Well, it seems everything is getting
now
The version of virtualbox I was using was 4.3.3.....it had a check update feature so i never went to check if I had the newer version, but apparently, that version was released in 2013 while this year, they released 5.0.2.....I was a lot behind.
That version added cool stuff like more virtualisations features and even support for usb 3.0 (I have 6 ports in 3.0 so yay!).
But I also found that doing very simple step (adding me to a group) allows me to have virtualbox use my usb devices including my phone and in fact, tyhe newer version can finally run itunes.....
So I fianlly solved the problem of not being able to run itunes (you can send music and ringtones with it so yay!).
All with a shiny ssd and windows 10 genuine.
Yeah, I don;t think I can ask better