decided to cut most of the family out of her life as they weren't exactly nice people and has gotten quite a few trust issues and grew slightly bitter about such topics as a result, so take it with a grain of salt. I'm biased when it comes to this.