No, they weren't offensive enough for me to be offended by it.
The Aincrad arc is incredibly flawed but ultimately it's what I like to call "junk food anime".
When you stop and think about it, yes, it's got a lot of problems that add up. However, when I first watched it, I had my brain turned off for the most part, and just used the show as an excuse to eat microwave popcorn, or as something to watch while I ate breakfast. And for that purpose, the show was fine enough. It wasn't like Alfheim where it had a bunch of stuff that was just plain weird or made me feel uncomfortable (the tasteless fanservice was honestly pretty tame and honestly, it's a common trope of the shonen anime genre so unless it's more like what happens in the Alfheim arc, it's the kind of thing I'm pretty desensitised to). At the end of the day, it hasn't got very compelling characterisation and it botches up it's story concept part way through, but the fights are fun to watch, the environments are nice to look at (as in "I'd love to explore them in an actually good video game" nice), and the soundtrack is legitimately captivating at times. And I can say I at least liked some of the characters on a surface level.
I personally think "SAO and ALO are terrible games" are like the most insignificant, bottom of the barrel, "I REALLY just wanna rip on SAO" criticisms out there.
If SAO and ALO were good games but all of the other problems those arcs had still applied, it wouldn't change anything. The story would still be the same, Kirito would still be a Gary Stu, and Asuna would still be getting her character butchered and then literally getting molested later on. Likewise, if SAO the show had excellent characterisation and story and all that jazz, but the games it was set in were still badly designed, it would still be a good show. Ultimately, SAO is not about MMO video games. It is about a boy named Kirito and his "struggle" in a life-or-death survival situation, and him growing out of his anti-social behaviour for most of the show. The video game setting is just that, a setting. SAO is as much about MMO video games as Doctor Who is about time travel (spoiler alert: Doctor Who is not about time travel - which isn't me saying it's a bad show, far from it, it's just really not about that).
If people are willing to ignore poorly told stories and characterisation if a game is fun to play in the video game medium (even though that's actually more important to a video game, then having a well designed video game in your show that isn't about video games), then surely the reverse is true of the anime medium. SAO may take place in some poorly designed video games, but that fact actually has little to no bearing on how good or bad the show is. I guarantee you, if SAO was a really good anime, NOBODY would be talking about how poorly designed the games in it are nearly as much. Prime example of this is actually the Mother's Rosario arc. You could tell that entire story the same, but instead of Asuna meeting Yuki and interacting with her in a video game, she meets her in an online chat room or on a social media website - and the story and it's themes could be conveyed just the same, point for point, with very little adjustments needing to be made.